{"id":928,"date":"2017-11-08T14:09:49","date_gmt":"2017-11-08T14:09:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=928"},"modified":"2018-08-03T03:03:24","modified_gmt":"2018-08-03T03:03:24","slug":"the-4-bad-qualities-to-look-for-in-guys-you-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/the-4-bad-qualities-to-look-for-in-guys-you-date\/","title":{"rendered":"The 4 \u201cBad\u201d Qualities to Look for in Guys You Date"},"content":{"rendered":"

By James Bauer<\/em>
\nAuthor of The Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

What If You Knew What Men Secretly Wanted, but They Could Never Tell You… Don’t Forget To Check Out\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>T<\/em>he Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

The 4 \u201cBad\u201d Qualities to Look for in Guys You Date<\/h2>\n

So there you are. He just picked you up for the first date.<\/p>\n

You make small talk as you head to the restaurant. Nothing deep. Just typical getting-to-know-you banter. It\u2019s going well . . . and then IT happens.<\/p>\n

Another car cuts him off.<\/p>\n

He pumps the brakes, easily avoiding an accident. It\u2019s no big deal, really. It wasn\u2019t even much of a close call. But he unleashes a tirade of expletives that would make a sailor blush.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s cussing with more imagination and passion than you thought possible. You didn\u2019t even know THAT word could be a noun, a verb, and an adjective in the same sentence. If it weren\u2019t so shocking, it would be impressive.<\/p>\n

That level of irrational anger probably is a red flag. But here\u2019s something interesting I recently read about people with colorful language.<\/p>\n

A recent study uncovered an unlikely correlation between swearing and honesty. According to researchers, there\u2019s a potential upside to profanity. People who curse more tend to be more honest, as well.<\/p>\n

Of course, a foul mouth can also be offensive. I\u2019m not telling you to run right out and find a guy who relies on four-letter words for all his communication. But this does highlight an interesting paradox.<\/p>\n

Some character traits we think of as \u201cbad\u201d could actually be signs of virtue.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll take it one step further. There may be guys you\u2019ve turned down because you saw something you think of as a flaw. But what if that negative was a positive in disguise?<\/p>\n

Below are four \u201cbad\u201d qualities that just might signify something good about a potential suitor. If you come across a guy with one of these traits, get to know him a little better before sending the signal that you\u2019re not interested.<\/p>\n

#1. Messy<\/strong><\/h3>\n

He\u2019s a slob. His clothes are always wrinkled. His cubical at work looks like a small tornado hit it. You heard there are parts of his apartment that have been designated as \u201cunchartered territory.\u201d<\/p>\n

Okay, so it\u2019s not an attractive quality, but it\u2019s not necessarily a bad sign, either.<\/p>\n

Messy people tend to be more creative. They\u2019re also more inclined to take risks. Sure, you might have to teach him how to do the dishes, but he\u2019ll always be down for an adventure.<\/p>\n

#2. Shy<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Shy guys get a bad rap. Because they\u2019re timid, they may come off as cowardly. But that\u2019s not necessarily the case.<\/p>\n

Many shy people are simply more reserved. Rather than declaring themselves the life of the party, they prefer to observe.<\/p>\n

Translate that to boyfriend-mode, and you\u2019ve got one really good listener on your hands. If you\u2019ve ever pined for a man who knows how to have a real, meaningful conversation, a shy guy might be just what you\u2019re looking for.<\/p>\n

#3. Cocky<\/strong><\/h3>\n

On the opposite end of the spectrum are men who live their lives with undeniable swagger. That guy who waltzed in like he owned the place? Yeah. He\u2019s one of them.<\/p>\n

Some women dig on cocky men. Others find them arrogant and annoying. If you\u2019re in the second group, I\u2019d like to point out something important.<\/p>\n

The line between arrogance and confidence is thin. When you first meet someone, it\u2019s difficult to tell the difference. Hold off on passing judgment until you\u2019re absolutely sure his strut is something more than self-assurance.<\/p>\n

#4. Selfish<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Selfishness is rarely seen as a virtue, and for good reason. If a guy\u2019s only going to think of himself, he\u2019s probably not great boyfriend material.<\/p>\n

However, I frequently advise women to indulge in a healthy amount of selfishness. There\u2019s nothing wrong with taking care of yourself. In fact, strong, well-adjusted people know their own needs and make sure they\u2019re met.<\/p>\n

Just because he\u2019s invested in his own fulfillment doesn\u2019t mean he won\u2019t be committed to yours, too, when you become a part of his life.<\/p>\n

With each of these four traits, there are no guarantees. And really, that\u2019s the point.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t automatically assume a guy who\u2019s messy, shy, cocky or selfish would make for a poor romantic fit. Get to know him before you make that call. In each case, what looks like a weakness might turn out to be a strength.<\/p>\n

After all, one of the keys to lasting romance is seeing past the surface. Why not start that process at the very beginning?<\/p>\n

Prince charming may not make the best first impression, but that doesn\u2019t mean he won\u2019t end up sweeping you off your feet in the long run.<\/p>\n

Is He Really a “Commitment-Phobe”?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

I hear this word thrown around all the time when women talk to me about their relationship troubles.<\/p>\n

They always ask something along the lines of, “Why do guys always seem amazing at first, then instantly do a 180 when things get serious<\/em>?”<\/p>\n

It’s cases like these that make most women think that men are wired to run for the hills<\/strong> when they hear the C-word<\/strong>. But the truth is that guys aren’t<\/span> the commitment-phobes they’re made out to be.<\/p>\n

Men are in fact more than willing and able<\/strong> to commit when the right woman<\/span> comes along.<\/p>\n

And it boils down to having a hidden quality<\/strong> that women already have. It’s just a matter of using it to unlock a guy’s heart and make him yours.<\/p>\n

I’ve seen this amazing change<\/strong> happen in a lot\u00a0of couples, specifically with the guy<\/strong>. It’s like a dam bursting with a torrent of emotions he can’t contain.<\/p>\n

It’s powerful<\/em> stuff.<\/p>\n

To learn more about how you can use the Feminine Love Instinct to create this effect in your guy, check out this video:<\/p>\n

The #1 Trait Men Desire in a Woman<\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n

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To your success in love and in life!<\/p>\n

Kind regards,<\/p>\n

James Bauer
\nRelationships Coach and Author<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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