{"id":925,"date":"2017-11-08T14:09:55","date_gmt":"2017-11-08T14:09:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=925"},"modified":"2018-06-04T22:53:44","modified_gmt":"2018-06-04T22:53:44","slug":"how-to-avoid-relationship-burnout","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/how-to-avoid-relationship-burnout\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Avoid Relationship Burnout"},"content":{"rendered":"

By James Bauer<\/em>
\nAuthor of The Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

What If You Knew What Men Secretly Wanted, but They Could Never Tell You… Don’t Forget To Check Out\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>T<\/em>he Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

How To Avoid Relationship Burnout<\/h2>\n

When you want something\u2014a relationship, a job, a goal\u2014you put your all into it.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t stop. You keep going until you\u2019ve got what you wanted.<\/p>\n

That should be good, right? It means you\u2019re focused. Dedicated. An achiever.<\/p>\n

But it also puts you in danger.<\/p>\n

Working too hard on anything puts you at risk of burnout. And that includes relationships.<\/p>\n

Relationship burnout happens when you put 110% into your love life.<\/h3>\n

You\u2019re so focused on getting a date or strengthening your relationship that you miss the big picture. Your world revolves around your love life.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re feeling close and connected, you want to feel even closer and more connected. If you\u2019re going through a rough patch, your relationship stays on your mind until you\u2019ve figured out how to fix it.<\/p>\n

And why not?<\/p>\n

Surely relationships deserve that kind of attention.<\/p>\n

If you love someone, you want to give him everything. If you don\u2019t have someone yet, then surely you shouldn\u2019t rest until you do.<\/p>\n

But a funny thing happens when you focus on something to the exclusion of everything else:<\/p>\n

You start to hate it.<\/p>\n

Even if it\u2019s something you love, it consumes your attention until it becomes a source of great frustration.<\/p>\n

A friend of mine never does online dating for more than a few months at a time. She says that she starts to hate it if she does it for any longer. Instead of seeing it as something fun, it becomes a chore.<\/p>\n

That resentment starts to bleed through into how she responds to the men who contact her.<\/p>\n

So, for their sake as well as hers, she keeps her dips into the online dating pool short and sweet.<\/p>\n

When I suggest this approach to other women, they counter it with, \u201cBut what if I miss out on someone great because I\u2019m not online?\u201d<\/p>\n

It\u2019s true. If you take a break\u2014whether it\u2019s a break from online dating or a break from an intense relationship\u2014you do run the risk of missing out.<\/p>\n

You might miss out on some extra fun you might have had otherwise.<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s worth it, and here\u2019s why.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re completely focused on just one aspect of your life, whether that\u2019s work or relationships, you neglect other areas of your life that are equally important.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve all heard of someone who\u2019d put in such long hours at work that his or her health was affected. Or the woman who fell for a guy and never saw her friends again.<\/p>\n

Friends, family, health, and hobbies all deserve some part of your time and energy. You can\u2019t maintain healthy relationships with friends and family if you won\u2019t leave your beloved\u2019s side.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s counterintuitive, but taking a break from something you really enjoy ensures you\u2019ll keep on enjoying it.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re having a great time in a relationship, it\u2019s tempting to spend as much time as possible together to maximize the pleasure. But this can backfire.<\/p>\n

Spending too much time together hastens disillusionment. Something inside you starts to push back against him, perhaps because your identity is at risk of being taken over entirely.<\/p>\n

You know you\u2019re more than his girlfriend. You need your own friends, your own space, and time to do the things you love.<\/p>\n

When you take a break from each other\u2014even if it\u2019s just a weekend where you do your own separate things\u2014you come back to the relationship refreshed. You rediscover one another all over again.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve often noticed how women can panic in the early days of a relationship if their guy is out of contact for too long. They worry he\u2019s lost interest. I encourage them to see that time as a gift.<\/p>\n

Having a break from each other means you\u2019ll enjoy each other even more when you finally see each other again.<\/p>\n

Breaks intensify the pleasure.<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s hard to take those breaks. We live in a culture where everything has to be fast. Few people are willing to put in, say, a year getting to know someone before deciding if they want a relationship.<\/p>\n

Love\u2019s timeline has speeded up. If he waits more than an hour before responding to your text message, you wonder what is wrong.<\/p>\n

Having a balanced life means taking things slowly. If a few weeks go by before your next date, that\u2019s okay. You\u2019ve got other things going on. Your life needs you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the fear of scarcity that leads us to want to lock in a good thing as fast as possible, to ensure we don\u2019t lose it.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let that fear drive you to burn out.<\/p>\n

Take it easy. Take a breather every now and again. Trust that you won\u2019t lose what was meant for you.<\/p>\n

A guy who won\u2019t wait isn\u2019t worth waiting for.<\/p>\n

How To Keep The Flames Burning<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s natural for the passion to wane<\/strong> a little over time. Feelings come and go, and couples will go through this\u00a0stage at some point<\/strong> in the relationship.<\/p>\n

But that doesn’t<\/strong> mean however that you should just let this phase run its course. Unchecked, it could create a permanent gap<\/span> between you and your man.<\/p>\n

In time, it might lead to an emotional chasm<\/strong> and you’ll end up becoming strangers to each other.<\/p>\n

But it’s actually not that hard to keep things hot and heavy<\/strong> between you two. There is a way to turn up the heat again and help your man rediscover his red-hot passion<\/em> for you.<\/p>\n

Think of it as a Relationship Reboot<\/strong>. All you need to do is use your Feminine Love Instinct<\/strong> to kickstart the whole process.<\/p>\n

Learn more here:<\/p>\n

Video: The #1 Trait Men Desire In A Woman<\/a> <\/strong><\/h2>\n

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Fair warning:<\/strong> once you do this, there’s no turning back. He’ll come at you with the energy and enthusiasm he had on your FIRST DATE<\/strong>!<\/p>\n

To your success in love and in life!<\/p>\n

Kind regards,<\/p>\n

James Bauer
\nRelationships Coach and Author<\/p>\n

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