{"id":2216,"date":"2019-02-18T12:45:33","date_gmt":"2019-02-18T12:45:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=2216"},"modified":"2019-02-18T12:45:33","modified_gmt":"2019-02-18T12:45:33","slug":"how-to-get-your-ex-back-if-you-were-in-a-long-distance-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/how-to-get-your-ex-back-if-you-were-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Get Your Ex Back If You Were In A Long-Distance Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>By Brad Browning<\/em><br \/>\n<em>From <a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">The Ex Factor Guide<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<h3><strong>If you can&#8217;t tell for sure if you&#8217;re over analyzing your ex&#8217;s behavior, then check this out&#8230;<\/strong><\/h3>\n<h3><strong><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">The Ex Factor Guide<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n<h2>How to Get Your Ex Back If You Were In A Long-Distance Relationship<\/h2>\n<p>Do you want to know how to get back together with your long-distance ex?<\/p>\n<p>If you were in a long-distance relationship that has ended too early and you want a second chance, then here&#8217;s some information to help you&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>A lot of people ask me long-distance break-up related questions, so I think it\u2019s time to address them&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately I have to start by sharing some bad news.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d love to tell you that it\u2019s going to be easy to fix your long-distance relationship&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d love to say that all my long-distance clients are able to get their ex back and live happily ever after&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>But the unfortunate reality is that being far apart makes things a lot more complicated.<\/p>\n<p>And as a result, the odds of getting back together are lower than if you lived down the street from one another.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/258153506\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but I want to be 100% honest right up front so you don\u2019t expect miracles.<\/p>\n<p>That being said, the good news is that it\u2019s usually absolutely possible to get back together with your ex even if he lives far away.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve seen my coaching clients succeed in reversing their long-distance breakups hundreds of times in the past, so it can certainly be done.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s just a bit more difficult and the chances of success depend greatly on the details of your specific relationship.<\/p>\n<p>For example, how far you live from your ex, how often you saw one another in person, how long you were together&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Those things all influence how difficult it\u2019s going to be to get back together.<\/p>\n<p>If you and your ex met online and you\u2019ve never met in person or have only met once or twice, and you live on separate continents, then, unfortunately, your chances of getting him or her back are really very slim.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t mean to offend anyone who is in a scenario like this, because I know your breakup is just as painful&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>For instance, how can you send my <em>Good Reminder<\/em> text message &#8212; which is essentially a text that subtly reminds your ex of a happy time you shared together &#8212; if you never actually met in person?<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re dealing with an ex you met online who you\u2019ve met only once or twice in person, it\u2019s probably time to start thinking about moving on.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand (and this type of things is more common) if you and your ex met in person and then moved apart, or perhaps you met online but spent weeks or months together on holidays or in-person visits\u2026<\/p>\n<p>If you live on the same continent, and you can actually see one another at least once every month or two, then you have a much better shot at getting back together.<\/p>\n<p>This is especially true if you have spent months or even years living in the same city with your ex but now you live apart for whatever reason.<\/p>\n<p>In that type of situation, unless you\u2019ve already made some pretty serious mistakes, you\u2019ve got a good chance at working things out with your ex.<\/p>\n<p>And another factor that will determine your chances of success is time.<\/p>\n<p>How long has it been since the breakup? A week? A month? A year? The more that time passes, the more difficult things become.<\/p>\n<p>If it\u2019s been a couple of months and you haven\u2019t been begging your ex for another chance every day since the breakup, then things may very well still salvageable.<\/p>\n<p>If it\u2019s been a year or more, then unfortunately your odds are probably a lot lower.<\/p>\n<p>It also depends on how many mistakes you\u2019ve made in that time since the breakup, but hopefully all of you guys watching have already signed up for my program or at the very least watched the video on my website to ensure you\u2019re not unknowingly making mistakes that will push your ex away.<\/p>\n<p>And for those of you watching who just desperately need to know whether you\u2019ve still got a shot at winning him or her back, you can take the free quiz tool I put together to evaluate your situation and calculate your odds.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not a foolproof tool, but it does do a pretty decent job if you answer the questions honestly.<\/p>\n<p>And if you wanna take that quiz, just visit www.BreakupBrad.com\/quiz<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, now that you know what sort of challenge you\u2019re facing, let\u2019s talk about where to begin.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019ve been apart from your ex for some time but haven\u2019t had any real contact with your ex, then you can safely skip the next little bit of this video but if you have spoken to your ex more than once or twice since the breakup, or if it\u2019s been less than a month since you parted ways, then pay close attention because this is definitely important.<\/p>\n<p>As soon as possible after your breakup, you want to cut off all communication with your ex, this means completely ignoring your ex for around a month or so\u2026.<\/p>\n<p>Generally, I recommend 30 days of not speaking to him or her and the point of this is to show your ex that you\u2019re moving on. You\u2019re not going to wait around crying, hoping that your ex will change their mind.<\/p>\n<p>And this is the first step towards shifting the balance of power back in your favor, and it is absolutely critical.<\/p>\n<p>You need to essentially \u2018shock\u2019 your ex into realizing what life is like without you, and you need to give off the impression that there\u2019s plenty of other guys or girls who would jump at the chance to date you.<\/p>\n<p>That puts the pressure on your ex and will make him or her have second thoughts about leaving such a desirable commodity.<\/p>\n<p>I can\u2019t stress enough the importance of not communicating with your ex for the first while after your breakup.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve made other videos on this and it\u2019s extensively detailed in my program, but the benefits go way beyond just the mind games with your ex, it also has scientific backing.<\/p>\n<p>Studies have proven that, if there\u2019s little or no contact, your ex will miss you the most around 3-4 weeks after a breakup. Those feelings are intensified by the lack of communication, and the timing coincides nicely with your initial messages after the no contact period is over.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll be reaching out to him or her right when they\u2019re missing you the most, right?<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s also been proven that humans tend to let go of negative memories more easily than positive ones, meaning the no contact period, lets your ex forget about why they wanted to break up in the first place and replaces those memories with nostalgia and positive emotion.<\/p>\n<p>You know what else the no contact phase does? It stops you from reaching out to your ex to apologize, beg for another chance, ask for forgiveness, or anything along those lines that will usually hurt your chances of getting back together.<\/p>\n<p>I know it may feel like a good idea to mail your ex a 5-page love notes spilling your heart out, but all that does is show your ex how much of a desperate loser you are at the moment.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is that no matter how badly you want to reach out to your ex to tell them how you feel and beg for a second chance, there simply aren\u2019t any words that can change your ex\u2019s mind especially if they live hundreds of miles away.<\/p>\n<p>Romantic attraction is an organic, natural thing it can\u2019t be forced, you can\u2019t make your ex fall back in love with you using words and if you try it\u2019ll only make things worse.<\/p>\n<p>Talking about the relationship, your breakup or any kind of drama and bickering is guaranteed to make your ex less receptive to your attempts to get back together so avoid that kind of stuff at all costs.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, you need to do and say things that will change how your ex feels about you fundamentally, making them decide on their own, that breaking up was a bad idea in the first place.<\/p>\n<p>And when you re-build your ex\u2019s feelings of romantic attraction naturally through actions rather than words and after you use some of the sneaky psychological tactics that I teach in my Ex Factor program, your ex\u2019s perception and feelings towards you are going to improve dramatically.<\/p>\n<p>And that\u2019s when you\u2019ll actually be able to win them back and start fresh with a new and improved relationship.<\/p>\n<p>What if you\u2019ve already been broken up for 6 weeks for instance, and you\u2019ve talked to your ex every few days since the breakup? In that case, start the no contact period right now and stick to it for at least 2-3 weeks, preferably more.<\/p>\n<p>And make sure that during that time, you\u2019re keeping busy and dropping subtle hints to your ex about how well you\u2019re doing.<\/p>\n<p>You know there\u2019s lots of things you can do, even when you\u2019re thousands of miles away to convey how much you\u2019re thriving since the breakup.<\/p>\n<p>Use social media, for instance, or mutual friends, post photos on Facebook of you with some new girl or guy so that your ex sees them. Tell a mutual friend about your new promotion at work so that they can share the news with your ex.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s tons of things you can do, just make sure that you\u2019re subtle and not obviously trying to make your ex jealous or upset.<\/p>\n<p>Alright, so when the no contact phase is over, and it\u2019s time to start talking to your ex again, that\u2019s when you can bust out some of my text message or email templates.<\/p>\n<p>And these are messages I\u2019ve specifically come up with to help break the ice and get your ex interested in talking with you again.<\/p>\n<p>Definitely don\u2019t just call your ex out of the blue and ask, \u201cwhat\u2019s up?\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>When you first start talking to him or her again, it needs to be very brief. It needs to be very fun and upbeat and leave the door open for future communication.<\/p>\n<p>When you do first start talking to your ex again, you need to take it slow and make sure all the interactions are fun for your ex, so no drama, no talk about getting back together, etc.<\/p>\n<p>Just be funny, stay positive, and make sure that your ex wants to hear from you again and will be receptive to future calls or texts from you.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe even drop a subtle reminder or two to trigger memories of happy times you shared together and bring up an inside joke to spark those feelings of attraction in the back of your ex\u2019s mind.<\/p>\n<p>Trust me, this actually does really work well.<\/p>\n<p>And after slowly talking more frequently online or via phone and text, the time will eventually come where you wanna either meet your ex in person or arrange a Skype call or Facetime meeting online with them.<\/p>\n<p>In-person is way better, but you should only EVER visit your ex\u2019s hometown if you have a legitimate excuse for being there, so if your ex lives on the other side of the world and you don\u2019t know anyone else in the area, then it\u2019s going to be way too obvious that you\u2019re just trying to get back together.<\/p>\n<p>So that\u2019s not what you want, you still want your ex to be thinking that you\u2019re just being friendly and hoping to \u201ccatchup\u201d over coffee.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re visiting your ex to meet in person, it\u2019s always best to think of a legitimate excuse for being \u201cin the area\u201d, which will allow you to invite your ex out for a quick drink or a bite of lunch while you\u2019re in town.<\/p>\n<p>And if you have to use Skype or an online web chat instead, then the same principles apply, it\u2019s just going to be a lot more difficult to use the meet-up to generate attraction.<\/p>\n<p>Keep the first meet-up with your ex short and sweet.<\/p>\n<p>Make sure you\u2019re friendly, you\u2019re upbeat, you\u2019re positive, just as you have been when you were talking online or through text.<\/p>\n<p>And make sure you clearly portray to your ex how well your life has been going since the breakup, make sure they understand that you\u2019re happy and enjoying the single life.<\/p>\n<p>If possible, you can be a bit sneaky and mention that \u201cyou\u2019ve been on a few dates\u201d. Or put on a sheepish grin and say it\u2019s \u201cnothing serious\u201d or something along those lines.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t get into specifics or talk about it further than that, it\u2019s just good to drop a hint to put some pressure on your ex and to make them feel a tiny bit jealous and it also add an element of mystery you know, so that your ex leaves the meeting curious about your new life.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s also important to add some sexual chemistry to the in-person meeting.<\/p>\n<p>This is the main reason why in-person is far better than Skype or phone calls because you can\u2019t really do this online.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t need to be all over your ex &#8212; in fact, that\u2019s a bad idea&#8211; but you should do a bit of flirting.<\/p>\n<p>Casually touch your ex\u2019s arm, hold eye contact fora bit longer than normal, maybe drop an innuendo or hint at something sexual that has meaning to your ex.<\/p>\n<p>Just generally be flirtatious, playful and make sure your ex is having a good time and that the chemistry is positive.<\/p>\n<p>No talk AT ALL about your past relationship, the breakup, etc., that\u2019s toxic.<\/p>\n<p>All you want is for your ex to leave the meeting thinking that they were dumb to let such a fun, interesting and attractive person walk out of their life.<\/p>\n<p>Where things go from this point? It depends on how the first meeting goes, and how difficult it will be for you and your ex to see one another and talk to each other regularly.<\/p>\n<p>If you live close enough that you could conceivably meet again in a few weeks, then leave the first meet-up by saying something like \u201chey it was fun catching up, let\u2019s do it again soon. I might be back in town later this month so I\u2019ll try to make time for us to grab a drink while I\u2019m here.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Or, if the first meeting is going extremely well and the chemistry is great, then you might be able to turn the quick coffee date with your ex into dinner, drinks and a trip back to your ex\u2019s house for some sexy time.<\/p>\n<p>But don\u2019t expect that to happen obviously the first time you meet with your ex after the no contact period, normally it\u2019ll only be 20 or 30minutes.<\/p>\n<p>However, it your ex seems extremely flirty and interested in hanging out for longer, you can go with the flow and see what happens but remember not to bore your ex, get into any drama, or stick around too long.<\/p>\n<p>If you come on too strong, your intentions are obviously going to become obvious and you\u2019ll do more harm than good.<\/p>\n<p>For most people, it\u2019ll take more than one meeting with their ex to actually get back together and that\u2019s fine. Continue to give him or her lots of space, continue to put on your happy face and stay busy with your exciting new life and continue making sure that your ex knows what cool stuff you\u2019re up to since the break-up.<\/p>\n<p>And of course, send him or her the occasional funny message, thoughtful reminder, inside joke, etc. Building your connection as best you can via text or online messages.<\/p>\n<p>As you chat on the phone, make sure to keep it brief, fun and interesting and always be the one to end the call before your ex has the chance.<\/p>\n<p>When the time is right, you can build up to another in-person meet up and this time you\u2019ll be going into the \u2018date\u2019 with better chemistry and a stronger connection, so you can continue the flirting and essentially continue to charm and seduce your ex.<\/p>\n<p>It might take several meet-ups, phone calls and messages over the course of weeks or months but eventually, you should reach the point where your ex is receptive to sex or to the idea of giving your relationship a second chance.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t rush the process.<\/p>\n<p>Just remember that the goal is to build natural attraction so that your ex decides to take you back on their own, that\u2019s the only way things will work out in your favor, and if you don\u2019t lose sight of that, you\u2019ll be well on your way to getting back together.<\/p>\n<h2><strong><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">Video: Secrets To Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1423\" src=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/MYS-GetYourExBoyfriend.jpg\" alt=\"Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back\" width=\"933\" height=\"420\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/MYS-GetYourExBoyfriend.jpg 933w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/MYS-GetYourExBoyfriend-300x135.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/MYS-GetYourExBoyfriend-768x346.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 933px) 100vw, 933px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Brad Browning From The Ex Factor Guide If you can&#8217;t tell for sure if you&#8217;re over analyzing your ex&#8217;s behavior, then check this out&#8230; The Ex Factor Guide How to Get Your Ex Back&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2551,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[26,16],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2216"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2216"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2216\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2611,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2216\/revisions\/2611"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2551"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2216"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2216"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2216"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}