{"id":65,"date":"2012-10-15T02:45:43","date_gmt":"2012-10-15T02:45:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=65"},"modified":"2018-05-26T12:45:35","modified_gmt":"2018-05-26T12:45:35","slug":"7-ways-to-make-him-love-you-more","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/7-ways-to-make-him-love-you-more\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Ways To Make Him Love You More"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>By Slade Shaw<br \/>\nAuthor of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/menpullb\"><strong><em>Why Men Pull Away<\/em><\/strong><\/a><br \/>\nLearn exactly what pushes men to leave&#8230;and how to NEVER feel abandoned or rejected<\/p>\n<h2><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/menpullb\"><strong>Why Men Pull Away\u2026and What Makes Them STAY In Love<\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n<h2>7 Ways To Make Him Love You More<\/h2>\n<p>In today\u2019s post, I\u2019m going to be sharing <strong>7 weird and dirty truths<\/strong> about how to melt away coldness, emotional distance, and even <em>serious<\/em> commitment-phobia in your man &#8211; and transform yourself into his most irresistible fantasy.<\/p>\n<p>These tips will empower you to become the rarest of women: one who understands how men think and <em>how they actually experience relationships. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s how to rewire resistance and doubt and transform yourself into the woman your man is ADDICTED to \u2026<\/p>\n<h3><strong>1. Help Him Choose You Without Hesitation By Making His Life Easier, Sweeter, And So Much More Satisfying<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>All guys have a secret question circling endlessly in their heart of hearts that makes <em>all the difference <\/em>when it comes to choosing the woman they want to spend their lives with.<\/p>\n<p>In its most undiluted, purest form, that question is:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWill this woman make my life <em>more fulfilling <\/em>or <em>more difficult?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>The brutal truth is, on some level, most men are afraid to truly commit because <em>they\u2019re afraid you\u2019re going to end up making things harder, not easier. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>As a bachelor, life is ripe with what could happen \u2026 but as a committed man, all those glorious possibilities get narrowed down to one single choice: YOU.<\/p>\n<p>So, you need to think about all the ways you can choose to make his life either <em>more difficult <\/em>or <em>more fulfilling. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>The <strong>easiest<\/strong> way to make <em>any <\/em>man feel fulfilled and blessed by your feminine presence is by being PROUD of him and being EXCITED about his everyday victories and efforts, even if they seem tiny to you right now.<\/p>\n<p>Your man thrives on female encouragement. And most men are secretly <em>dying <\/em>\u2013 very privately and very silently \u2013 for some recognition and admiration from the women in their lives.<\/p>\n<p>Simply validating his choices, supporting his wins, and admiring him out loud (bonus points if you do it where his friends can hear) makes <em>all the difference<\/em> when it comes time for him to answer his own questions about you.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>2. Give Him The One Secret Thing That All Men Want (That He\u2019ll Never, <\/strong>EVER<strong> Tell You About)<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Fact:<\/p>\n<p>A man falls in love (and stays in love) <em>based on how he FEELS about himself when he\u2019s with you. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>But, the more you make him <em>talk <\/em>about that love, <em>the less he\u2019ll have the space to actually FEEL it. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>The lesson here? You need to be strong enough to give him the space he needs to FEEL his feelings about you.<\/p>\n<p>FACT: many women become very clingy and whiny at the first sign of silence or distance.<\/p>\n<p>They constantly pester for reassurance, air their insecurities, ask for more solid signs of commitment, and ask these sorts of annoying questions:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cDid I do something wrong?\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cWhat are you thinking?\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cYou\u2019ve gone awfully quiet.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cWhy are you being distant?\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>To a man, these questions \u2013 and all the nagging and questioning that go with them &#8211; are meaningless.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is, words doesn\u2019t mean anything unless he has the SPACE to FEEL his own feelings about you.<\/p>\n<p>Now is the time to back off, close the oven door, and let things cook along without interference. Trust me \u2013 the cake will taste better with a little timely neglect.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>3. Use The Astonishing Power Of Sexual Enthusiasm<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>For a <strong>man <\/strong>to feel like you\u2019re the <strong>woman <\/strong>his entire future revolves around, he needs to actually <em>perceive <\/em>you as a feminine spirit at your core.<\/p>\n<p>This is what begets the dance of the sexes and the glorious chemistry that fuels the fire of his attraction to you.<\/p>\n<p>But when you lessen his masculinity, emasculate him with words, or wall off your own femininity by acting cold, hard, and stony, <em>you take away his power and you make him feel weak and degraded \u2026<\/em><\/p>\n<p>\u2026 and then he associates those feelings with <em>you, <\/em>which automatically triggers his barriers and causes him to back away. (Hey, I didn\u2019t write the rules.)<\/p>\n<p>The truth is, sex is VERY important to nearly all men.<\/p>\n<p>And if you often turn away from him in bed, withhold sex, or act as though you\u2019ve got more important stuff to do, you\u2019re whittling away at the very core of your relationship\u2019s fire and sustenance.<\/p>\n<p>Look: I\u2019m not going to tell you that you should make love even if you genuinely don\u2019t feel like it.<\/p>\n<p>But I <em>will <\/em>tell you that a woman with a healthy sexual appetite \u2013 and one whose love of sex is focused like a laser beam on HIM &#8211; is someone that most men would find <em>very <\/em>attractive.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>4. Addict Him To Your Femininity Like A Guilty Teenager Smoking That First-Ever Cigarette<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Your femininity is the most powerful force you will ever possess.<\/p>\n<p>Through it, you\u2019ll gain access to the most CRUCIAL key to a man\u2019s heart: <em>making him feel like the powerful, warrior-hearted MAN he really is. <\/em>(Remember, he falls in love with you based on <em>how he feels <\/em>in your presence.)<\/p>\n<p>Above all else, <em>your femininity<\/em> is what inflames his masculinity \u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2026 it\u2019s what turns a dismal ember into a raging, oxygen-sucking, heat-roaring <strong>towering inferno<\/strong> \u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2026 and makes him view you with that peculiar, powerful mixture of pride, lust, awe, and worship. When you act like a woman, you give him permission to act like a man, own his powers, and feel like a warrior \u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2026 and secretly, he\u2019ll ADORE you for it.<\/p>\n<p>So don\u2019t shy away from your feminine powers!<\/p>\n<p>Look \u2026 you know that little \u201ccatch\u201d in the air that happens when you say or do something particularly warm, sweet, or sexy for him?<\/p>\n<p>That little \u201ctwitch\u201d in the pit of your stomach you feel when he catches your eye after you charm him with your feminine grace or wisdom?<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s called <em>sexual chemistry. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s a sign that you\u2019ve triggered his deepest, most masculine instincts toward you. It\u2019s one of your most irresistible powers.<\/p>\n<p>And if you use it frequently, fearlessly, and well, you will become a MAJOR victory in his life.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>5. Get Him To Irrevocably Associate <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">YOU<\/span> With All The Excitement And Fun That Life Has To Offer<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Listen: if you\u2019re anything like most women, you tend to feel turned-off and \u201cblah\u201d about their relationship when you feel ignored, under-appreciated, and unnoticed.<\/p>\n<p>Guess what? Guys feel those same exact feelings, too \u2026 but <em>we<\/em> feel them when things feel <strong>motionless in the relationship. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The trick to overcoming this lack and forcing him into a surging emotional funnel of whitewater intensity is by getting him to regularly experience fun, excitement, and <em>momentum in the relationship.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>So how the heck do you get him to do THAT?<\/p>\n<p>Well, it\u2019s very, very <em>simple \u2026 <\/em><\/p>\n<p>If a guy feels like nothing will ever change, that you are always the same, and that <em>his sense of excitement about life is gone forever so long as he stays with you, <\/em>he will VERY QUICKLY start to pull away.<\/p>\n<p>Guys have a sensitive radar for boredom \u2026 truth is, we like to be kept on our toes a little. It\u2019s a delicate balance of \u201cfree spirit\u201d and \u201cintegrity\u201d, and once you\u2019ve reached it for yourself, trust me, <em>you\u2019ll know \u2026 <\/em> because he won\u2019t be able to stop following you with his eyes, bragging to his friends about how AMAZING you are, and constantly showering you with a warm, sexy downpour of affection, appreciation, and love.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t have the time to go into the details right now, but you\u2019ll learn the exact details of this precise, powerful strategy in <em><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/menpullb\">Why He Pulls Away<\/a><\/strong> \u2013 <\/em>and you\u2019ll never again fall into the trap of neutrality and commitment-killing staleness that endangers his love for you.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>6. Avoid Triggering His \u201cFreedom-Cancer Alert\u201d By Expanding His Life And <em>Adding<\/em> To His Dreams<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>You\u2019ve probably noticed how a lot of guys seem <em>afraid of commitment, <\/em>right?<\/p>\n<p>Well, it\u2019s not because they\u2019re loveless social robots. In fact, most men <strong>crave<\/strong> the companionship and loving affection of a good woman, <em>just like you crave the love and affection of a great man. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>But, men ARE afraid of what a relationship can bring \u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2026 and that fear is centered around \u201cfreedom cancer\u201d:<\/p>\n<p>The slow, agonizing death of his hopes, dreams, and aspirations for change and growth.<\/p>\n<p>If you want your man to hone in on you like a laser-beam and commit to you as powerfully and fiercely as a starving bear guards the last honeycomb of the season, <em>you need to make sure he knows that you want to ADD to his life, not subtract from it. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>So be prepared to be supportive.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t whine, don\u2019t mock, and don\u2019t wet-blanket.<\/p>\n<p>Think about giving him what <em>he <\/em>needs to be happy, not just what you feel like giving today.<\/p>\n<p>Then \u2013 whether it\u2019s your blessing for a 3 month trip to India, your encouragement with a scary new business venture, or simply a heartfelt \u201cyou look HOT today!\u201d \u2013 give it. Unreservedly, and with full appreciation of both the man he is <em>and the man he\u2019s striving to become. <\/em><\/p>\n<h3><strong>7. Avoid Doing The One Thing That Will CRUSH His Love Into Shriveled, Lifeless Splinters <\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>This is possibly the MOST IMPORTANT thing you could <em>ever <\/em>learn about the male mind and how your guy experiences relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Matter of fact, if you do this right, you\u2019ll melt away his commitment fears like icicles in the noonday sun and crack open his sealed-over Love Vault like an SAS task-force.<\/p>\n<p>So <em>what is it? <\/em><\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ve got to AVOID doing this one simple, <em>terrible <\/em>thing:<\/p>\n<p>Emasculating him with your razor-tongued words.<\/p>\n<p>AKA: ripping his testicles off and creating an emasculated, disenfranchised <strong>eunuch<\/strong> with no balls, no testosterone, and no manly, foe-crushing powers left to impress you with.<\/p>\n<p>Obviously, no woman does this <em>intentionally<\/em> \u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2026 and yet it still happens ALL THE TIME.<\/p>\n<p>How?<\/p>\n<p><em>By<\/em> <em>criticizing, making light of, and belittling the very things he bases his sense of worth, manhood, and pride on. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>Generally, I\u2019m talking about his ability to make you happy. In particular, I\u2019m talking about his ability to PROVIDE.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s get specific:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The income he earns<\/li>\n<li>The lifestyle he lives<\/li>\n<li>The way he makes love<\/li>\n<li>His ability to please you sexually, emotionally, or financially<\/li>\n<li>The amount of time he spends with you and the family<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>These things are at the very core of a man\u2019s soul.<\/p>\n<p>So if you are constantly criticizing and griping about how his efforts are not enough for you, you will emasculate him, you will weaken him, and you will literally shave pieces off his soul just as if you were dragging him through broken glass.<\/p>\n<p>Remember, what motivates a man is his ability to PLEASE YOU. He does this by trying to provide for you: whether that\u2019s financially, emotionally, physically, or sexually.<\/p>\n<p>**<\/p>\n<p>To devour the full, unbridled secrets of how you can reverse self-defeating patterns in your relationship, check out <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/menpullb\" target=\"_self\"><em>Why Men Pull Away<\/em><\/a><\/strong>, my latest book exposing proven methods for rescuing your relationship and rewiring the intimacy in your man\u2019s mind.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/menpullb\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1220\" src=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MYS-MenPullB.jpg\" alt=\"Why Men Pull Away\" width=\"933\" height=\"420\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MYS-MenPullB.jpg 933w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MYS-MenPullB-300x135.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MYS-MenPullB-768x346.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 933px) 100vw, 933px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Slade Shaw Author of Why Men Pull Away Learn exactly what pushes men to leave&#8230;and how to NEVER feel abandoned or rejected Why Men Pull Away\u2026and What Makes Them STAY In Love 7 Ways&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":802,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[15,11,17,19,16,21,22],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=65"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1722,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65\/revisions\/1722"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/802"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=65"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=65"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=65"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}