{"id":922,"date":"2017-11-08T14:09:46","date_gmt":"2017-11-08T14:09:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=922"},"modified":"2018-06-04T22:55:00","modified_gmt":"2018-06-04T22:55:00","slug":"if-were-right-for-each-other-why-do-we-fight","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/if-were-right-for-each-other-why-do-we-fight\/","title":{"rendered":"If We’re Right for Each Other, Why Do We Fight?"},"content":{"rendered":"

By James Bauer<\/em>
\nAuthor of The Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

What If You Knew What Men Secretly Wanted, but They Could Never Tell You… Don’t Forget To Check Out\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>T<\/em>he Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

If We’re Right for Each Other, Why Do We Fight?<\/h2>\n

If love disappears in a fight, does that mean you\u2019re not right for each other?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re deeply in love with someone and a fight breaks out, it can feel like you\u2019ve become mortal enemies.<\/p>\n

On top of the anger and frustration you feel, fear takes hold. Where did all those good feelings go?<\/p>\n

Love didn\u2019t go anywhere. It\u2019s just temporarily over-shadowed by the conflicting emotions of the immediate situation.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the nature of fights. They\u2019re intense.<\/p>\n

Even when conflict erupts over something small or silly, it can feel like it\u2019s the end of the world. Both of you focus almost exclusively on whatever you\u2019re fighting about.<\/p>\n

This is totally normal.<\/p>\n

The same thing happens when you allocate all of your focus to anything else. When you\u2019re hard at work, that doesn\u2019t mean your family and friends no longer matter or cease to exist.<\/p>\n

Still, you may go hours without thinking of them because you\u2019re zeroed in on the task at hand. It\u2019s purely a matter of focus.<\/p>\n

Likewise, fights tend to bring our fears, insecurities and even past pain to the surface. Those are some powerful feelings. Powerful enough that virtually all of your attention locks on them.<\/p>\n

Of course, you still love him and he still loves you, that reality doesn\u2019t evaporate just because there\u2019s conflict. But you may not feel it in the middle of a fight.<\/p>\n

The key thing to remember is that love is much more than a feeling. It\u2019s something far deeper.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

What\u2019s more, it\u2019s not something outside of you that you have to chase after. It\u2019s something inside of you that you nurture.<\/p>\n

Couple upset but still in love. Don\u2019t freak out when the feeling of love seem to disappear in the middle of an argument. Instead, try to focus on resolution.<\/p>\n

Keep in mind, this will be hard because you\u2019ll want to focus on those feelings of anger, fear, and pain. Acknowledge them, share them, and then push past them to find some common ground.<\/p>\n

When the conflict ends, remember that love is an active choice. It\u2019s something that starts inside of you.<\/p>\n

There is no need to fret over those times when you don\u2019t feel love. Every committed relationship goes through that. Worrying about it will only distract you from the joy you might otherwise feel.<\/p>\n

Instead, focus on choosing love. After all, the ability we have to generate love with those we care about is powerful. Harness that power as often as you can.<\/p>\n

The funny thing is that some relationships just flow naturally, while others struggle<\/span>. And I’m not<\/strong> talking about fighting or arguments.<\/p>\n

A lot of women wonder why their man is holding back<\/strong> a part of himself. They can’t quite put their finger on it, but they can tell he’s hesitating to “go all in” in some way.<\/p>\n

The tough part is bringing it up<\/strong>. Most women are afraid to even broach the subject because they know how much guys dread<\/em> The Talk<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Instead, they keep it to themselves so they don’t rock the boat<\/strong>, so to speak. But then he continues to stonewall and pulls away even further<\/span>.<\/p>\n

It seems like a\u00a0lose-lose<\/strong> situation, doesn’t it?<\/p>\n

But there is a way to completely avoid<\/strong> this trap altogether. A huge part of it has to do with a hidden quality that women already have<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Surprisingly though, they aren’t even aware that it exists<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I’ve put together a free presentation that talks about what I call the Feminine Love Instinct<\/strong>. This quality alone is the key to having a solid, committed relationship.<\/p>\n

Find out more – watch it here NOW:<\/p>\n

The #1 Quality That Men Can’t Resist<\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n

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\nTo your success in love and in life!<\/p>\n

Kind regards,<\/p>\n

James Bauer
\nRelationships Coach and Author<\/p>\n

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