By Brad Browning
From The Ex Factor Guide
If you can’t tell for sure if you’re over analyzing your ex’s behavior, then check this out…
The Ex Factor Guide
Should You Unfriend Your Ex from Facebook? (If You Want Them Back)
To delete your ex or not to delete your ex? That is the question…
Today, I’ll tell you about a dilemma that many people are faced with after a breakup and that’s whether or not to delete or “unfriend” your ex from your Facebook, Twitter, and other social media accounts.
Should you delete your ex from your social media?
The short answer is No and that’s because if there is even the slightest possibility that you want your ex to be apart of your life again someday, you should not delete or unfollow them.
Maybe you’ve heard about the ‘no contact’ strategy that I advocate in my Ex Factor Guide program.
For those of you who haven’t, the no contact phase is a period of time after a breakup where you have no communication with your ex whatsoever.
This means no calls, texts, late night visits, liking their Facebook posts or showing up at their door.
The general idea behind it is to give your ex a taste of life without you.
If he or she is like most people then they’ll quickly start to miss you and the negative memories that caused your ex to break up with you in the first place will fade away and be replaced by nostalgia and the more positive aspects of the relationship.
Once these feelings have peaked, your ex will be much more likely to respond to your attempts to rebuild a new relationship together.
So how are you supposed to comply to the no contact rule and still have your ex on your Facebook or Twitter accounts? Well, it’s not easy, but it is possible.
You need to understand that if you are actively practicing the no-contact period as a way to get your ex back, then Facebook stalking them is not acceptable.
This may sound harsh, but it’s really for your own good.
Do you really want to be checking in on who they are hanging out with or trying to read between the lines of their status updates?
For example, let’s say that they post about how happy they are feeling today, it’s likely that you’re going to question why they are happy and create scenarios in for yourself.
Maybe they met someone new or could they be thinking about me? It’s not healthy to do this type of overanalyzing.
Let’s say that you want to keep an eye on what they’re doing and who they’re talking to.
This may seem reasonable but the truth is that in the long run this will only hurt you and your progress with resetting yourself and it could also easily become obsessive and draining.
Forget what your ex is doing and focus on your own actions, because that’s what’s actually going to help you win them back.
Instead of deleting your ex altogether, simply go to your account settings and choose to not include your ex in your newsfeeds.
Out of sight, out of mind.
If you don’t trust yourself to stay away from their profiles and decide that deleting them would be easier than avoiding them then you need to consider how awkward it will be when you’re working towards getting back together and need to send them a new friend request.
Do you want to put yourself through that?
Especially if your ex has been avoiding your profile and didn’t even realize that you deleted them in the first place.
There’s another reason not to “unfriend” or delete your ex from social media and that’s because it can actually be a very effective tool to win them back… by using a sneaky tactic that I call “Covert Jealousy,” you leverage social media to help change the way your ex feels about you and the possibility of getting back together.
On the flip side of things, if your ex unfriends you don’t panic. It’s more than likely because they don’t want to be continually reminded of you every time they log in to Facebook or Twitter.
So don’t sweat it, it’s inconvenient but it’s not a big deal and it certainly doesn’t mean they hate you or that all hope is lost.
Keep your head up and remember that everyday you push through the no contact phase gets you closer to recovery and possibly rekindling your relationship with your now ex.
I hope this helps you figure out whether or not you should delete or unfriend your ex on your social media accounts…
If you’re interested in learning some more covert psychological strategies that are going to help get your ex back into your arms then check this out…