{"id":2351,"date":"2018-11-28T15:57:30","date_gmt":"2018-11-28T15:57:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=2351"},"modified":"2018-11-29T18:54:43","modified_gmt":"2018-11-29T18:54:43","slug":"why-your-ex-gives-you-the-hot-cold-treatment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/why-your-ex-gives-you-the-hot-cold-treatment\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Your Ex Gives You The &#8216;Hot &amp; Cold&#8217; Treatment"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>By Brad Browning<\/em><br \/>\n<em>From <a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">The Ex Factor Guide<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<h3><strong>If you can&#8217;t tell for sure if you&#8217;re over analyzing your ex&#8217;s behavior, then check this out&#8230;<\/strong><\/h3>\n<h3><strong><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">The Ex Factor Guide<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n<h2>Why Your Ex Gives You The \u2018Hot &amp; Cold\u2019 Treatment<\/h2>\n<p>Today, I will help you understand why your ex-seems to be constantly sending you mixed messages.<\/p>\n<p>This is very common after a breakup and my clients often complain about how their ex is giving them the \u201chot and cold treatment\u201d<\/p>\n<p>One day they\u2019re telling you they miss you like crazy and seem to want to get back together. The next day they\u2019re completely ignoring your calls and texts.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019ve been there yourself, you know how frustrating this can be. It\u2019s kinda like they\u2019ve got your emotions attached to a yo-yo. They\u2019re giving you plenty of hope one day. Then crushing those hopes the next day after that.<\/p>\n<p>Are you ready to hear this?<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/251746168\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>The first thing you should understand is that this type of behavior is completely normal. Your ex isn\u2019t weird or unique because he or she gives you a positive vibe one day and then seems cold or completely indifferent the next day.<\/p>\n<p>In my experience, women tend to be more likely to send these kinds of mixed messages after a breakup, but men are definitely guilty as well.<\/p>\n<p>The bottom line is that it\u2019s a\u00a0very common thing.<\/p>\n<p>Secondly, before I jump into talking about why they\u2019re doing this and what it means. I want to warn you about trying to read too much into your ex\u2019s actions and words. Sure, sometimes you can get a genuine idea of your ex\u2019s feelings by reading between the lines, but it\u2019s also very easy to over analyze or misinterpret things.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ll just say this: Try not to spend all your time thinking about things your ex has said or done.<\/p>\n<p>That kind of stuff isn\u2019t going to get you any closer to winning them back. It\u2019s always better to focus on the things you can control than to stress about what your ex is saying or doing.<\/p>\n<p>You want to know why your ex keeps giving you the \u2018hot and cold\u2019 treatment and what the hell it means for your chances of getting back together?<\/p>\n<p>Well, typically this type of back-and-forth attitude is a result of your ex\u2019s own internal struggles.<\/p>\n<p>He or she has obviously decided at least rationally and consciously that your relationship isn\u2019t worth pursuing &#8211; hence the breakup.<\/p>\n<p>But just because they\u2019ve chosen to end the relationship, doesn\u2019t mean that your ex isn\u2019t having second thoughts or struggling to adapt to life without you.<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019re probably just as heartbroken about the breakup as you are. And just like you, they\u2019re on a bit of an emotional roller coaster ride.<\/p>\n<p>Surely, you\u2019ve had your ups and downs since the breakup as well, right?<\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re out with your friends, having fun, everything seems okay. No crying, no sitting around thinking about how much life sucks and so on.<\/p>\n<p>But an hour later, when you\u2019re alone and your friends are no longer around to distract you, those emotions can sometimes come flooding back. And all of a sudden you feel the heartbreak and the loneliness again.<\/p>\n<p>And your ex is experiencing the exact same emotional roller coaster.<\/p>\n<p>One minute, they\u2019re feeling confident about their decision to break up with you. Because life is going well, their mind is occupied and they\u2019re not feeling those post-breakup emotions.<\/p>\n<p>The next minute, they\u2019re alone, missing you like crazy and they cave into these emotions and pick up their phone to call you or send you a text.<\/p>\n<p>And keep in mind that your ex may also be struggling with their decision to break up with you.<\/p>\n<p>Their head says that it\u2019s the right choice and their heart says that they should run back to you and get back together so that their pain they\u2019re experiencing will disappear.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019ve dumped someone before, then you know exactly what I\u2019m talking about.<\/p>\n<p>The heartache that you feel after breaking up with someone can often cause you to give in to temptation and take them back, even when you know logically that it maybe a wrong decision to make.<\/p>\n<p>When your ex is going through these same emotions, they\u2019re usually going to have enough self-restraint to resist the temptation to run over to your house and ask to get back together.<\/p>\n<p>But they may not be able to stop themselves from texting you to say that they miss you or calling you to chat because they\u2019re lonely and missing your company.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, when they\u2019re feeling good or they\u2019re keeping busy, then they\u2019re not going to be feeling those downer emotions and they\u2019re more likely to ignore your call or say something that gives the impression there\u2019s no hope of ever getting back together.<\/p>\n<p>Obviously, if you\u2019re trying to rekindle things with your ex, then the fact that your ex is struggling with the decision to break up is good news for you.<\/p>\n<p>When he or she tells you that they miss you or they seem to be affectionate on a particular day, those feelings are usually real but the problem is that your ex can usually squash those feelings with the rationale belief that breaking up was the right decision.<\/p>\n<p>Taking advantage of your ex\u2019s uneasiness and uncertainty about the decision to end your relationship is a key component of my Ex Factor Guide program, so if your ex is giving off the hot and cold messages, then head over to www.BreakupBrad.com and checkout my free video.<\/p>\n<p>In it I talk more about how to overpower your ex\u2019s logical, rational thinking and tap into their emotions, hopefully leading them to cave in and ask you to get back together and give the relationship another shot.<\/p>\n<p>Again, the address for that video is BreakupBrad.com.<\/p>\n<p>And I\u2019ll put link to that in the description video below as well.<\/p>\n<p>Now, there\u2019s one other reason why your ex may be sending you mixed messages and that\u2019s because they want to keep you around as a backup plan in case they decide the single life isn\u2019t as great as they\u2019d hoped it would be.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes this is something that people do without actually realizing it consciously but it\u2019s still fairly common and if you think about it, it actually make a lot of sense.<\/p>\n<p>I mean if your ex was the one to initiate the breakup and he or she knows you still want to be together with them then they\u2019re in total control of the situation.<\/p>\n<p>So, they\u2019ll send you a series of confusing up-and-down messages that leave you thinking there\u2019s still hope of getting back together, while they take the time to feel things out and see what life is like without you by their side.<\/p>\n<p>This allows your ex to either enjoy the freedom of being single or to pursue other romantic options.<\/p>\n<p>While they occasionally send you affectionate messages or signals to make sure you remain interested and don\u2019t lose hope of getting back together.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, this just gives your ex the best of both worlds. They get to break up with you and test out what it\u2019s like to be single while they keep you as their backup plan, knowing you\u2019ll jump at the chance to get back together if they ask.<\/p>\n<p>And this is obviously a bit devious of your ex to play this kind of game and toy with your emotions just so they can keep their options open but again like I said, it\u2019s also very common and completely logical from your ex\u2019s perspective.<\/p>\n<p>However, if you want to get back together with your ex, then you absolutely cannot let yourself fall into this trap and become your ex\u2019s backup plan. It\u2019s very dangerous to handover all the power and let your ex have total control.<\/p>\n<p>Partly, you can escape this situation by using the No Contact method that I advocate in some of my other videos and in my other program.<\/p>\n<p>Best of luck out there and I\u2019ll talk to you soon!<\/p>\n<h2><strong><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">Video: Secrets To Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1423\" src=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/MYS-GetYourExBoyfriend.jpg\" alt=\"Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back\" width=\"933\" height=\"420\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/MYS-GetYourExBoyfriend.jpg 933w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/MYS-GetYourExBoyfriend-300x135.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/MYS-GetYourExBoyfriend-768x346.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 933px) 100vw, 933px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Brad Browning From The Ex Factor Guide If you can&#8217;t tell for sure if you&#8217;re over analyzing your ex&#8217;s behavior, then check this out&#8230; The Ex Factor Guide Why Your Ex Gives You The&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2368,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[13,15,16],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2351"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2351"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2351\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2606,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2351\/revisions\/2606"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2368"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2351"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2351"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2351"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}