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By Mirabelle Summers
\nAuthor of Get A Great Guy Guide<\/em><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

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5 Things He Really Doesn\u2019t Want To Hear From You And Why<\/h2>\n

They say that you should be able to share everything with the one you love. And for a lot of things, this is true. But there are SOME things that you simply should never say to your man.<\/p>\n

Because they are only going to be downright harmful for your relationship or chances of scoring a next date.<\/p>\n

1. Bringing up the exes.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Usually when you get together with someone, you gain a bit of an idea about their past relationship history \u2013 it\u2019s hard to avoid these topics altogether.<\/p>\n

But as a general rule, once you\u2019re going out, talking about exes is a no-no – whether it\u2019s about his ex or your own.<\/p>\n

Because wanting to know every little detail about your guy\u2019s last girlfriend is just a massive turnoff. It makes you seem jealous, insecure, and actually makes his ex into more of a threat than she really is.<\/p>\n

For example, asking questions like \u201cDo you still think about her?\u201d or \u201cDo you like me better than you liked her?\u201d<\/p>\n

If you choose to resist the urge to find out about his past relationships and instead focus on your OWN relationship, you will find that his exes become less and less of an issue for you and you will be happier with your man because of it.<\/p>\n

Believe in the fact that he is with you right now because he wants to be with YOU, and leave everything else in the past.<\/p>\n

The same goes for any of YOUR exes. NEVER compare your man to your ex. For example, avoid making comments such as \u201cMy ex was just like that\u201d.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t want to feel like you\u2019re still thinking about your ex, or that he is having to compete with him or live up to his standards.<\/p>\n

Even telling your man that he is so much better than your ex is only going to be detrimental, as you are again making a comparison between them, and at the same time showing an unattractive bitterness about your past relationship.<\/p>\n

2. Using defensive communication weapons.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Communication is really important in a relationship (as I\u2019m sure you already know well).<\/p>\n

But there are some definite phrases to avoid when it comes to communication with your man, as these will automatically put him into defense mode and drive a big damaging wedge between you.<\/p>\n

The first of these is the pre-storm warning siren \u201cWe need to talk\u201d.<\/p>\n

You may need to talk, but you do not need to WARN him that you need to talk. When you say this, it automatically brings up a lot of insecurities and makes him go into the conversation in defense mode.<\/p>\n

Instead, if you need to talk about something, wait until it is an appropriate time and bring it up in a less confrontational way.<\/p>\n

Next we have the classic \u201cNothing\u2019s wrong!\u201d line.When something IS wrong, don\u2019t use this line. Seriously. It doesn\u2019t help you and it just makes him feel useless. If he asks you if something is wrong and there is something, tell him!<\/p>\n

The last weapon I need to advise you to ban from ever using with your man is the phrases which make him feel like you (or others) have low expectations of him. For example, getting worked up in an argument and saying things such as:<\/p>\n

\u201cI guess they were right about you\u201d or \u201cI knew you wouldn\u2019t follow through\u201d.<\/p>\n

Again, these harsh comments will put him in defense mode and make him feel like he\u2019s not good enough for you or anyone else. Even if said in the heat of the moment, these comments can really knock his self-esteem and cause him to want to end the relationship.<\/p>\n

3. Baring your insecurities.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

We all have insecurities, and often these are centered on our appearance and whether our man really loves us.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m so fat\u201d. \u201cI hate my thighs.\u201d \u201cI wish I had bigger boobs\u201d.<\/p>\n

Remember, your man likes you for who you are and for how you look. He wouldn\u2019t be with you if he didn\u2019t. But when he hears statements like the ones above, you automatically become less attractive in his eyes. Remember, guys are attracted to self-confidence.<\/p>\n

The next frustrating way girlfriends often show their insecurities is through asking questions about other women. For example, \u201cDo you think she\u2019s pretty?\u201d<\/p>\n

Do you really want your man to answer this question? Because you probably aren\u2019t going to like the answer, regardless. If you think she\u2019s pretty, then she probably is pretty. But this doesn\u2019t mean that he likes YOU any less, or that he was even paying attention to her.<\/p>\n

So be confident in yourself and in his love for you, and focus on your assets rather than your flaws. He will love you for it.<\/p>\n

4. Emasculating comments.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

If there\u2019s one thing to avoid saying to your date or boyfriend, it is comments which make him feel like less of a man.<\/p>\n

For instance,\u201cYou\u2019re so cute\u201d.<\/p>\n

Guys usually really resent being referred to as \u2018cute\u2019. This label threatens their male ego and can make them instantly put up defensive barriers.<\/p>\n

So leave \u2018cute\u2019 as a label for kittens and your friend\u2019s new hairstyle. And trying telling him how \u201chot\u201d,\u201chandsome\u201d, or \u201camazing\u201d he is instead.<\/p>\n

Remember, guys have a need to feel like they can provide for and protect their girlfriends. And when they hear things like\u201cNo, just leave it I\u2019ll do it myself\u201d or \u201cDon\u2019t worry, I\u2019ll get someone else to do it\u201d, this can really hurt.<\/p>\n

So if he wants to help or give something a go, let him. Even if he ends up needing a hand from someone else, at least you showed faith in his abilities.<\/p>\n

The next phrase to avoid letting slip is\u201cMan up\u201d. What this says to a guy is that he is simply not manly enough \u2013 OUCH. This is really not something a girl can say to a guy \u2013 leave this kind of comment to his buddies.<\/p>\n

Maybe he isn\u2019t the toughest or manliest guy out there \u2013 but he doesn\u2019t need this to be pointed out to him. Especially not by you.<\/p>\n

5. Gossiping or bitching. <\/strong><\/h3>\n

\u201cShe\u2019s such a whore.\u201d<\/p>\n

Guys don\u2019t want to hear you bitching about other women, or men for that matter. Bitching or gossiping is a real turn-off. He wants to see you as a decent woman who doesn\u2019t get involved in all the drama.<\/p>\n

When he hears you bitching, you come out looking just as bad to him as the \u2018bitch\u2019 herself. If there\u2019s something you really have to get off your chest, sometimes it\u2019s best to save it for when you meet up with one of your girlfriends.<\/p>\n

This is especially true for when you are in the dating stage. Your boyfriend may be more open to hearing about problems with friends once you\u2019ve been together for a while and he\u2019s got to know them. But a guy you are dating is just getting to know you and you don\u2019t want his first impression to be that you are the village gossip.<\/p>\n

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