{"id":1977,"date":"2018-06-21T03:42:51","date_gmt":"2018-06-21T03:42:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1977"},"modified":"2018-06-18T04:09:51","modified_gmt":"2018-06-18T04:09:51","slug":"beat-negativity-for-a-positively-amazing-romance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/beat-negativity-for-a-positively-amazing-romance\/","title":{"rendered":"Beat Negativity for a Positively Amazing Romance"},"content":{"rendered":"

By James Bauer<\/em>
\nAuthor of The Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

What If You Knew What Men Secretly Wanted, but They Could Never Tell You… Don’t Forget To Check Out\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>T<\/em>he Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

The Secret to Instant Sex Appeal<\/strong><\/h2>\n

You know what really sucks about having a bad day? Everything.<\/p>\n

I have a friend\u2014let\u2019s call her Sarah\u2014who was having a rotten day recently. She slept late, her boss was on her butt the second she walked through the door, clients were upset, and halfway through the afternoon, her evening plans got canceled.<\/p>\n

Sarah\u2019s not one to give up easily. She tried to bounce back. She opened a new browser window, did a quick search for bad day inspiration and landed on a page full of gems like these:<\/p>\n

\u201cThe only difference between a good day and a bad day is your attitude.\u201d \u2013 Dennis S. Brown
\n\u201cSometimes you need those bad days to help you appreciate the good ones.\u201d
\n\u201cAt midnight, even bad days come to an end.\u201d \u2013 Ms. Moem
\nAnd to top things off . . .<\/p>\n

\u201cA bad day is only as bad as you let it be.\u201d \u2013 James Yager
\nThat last one broke her effort to be positive. She was ready to scream at her monitor. Only as bad as you let it be? Really?!<\/p>\n

All that positivity felt like nonsense\u2014which is the essence of a bad day. It makes everything feel tainted.<\/p>\n

Every one of those quotes is true, but that\u2019s not much comfort on a bad day. Almost nothing is. That\u2019s exactly why you need to be careful how you interact with your partner on bad days.<\/p>\n

Negativity that has nothing to do with your relationship can all-too-easily mess with romance.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re in a negative frame of mind, you\u2019ll be drawn to negative perceptions and negative conclusions. That\u2019s true down to the neurological level.<\/p>\n

A team of researchers recently confirmed this. When you\u2019re depressed, even your brain shifts toward cynicism. You\u2019ll be more likely to use negative words and make negative choices.<\/p>\n

Time with your man at the end of a crappy day can make things feel better. But only if you keep that negativity from creeping its way into your relationship.<\/p>\n

Thankfully, there\u2019s a way to do that . . . without invalidating how you feel. The following three ideas will help you be authentic\u2014even at the end of a horrible day\u2014without wrecking date night.<\/p>\n

Notice your outlook.
\nSometimes people slip into bad moods without realizing it. If you\u2019re about to spend some time with your man, take stock of how you feel.<\/p>\n

Has it been a frustrating day? Are you on edge? Is your outlook negative right now?<\/p>\n

Good decision-making and intimate connection both hinge on self-awareness. Know where you are before meeting up with him.<\/p>\n

Accept where you are.
\nIf you\u2019re not in the best of moods, accept that gracefully.<\/p>\n

Acceptance doesn\u2019t mean getting all comfy with negativity. It just means talking to yourself like you\u2019d talk to anyone else you care about.<\/p>\n

\u201cSelf,\u201d you\u2019ll say, \u201csome crappy stuff happened today. It would get to anyone. It\u2019s okay.\u201d<\/p>\n

Beating yourself up for feeling bad will only make you feel worse. And trying to \u201cfake it \u2018til you make it\u201d is fundamentally inauthentic. Just admit to yourself that you\u2019ve felt better.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in a negative frame of mind, practice counter-balance.
\nOnce you understand the possible effect of a bad day, you can work to counter-balance it. Here\u2019s what that looks like.<\/p>\n

You have a bad day. You recognize and accept your mood before meeting your guy for dinner. Then you admit your bad mood up front. It\u2019s a form of inoculation. He\u2019s less likely to take things personally.<\/p>\n

You can even tell him why your day was cruddy if you want. You don\u2019t have to be inauthentic. But you don\u2019t have to let a bad day ruin a potentially good night, either.<\/p>\n

A little self-awareness and self-acceptance can go a long way\u2014especially on rough days. Before you spend time with your partner, check your mood. If you\u2019re upset about something else, don\u2019t accidentally take it out on him.<\/p>\n

On bad days, accept your mood and counter-balance it from a place of awareness. That\u2019s how happily-ever-after couples guard the sacred space of their romance.<\/p>\n

Video: The #1 Trait Men Desire In A Woman<\/a> <\/strong><\/h2>\n

Fair warning:<\/strong> once you do this, there’s no turning back. He’ll come at you with the energy and enthusiasm he had on your FIRST DATE<\/strong>!<\/p>\n

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