{"id":2139,"date":"2018-08-16T00:41:25","date_gmt":"2018-08-16T00:41:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=2139"},"modified":"2018-08-01T03:02:29","modified_gmt":"2018-08-01T03:02:29","slug":"can-i-keep-seeing-him-and-also-date-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/can-i-keep-seeing-him-and-also-date-others\/","title":{"rendered":"Can I Keep Seeing Him, and Also Date Others?"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Claire Casey<\/em>
\nAuthor of Language of Desire<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

Does He Really Love You Or Is He Just USING YOU? Watch this\u00a0special video\u00a0now to finally find out the TRUTH.\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Video: How To Make A Man Connect With You (And Only You)<\/strong><\/a><\/h3>\n

Can I Keep Seeing Him, and Also Date Others?<\/h2>\n

You are dating a great guy, and you want to keep him. The only problem is that you aren\u2019t sure whether now is the time to commit\u2026 How do you make your decision?<\/p>\n

Dear Claire,<\/em><\/p>\n

I\u2019m in my 60s and single. I was married for 30 years. I got my life back 2 years ago when I met a wonderful man my age who has never been married. <\/em><\/p>\n

We love each other, but not sure if our partnership is sustainable. He wants to spend more time with me than I with him. <\/em><\/p>\n

I have a busy life: friends, home, interesting work. <\/em><\/p>\n

He\u2019s more a loner, but wealthy and can afford a lifestyle of comfort and travel. <\/em><\/p>\n

I\u2019m like an adolescent who just got her life back. I\u2019d like more time to explore Me. <\/em><\/p>\n

If I get back on-line to see how I interact with other men, so will he, look at other women. <\/em><\/p>\n

He\u2019s my first intimate relationship since my long-term marriage with kids. I don\u2019t want to lose him to another female, but I\u2019m not ready to settle down. <\/em><\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t want a friend, but a romantic partner. Advice? <\/em><\/p>\n

\u2014 Margaret<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Hi, Margaret, thanks for your email.<\/p>\n

You have asked two good questions, and you definitely aren\u2019t the first woman facing a decision like this\u2026<\/p>\n

\u201cWe love each other. Is our relationship sustainable?\u201d<\/strong><\/h3>\n

The \u201cNo\u201d Answer:<\/strong><\/h3>\n

IF he has asked you to commit to dating ONLY him and you still want to date other men, then no, your relationship is not sustainable.<\/p>\n

You didn\u2019t exactly say he had asked for an exclusive relationship (to date only him), so I\u2019m guessing here.<\/p>\n

But it sounds you\u2019d like to date other men, but not have him date other women (and potentially find someone else), which you already know isn\u2019t fair or appropriate.<\/p>\n

The \u201cYes\u201d Answer:<\/strong><\/h3>\n

IF he has NOT asked you to date only him, and he\u2019s fine with you dating other men, then yes, your relationship is sustainable.<\/p>\n

Pretty simple.<\/p>\n

But if you\u2019re actually asking THIS question, then\u2026<\/p>\n

If your actual question is \u201cCan the two of us make a relationship work,\u201d well of course you can!<\/p>\n

You\u2019re both smart, and though he\u2019s never been married, you have plenty of experience in building a long-term love relationship, and when two people put their heads and hearts together and determine to love each other for the long term then hell, yeah and woo-hoo!<\/p>\n

But it may not be sustainable in its current state (with you dating other men). But there\u2019s a good way to find out.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s what you need to do\u2026<\/p>\n

Two Critical Factors Which May Help You BOTH Make a Decision<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Critical Factor Number 1:<\/strong><\/p>\n

You need to make a decision about what is more important to you \u2014 dating around, or having a committed relationship.<\/p>\n

Both are perfectly acceptable! But you can\u2019t have both at the same time.<\/p>\n

Critical Factor Number 2:<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you decide you want to keep dating other men, then you can make things clearer for both of you and POSSIBLY manage to KEEP HIM by deciding how LONG you want to date others.<\/p>\n

Do you envision living this way for the next three months? The next year? Two years?<\/p>\n

Or do you feel (right now, anyway) that you really don\u2019t want to enter an exclusive relationship ever again?<\/p>\n

Legit questions, and if you can answer them clearly, and then communicate that with him, you\u2019re giving him a timeline that maybe (and it\u2019s a big maybe) he might be okay with.<\/p>\n

In other words, you\u2019re letting him have all the information to make his own decision. Which is a beautiful thing. You\u2019re both adults, and who knows\u2026 Maybe he\u2019ll wait for you.<\/p>\n

Do you want to know if he really loves you or is he just using you? Watch this\u00a0special video<\/a>\u00a0now to finally find out the TRUTH.\u00a0CLICK HERE!<\/a><\/strong><\/h3>\n

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