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By Mirabelle Summers
\nAuthor of Get A Great Guy Guide<\/em><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

If you want genuine men and not just any man, this will challenge your beliefs about love and attraction, and show you the way to become a seduction success story,\u00a0<\/strong>check this out…<\/strong><\/p>\n

Free Video: Get A Great Guy Guide<\/strong><\/a><\/em><\/h3>\n

What He\u2019s Secretly Thinking About You<\/h2>\n

To write this blog post, I personally surveyed thousands <\/em>of men and women to find out what men really <\/em>think about women, love, sex, and commitment \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 what questions women really <\/em>want answered about the men in their lives \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 and how to boil it all down into a few simple, easily-applicable principles that you can use to improve your love life RIGHT NOW.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re about to dip your toe in a vast underground pool of private, behind-the-scenes \u201clocker-room\u201d information \u2013 a secret relationship resource<\/strong> for a select few of the smartest women, designed to teach you the hard-to-handle truth about how men think and what they really feel \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 about<\/strong> you. <\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll learn how to interpret his secret masculine instincts \u2026 how to listen with your heart<\/em> to what he\u2019s REALLY saying \u2026 and how to recognize the daily patterns of truth and deceit in your very own relationship.<\/em><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s what this means for you:<\/p>\n

You\u2019re about to set yourself free<\/strong> from the constant wondering \u2026 the uncomfortable, undignified begging for validation, affection, and attention \u2026 and those painful feelings of being alone, lonely, and insecure.<\/p>\n

With these secrets,<\/strong> he won\u2019t have to \u201copen up\u201d to you any more, because you\u2019ll ALREADY KNOW his deepest, most elemental secrets and behavioral truths. <\/em><\/p>\n

(Truth be told, I really shouldn\u2019t be sharing this stuff with you \u2026 it\u2019s going to make a LOT of guys pretty upset \u2026 because these truths <\/strong>will expose<\/strong> the secret masks<\/em> he uses when he doesn\u2019t want you to know what he\u2019s thinking.)<\/p>\n

So<\/strong> what\u2019s the deal?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, it all boils down to the key elements of understanding how a man\u2019s mind and heart really works.<\/p>\n

So let\u2019s get started: two ugly truths about the male mind<\/strong> that you need <\/em>to know.<\/p>\n

(Warning: these truths are not pretty<\/strong> \u2026 reader discretion is strongly advised. Leave this page NOW if you\u2019re easily offended.) <\/em><\/p>\n

TRUTH ONE: When He Says \u201cI Love You\u201d, There\u2019s A HUGE Chance He Means Something Other<\/span> Than What You Think<\/span> He Means \u2026<\/h2>\n

Fact: Men prioritize things differently to you, and they feel and deal with their emotions differently from you. <\/strong><\/p>\n

This is a FACT <\/strong>that\u2019s based on sound evolutionary science and the basic principles of human anthropology.<\/p>\n

Put simply, it comes from the fact that the male brain is wired VERY differently from the female brain. <\/em><\/p>\n

(I know \u2026 big surprise, right?)<\/p>\n

But in all seriousness, this has a MASSIVE impact on your life and the quality of your relationships with men. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Something that most women don\u2019t realize is that men are just as excited about commitment, love, and having a truly committed relationship as YOU are…<\/p>\n

… but<\/em>, <\/em>they feel things differently, <\/strong>they deal with those feelings differently, <\/strong>and they talk about them differently to you. <\/strong><\/p>\n

All this can create a lot of pain and hardship for women everywhere.<\/p>\n

So the first thing you need to understand is that men view commitment, love, and marriage VERY differently from you.<\/p>\n

In fact, to a man, the words \u201cI love you\u201d almost always do NOT mean what most women believe these words to mean \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 unless<\/em> a VERY specific set of circumstances precedes those words.<\/p>\n

And without those circumstances, he might as well be lying right to your face \u2026 <\/em><\/p>\n

\u2026 <\/em>and don\u2019t bother confronting him about it, because he will never, EVER \u201ccome clean\u201d and admit the truth.<\/p>\n

(Why? Because if he ever told you the truth, you\u2019d never sleep with him again. Simple as that.)<\/p>\n

So here\u2019s the shocking truth and what it really means for YOUR relationship\u2026<\/p>\n

(WARNING<\/strong>: if you are a woman and you\u2019re reading this, prepare to feel uncomfortable<\/em> \u2026)<\/p>\n

So here it is \u2026 the shocking truth <\/strong>based on the secret, most private, deep-down dirty and private truths coming right from the mouths of THOUSANDS of real-life men:<\/p>\n

The words \u201cI love you\u201d, \u201cI want to marry you\u201d, and \u201cI want to be with you forever\u201d mean ZILCH when they come from a man\u2019s mouth \u2026<\/p>\n

UNLESS<\/span> he\u2019s also proving that he means<\/span> those words <\/em>by the way he talks to you, touches you, and ACTS around you.<\/p>\n

Sounds crazy, right?<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s not. It happens all the time. And here\u2019s what it means for you:<\/p>\n

Even though most women<\/strong> tend to place a lot of value on spoken<\/strong> words<\/strong> of commitment and love \u2026<\/p>\n

… when it comes to true commitment<\/strong> from a MAN, words are actually pretty much MEANINGLESS. <\/em><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s why.<\/p>\n

As a woman, you have a massive language center deep in your brain that outshines anything the pitiful male vocabulary can come up with.<\/p>\n

(Matter of fact, women are so focused on language that they regularly produce vocal tones and subtle linguistic meanings that the male mind literally can\u2019t even recognize.<\/em>)<\/p>\n

Men aren\u2019t really \u201cword creatures\u201d. We\u2019re creatures of the heart, the instinct, and the brutal, take-no-prisoners masculine \u201chuntsman\u201d attitude \u2026 not<\/em> creatures of the vocab and the larynx.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s why this matters:<\/p>\n

To a man, real commitment comes from a deep-down feeling<\/strong> – a soul <\/em>feeling – that a relationship is right and good, that you make him feel like a king, and that he simply wants to be with you <\/em>because of the way you make him FEEL.<\/p>\n

In other words, you need to get this fact about men:<\/p>\n

To the male mind, commitment<\/span> happens when he\u2019s happy<\/span><\/em> being with you. <\/strong><\/p>\n

And if he\u2019s not FEELING that happiness, it doesn\u2019t matter how much you \u201ctalk\u201d about the relationship, how many times he says \u201cI love you\u201d \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 even<\/em> if he presents you with a wedding ring. <\/em><\/p>\n

Nope: to a guy \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 even<\/em> if he\u2019s shaping the words \u201cI love you\u201d with his lips RIGHT NOW \u2026<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\u2026 <\/em><\/strong>if<\/strong> he isn\u2019t FEELING the commitment, it\u2019s not happening<\/strong> \u2026 and the more you try and make<\/em> it happen, the less it\u2019ll happen.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s why you can\u2019t always TRUST those words that come out of his mouth. Because if your common sense is alerting you that something doesn\u2019t quite \u201cadd up\u201d \u2026 if he\u2019s SAYING he\u2019s happy but acting different \u2026 or if he\u2019s telling you he loves you but you\u2019re not so sure \u2026<\/p>\n

Chances are, you\u2019re RIGHT.<\/p>\n

The truth is, real commitment is something that just happens naturally <\/em>when two people are really happy together.<\/p>\n

It has nothing to do with promises, obligations, children, mortgages, or even legal contracts like marriage.<\/p>\n

And guys KNOW it. This is simply how they operate.<\/p>\n

So forget<\/strong> about all the surface \u201cproof\u201d of love and commitment. Forget<\/strong> about what he\u2019s saying – and what you WANT him to say.<\/p>\n

Instead, stop listening with your ears. Stop listening to his words. And start listening with your HEART.<\/em><\/p>\n

Here is the ONLY question you\u2019ll EVER need to ask yourself to ascertain how your man\u2019s really <\/em>feeling about you, your love, and your relationship:<\/p>\n

Can you FEEL his love for you? <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Because if you can\u2019t \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 if he isn\u2019t acting<\/strong> like a man who\u2019s deeply in love \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 if he isn\u2019t smiling with his entire face when he talks to you, openly enjoying your company, acting like he wants to take care of you, making sure you\u2019re happy \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 and letting you know with his body language, his eyes, and his face that he loves you <\/em>\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 then it doesn\u2019t matter<\/strong> what he\u2019s SAYING<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Commitment can\u2019t be faked, and for a man, he will READILY LIE <\/strong>in order to keep you happy while he figures out for certain how he\u2019s really feeling.<\/p>\n

The truth is, true, genuine, spontaneous, unbreakable commitment<\/strong> comes from how he feels about himself when you\u2019re around. <\/em><\/p>\n

A man falls in love with YOU, sure \u2026 but the key secret ingredient of that love, the spark that sets his gunpowder alight, is how he feels ABOUT HIMSELF when he\u2019s with you. <\/em><\/p>\n

And nothing else matters.<\/p>\n

NOT what he says\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 NOT what he gives you\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 and NOT even what he promises<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

So what happens if your man\u2019s NOT showing you with his heart that he\u2019s happy?<\/p>\n

What if he\u2019s not <\/em>feeling the commitment?<\/p>\n

What if he\u2019s LYING with his words \u2026 SAYING he loves you \u2026 but telling you in every other way<\/em> that he\u2019s not happy?<\/p>\n

If your man is acting cold and distant, or if you even so much as suspect <\/em>that things aren\u2019t as rosy as they could be, first of all know this:<\/p>\n

Forcing him to talk about it will only do more harm. <\/strong><\/h1>\n

Remember, guys don\u2019t change their feelings based on what you say to them.<\/p>\n

But you don\u2019t have to panic.<\/p>\n

When you learn how to communicate with him in a way that his special male brain and instincts automatically recognize and assimilate, <\/em>you\u2019ll find his barriers melting like ice-cream on a hot sidewalk \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 and you\u2019ll find him treating you with respect, love, and even genuine adoration, <\/em>because you\u2019ll be the ONE WOMAN who actually \u201cgets\u201d him, the ONE WOMAN who actually understands <\/em>his needs, and the ONE WOMAN who can see for herself<\/strong> how he experiences relationships.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s powerful stuff.<\/p>\n

And inside Why Men Pull Away, <\/em>I use my years<\/strong> of experience as a nationally-recognized relationship coach \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 plus the secret, most private, little-known truths<\/strong> of THOUSANDS of real-life men \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 to expose<\/strong> all the ways you can reverse negative relationship patterns virtually overnight<\/strong> and start basking<\/em> in the attention, affection, and adoration that you desire and deserve<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

TRUTH TWO: For A Man To Fall In Love With You, He Needs You To POWERFULLY Trigger His Masculinity FIRST<\/h2>\n

Here\u2019s the thing: men believe in soul-mates just as much as you do.<\/p>\n

However, guys are naturally more cautious about relationships and commitment.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that we don\u2019t want<\/em> to fall in love.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s that we need the circumstances to be exactly<\/strong> right<\/strong> first<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

(There\u2019s a reason why, in more than 50% of relationships, it\u2019s not <\/em>the man who says \u201cI love you\u201d first!)<\/p>\n

To put it plainly: we need to know that we\u2019re making you very, very <\/em>happy before we\u2019ll allow ourselves to risk falling in love.<\/strong> Being appreciated, complimented, and needed is a powerful turn-on for a man. It makes us feel \u2026 well, like men.<\/em><\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s not politically correct and all, but the plain and simple truth is that femininity <\/em>draws in men like moths to a flame \u2026 and the more feminine you are, the more you make US feel like MEN \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 and the more we love you for it. <\/em><\/p>\n

That means we need to be needed.<\/strong> Because like it or not, that\u2019s what a man is for: to take care of you, to make sure you\u2019re happy, and to please you.<\/p>\n

So, being needed, being wanted, and knowing we\u2019re doing a good job of doing it\u00a0 is<\/em> the sweetest possible reward<\/strong> to a man.<\/p>\n

And since we fall in love with YOU based on how you make us feel about OURSELVES \u2026 well, your appreciation makes us feel like Atlas, Hercules, and Brad Pitt all rolled into one.<\/p>\n

And then we love you <\/em>even more.<\/p>\n

But not <\/em>to be needed?<\/p>\n

For a guy, that\u2019s like death by Chinese water-torture: slow, humiliating, and agonizing. Only, this way, all our friends are watching \u2026 all YOUR friends are watching \u2026 and everyone else can look in and see how badly we\u2019re getting on.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s all about masculinity<\/strong>. Remember, men fall in love based on how we feel about ourselves <\/em>when we\u2019re with you.<\/p>\n

That means he needs to feel like a strong, powerful man <\/strong>before he can feel love for anyone else \u2026 <\/em>including YOU.<\/p>\n

So for a guy to fall deeply, irrevocably in love with you \u2026 <\/em><\/p>\n

\u2026 he first needs to know that he\u2019s \u201cin the lead\u201d:<\/p>\n

He needs to know that you love him, that he pleases you, that you think he\u2019s a big, juicy catch, and that his ex-girlfriend must have been NUTS to let him go.<\/p>\n

He needs <\/strong>to know that he makes you happy before<\/strong> he\u2019ll allow himself to experience the full strength of his love for you. <\/em><\/p>\n

That\u2019s just how guys are.<\/p>\n

So what can you do to facilitate this nifty turn of events?<\/p>\n

Well, it\u2019s really quite simple: you just have to notice him more.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You know how you feel when you put on a really cute dress, do your hair, and generally spend about forty-five minutes pulling yourself together?<\/p>\n

When you know <\/em>you look hot \u2026 and you just want to be appreciated <\/em>for it \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 but all you get from him is a noncommittal \u201cyou look nice\u201d?<\/p>\n

Guess what: guys feel the same way<\/strong>. His soul is CRYING OUT for a little feminine approval, congratulation, and yes, even adoration <\/em>\u2013 from YOU.<\/p>\n

He wants you to notice <\/em>how broad his shoulders look in that suit.<\/p>\n

He wants you to notice <\/em>how movie-star scruffy his jawline looks with a 5 o\u2019clock shadow.<\/p>\n

He wants you to notice <\/em>how white his teeth are, how amazing his smile is, that he has a cute butt, that you love being around him.<\/em><\/p>\n

All you have to remember is that the strength of his love for you is based directly on how awesome he feels about himself when you\u2019re in the room with him.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And for any man to feel like his happiest, strongest, most generous, masculine<\/strong> self, he needs to know that YOU love and appreciate HIM ALSO. <\/em><\/p>\n

NOTE: this doesn\u2019t mean saying the words \u201cI love you\u201d a whole lot.<\/p>\n

Remember, guys aren\u2019t particularly strong on the words front. Instead, he\u2019s looking for you to show it <\/em>in ways that he can recognize and appreciate.<\/p>\n

So pay attention to the details, break out the compliments, squeeze his biceps admiringly \u2026 and maybe pat him on the butt every now and then in passing.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll love you for it \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 and more importantly, he\u2019ll FEEL your<\/em> love for him<\/em> \u2013 in such a way that allows him to fall even deeper in love with YOU.<\/p>\n

If you’re ready to take the plunge and learn why men pull away – Click here to watch my free video presentation…<\/strong><\/p>\n

Why Men Pull Away\u2026and What Makes Them STAY In Love (VIDEO)<\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n

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