{"id":2149,"date":"2018-08-28T00:17:47","date_gmt":"2018-08-28T00:17:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=2149"},"modified":"2018-08-23T01:27:22","modified_gmt":"2018-08-23T01:27:22","slug":"the-sexiest-word-you-can-say-to-him","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/the-sexiest-word-you-can-say-to-him\/","title":{"rendered":"The Sexiest Word You Can Say to Him"},"content":{"rendered":"

By James Bauer<\/em>
\nAuthor of The Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

What If You Knew What Men Secretly Wanted, but They Could Never Tell You… Don’t Forget To Check Out\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>T<\/em>he Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

The Sexiest Word You Can Say to Him<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Ava gave everything she had to her boyfriend Liam.<\/p>\n

She was the perfect girlfriend. She cooked for him, planned special surprises for him, attended sports events with him, and made sure she supported him in everything.<\/p>\n

Then Liam did the one thing she never expected:<\/p>\n

He left her.<\/p>\n

Not only did he leave her, but a week later she found out from friends that he\u2019d been seeing someone else behind her back.<\/p>\n

\u201cThey knew all along!\u201d she told me.<\/p>\n

\u201cThey expected me to feel sorry for him, because it was such a dilemma. This cow or me. Here I was so nice, and he didn\u2019t want to hurt me, but he felt this passion and chemistry that he\u2019d never felt before.\u201d<\/p>\n

Ava sneered.<\/p>\n

\u201cNice if he would\u2019ve told me that before he broke my heart and stomped all over it.\u201d<\/p>\n

Ava believed that being the perfect girlfriend protected her against heartbreak. If only she did everything right, her boyfriend would never want to leave her.<\/p>\n

Sadly, as you know, it doesn\u2019t work that way.<\/p>\n

In fact, being an imperfect girlfriend works for you, not against you.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s because he sees you\u2019re not willing to set down everything and make him the center of your life.<\/p>\n

He sees that you\u2019ve still got your own life and interests, which you\u2019re not giving up for him.<\/p>\n

The distance between you adds spice to your togetherness. You\u2019re more than just an extension of him.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re your own woman. And if one of you decides to leave the relationship, you won\u2019t be left broken. You\u2019ll still have a life of your own.<\/p>\n

Ava was ready to learn how to make her next relationship a success. She didn\u2019t want to do this again: give everything to a man, only to end up alone.<\/p>\n

So I taught her the sexiest word any woman can say to a man:<\/p>\n

\u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n

And its 1001 permutations:<\/p>\n

Thank you for the invite, but I\u2019ve got other plans.
\nI love being with you, but I\u2019m not ready to go any further just yet.
\nI\u2019m so glad you\u2019re going to the game, but I\u2019m not coming with you this time.
\nI\u2019m hungry, too. What are you going to get for us?<\/p>\n

Ava was horrified. Wouldn\u2019t saying no make him lose interest?<\/p>\n

Some men may lose interest, I told her. But those are the kind of men you don\u2019t want. Men who are only interested in immediate gratification.<\/p>\n

Men who make good partners are willing to go through some hardship on the path to love.<\/p>\n

They understand that a woman is their equal\u2014not their personal assistant, chef, or mother. So there\u2019s give and take on both sides.<\/p>\n

Telling him no acts as a test of his character.<\/p>\n

Does he get upset when you won\u2019t bend over backwards for him?<\/p>\n

Is he okay with the idea that he gets some of your time but not all of it?<\/p>\n

Will he make some effort for you, or do you have to do everything for him?<\/p>\n

But there\u2019s another, even more important reason to learn to say no:<\/p>\n

It sets you up for a lasting relationship. Here\u2019s why\u2026<\/p>\n

Relationships should be sustainable, not a constant drain on your resources.<\/p>\n

Good relationships don\u2019t consume your life but rather restore you. They give as much energy as they take.<\/p>\n

Want to know if your relationship is sustainable or not? Ask yourself:<\/p>\n

Do you ever feel resentful about how much you give?
\nDo you wish that just once he\u2019d appreciate how much you do for him?
\nDo you fantasize about him taking the lead once in a while and pampering you?<\/p>\n

If you answered yes to any of those questions, then your relationship is draining you. You\u2019re in danger of becoming his caretaker, not his lover. That\u2019s not sustainable.<\/p>\n

Luckily, all it takes to start spicing things up is that magic word:<\/p>\n

No.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t offer to do everything. Ask him to do a few things for you.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let him decide for you. When he presumes you\u2019ll do something\u2014without asking you first\u2014exercise your right to back out of it. He has to ask, not assume.<\/p>\n

Before you agree to anything, check in with yourself.<\/p>\n

Are you offering to do this because you want to \u2026 or because you feel expected to?<\/p>\n

If you do this, are you doing it with no strings attached \u2026 or because you expect him to pay you back in some way?<\/p>\n

How are you going to feel if you say yes: excited \u2026 or stressed to have one more thing on your plate?<\/p>\n

When you do things only because you genuinely want to, resentment and obligation disappear from your relationship. You\u2019re taking your power back.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s super sexy!<\/p>\n

Video: The #1 Trait Men Desire In A Woman<\/a> <\/strong><\/h2>\n

Learn this and he’ll come at you with the energy and enthusiasm he had on your FIRST DATE!<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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