The Truth About Older Women Dating

By Mirabelle Summers
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The Truth About Older Women Dating

Whether you’re thirty-plus or reaching retirement, ALL of us consider what the impact of aging will be on our love life. It’s impossible to avoid.

We’re bombarded with images of lonely spinsters and unattractive maiden aunts. We worry about losing our looks and being passed over by men looking for younger models. We worry about getting set in our ways and dying alone.

So what’s the TRUTH about aging?

Does it really destroy our chances of finding a partner, or can we find happiness regardless of our romantic involvement?

If you take a snapshot of the 57 million American women over 45 years old, you’ll find that nearly HALF are single.

That’s a sobering statistic. It means that we have a one in two chance of being single as we get older.

But is it really BAD being single when you’re older? What are these women’s lives like? Are they happy and content, or depressed and lonely? Are they dating, or have they sworn off men?

The AARP set out to find the answer.

The AARP (originally known as the American Association of Retired Persons) is an organization that researches the issues that affect older Americans, including quality of life, financial security, sexuality, cultural perspectives on aging, even how we have fun as we age.

In September 2003, the AARP published a report on “Lifestyles, Dating & Romance: A Study of Midlife Singles.” The report, based on the survey results from 3,500 single Americans between the ages of 40 and 69, examines attitudes towards dating and the single life.

Its results were surprising.

For example, a full THIRD of women surveyed were dating younger men. The study found that, as both men and women age, they prefer younger partners.

And no wonder! One of the greatest frustrations shared by both sexes was dating individuals with a lot of baggage.

Women were looking for partners with a great personality and a sense of humor, while men added the additional criteria of physical attractiveness and sexual satisfaction.

So is counseling and plastic surgery the answer to the middle-aged man drought?

Not necessarily. As men and women age, they become more comfortable with living alone, to the extent that 1 in 10 single women polled were UNINTERESTED in dating.

Did they get lonely? Sure, sometimes. But, as one woman pointed out, EVERYONE is lonely sometimes. Even when she was married, there were times she felt alone. At least single women tend to have strong social networks made up of friends and family that they can rely on as they age.

Being single gives older women more personal freedom and independence. However, this freedom comes at the cost of having a “special someone” to spend time with.

As women age into their forties and fifties, the desire for companionship is more important than the desire to marry. These women want a companion that they can talk with and have fun with, and men feel the same way.

But for men there is an added sexual dimension: nearly a quarter of male respondents felt that the worst thing about being single was not being in a sexual relationship.

What was enormously encouraging was to see that most men and women in the study did not believe that they were dating because of the social pressure to have a partner, financial fears, self-doubt, or fear of being alone. They simply wanted companionship, fun, and sex.

In fact, there’s something to look forward to when you hit your fifties! Getting older can be sexually liberating for many women, as they learn to take pleasure in sex when and as they get it. Although about a third of women in the study felt that they would prefer more sex in their lives, another third felt that they were getting just the right amount.

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Many 60+ women are discovering that retirement is a chance to reinvent themselves and pursue dreams that had been laid by the wayside of family and career. Four out of five women polled even felt that becoming older had given them the freedom to be more themselves.

So if you’re worried that growing older will mean that you’ll acquire ten cats, mumble incoherently to the neighbors, and spend your retirement years reading your way through the library, think again!

Every generation reinvents what it is to age, and as more baby boomers enter retirement, they’re forging a new sense of what aging means.

You may be dating younger men, starting a new career as an artist, or spending your retirement years on a sunny beach in Mexico. Your golden years are what YOU make of them.

And even if you do find yourself single at the end of the road, realize that most women – even those who are married now – will be in the same boat by age 85, due to death or divorce.

But YOU will have the advantage of knowing how to live it up, date younger men, and love it.

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10 Comments on "The Truth About Older Women Dating"

  1. i like your advice, but pity that it is in englisch… we are dutch speaking and i recommended it to my dutch friends.. but it’s difficult for them. i could translate if you like… kind regards kat

  2. I am 64 and never married. No desire to. I am dating a 56 year old man. I find that a lot of men my age cannot keep up with me physically or sexually. This is not the first younger man I have dated. They come after me not me after them. Interesting.

  3. Hi
    Yes age is not what is used to be. A women hwo was atractive as young is still atractive at 50, even more. She is no longer afraid of the mans body, and fell safe and free. Mature women also have carisma.

  4. Carol Baldessari | April 16, 2013 at 2:02 pm | Reply

    Thank Goodness! You have addressed us, the “Middle Agers”.I have been so frustrated with male attitudes at this age,but your report shows me that I am normal,and am like everyone else. I really do not want to marry again, yet would like a fun companion who would like occasional sex. I don’t even mind a man’s”baggage”, EVERYONE has it if they have been fortunate enough to reach this age. If someone claims they don’t have “baggage”, then they have not lived life, they’ve been living under a rock all their lives. I meet the single men’s criteria for attractiveness, sexiness, fun loving, intelligent etc. BUT all they want to do with me is copulate without any relationship. That makes me feel like a cheap prostitute. Plus, many men my age are Bankrupt, literally. I am independent and don’t need a rich guy, but I also don’t want a man who needs someone to give him food clothing and shelter, aka a Mommy!

  5. This post is so true in many ways… Im 53, was married for 29 years, recently divorced ( not my decision) and loving life! I’m dating a younger man (46) not because I have any urgency to get married again, but I love the companionship, and sex is better than it ever was. I met my guy on a online dating site and ladies there are alot of guys out there who want to date an older woman. Age is a number if you have a positive attitude & joi d vie for life. That’s youthful and if you want to be dating, men will flock to you like flies! Wishing all my 50 sisters and older an amazing 2nd phase of life….!

  6. It’s refreshing to read intelligent data about women over 50 and dating…thank you. I’ve been bombarded with “helpful” hints to tip toe around a man’s minefield of ego, constantly assure him that is is a fantastic caveman, and essentially design a plan with the intent of making him commit and romance me. When I read THAT kind of “help” , it makes me feel lost as the “help” is thinly disguised FEAR THROWING. I am content because I KNOW that I am genuinely beautiful inside and out I’ve brains, intense sexuality, bravery, and am affectionate, supportive & open hearted. I think to myself.. I’ve been taught to coddle a man’s fragile ego since puberty and I’m DONE. The man I attract will KNOW AND APPRECIATE what he has in a woman like me…his ego and fears are HIS to manage…not mine. I really want to thank you again for your insight and positive message to women as they age….plus ladies WE actually look better as we age and our sexuality knows no bounds!

  7. I don’t know about the other “older” women, well I do know a bunch of them personally, but I’m healthy, sexually active and loving it! I live alone and don’t know if I want to change that, so I have fostered a circle of friends to play with. Along the way I found a younger man was attacted to me and I to him, and we’ve been long-distance dating for over a year now. And as far as the older men go? They are calling and asking for dates too. They’re not neccessarily looking for the young, trophy girlfriend. They too are looking for someone to have fun and do creative things with too. I’m so tired of surveys that stereotype ages and generations. It’s all in the attitude folks :-).

  8. Debbie Redden | April 16, 2013 at 11:44 pm | Reply

    It was so nice to read this article and see the responses from women about dating younger men. I to had dated a younger man for a year. I felt really uncomfortable for awhile but he said the age difference didn’t matter to him. Although we did break up I truly did enjoy my time with him and I think the feeling was mutual.

  9. Hello,
    I’ve just read the article and comments on older women dating younger men. Well in my experience, I’ve been dating younger men all my life.
    The only exception was my ex husband, he was 2 years older and we divorced only after 6 years of marriage. We were only in our 20’s when we married and had 2 lovely boys.
    I don’t regret the marriage as it resulted in my great son’s, but as they grew older I felt I needed a partner. Not for financial reasons as I was a wonderful single mother that didn’t need a man to support me.
    I wanted someone to spend time with, sexually as well as a companion. It’s hard for a single woman to go to functions and other things like the theatre, dinner etc. alone and I like the companionship of a man. Not just for sex, but also for conversation.

  10. Hetty Frederik | May 27, 2013 at 8:06 am | Reply

    Dating younger men isn’t only fun, it’s sexually fulfilling because they freely unleash their passion and zest of life to the benefit of their sexual partner. I have enjoyed mostly younger partners while living abroad where social rules don’t pose restrictions as in a country where religious rules dominate life styles. Hetty F

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