{"id":1517,"date":"2018-04-12T05:38:50","date_gmt":"2018-04-12T05:38:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1517"},"modified":"2018-06-04T22:28:43","modified_gmt":"2018-06-04T22:28:43","slug":"the-secret-to-instant-sex-appeal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/the-secret-to-instant-sex-appeal\/","title":{"rendered":"The Secret to Instant Sex Appeal"},"content":{"rendered":"

By James Bauer<\/em>
\nAuthor of The Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

What If You Knew What Men Secretly Wanted, but They Could Never Tell You… Don’t Forget To Check Out\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>T<\/em>he Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

The Secret to Instant Sex Appeal<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Would you rather\u00a0look\u00a0<\/em>sexier or\u00a0feel<\/em>\u00a0sexier?<\/p>\n

What if you could have BOTH?<\/p>\n

You can. And no matter if you\u2019re currently single or happily dating, the effect on your love life can be profoundly positive.<\/p>\n

There are many ways to feel sexier.\u00a0 But one of the simplest ways is the tried and true cosmetic, lipstick.<\/p>\n

Let me explain.<\/p>\n

Psychologists have known about the \u201clipstick effect\u201d for a while. The term was coined after the Great Depression when cosmetic sales soared despite limited financial resources.<\/p>\n

It was later confirmed as a legitimate trend. But not without some backlash.<\/p>\n

A few years ago, a group of researchers argued that women only try to make themselves more attractive to secure a mate.<\/p>\n

The theory was understandable unsettling, as it suggested women will do whatever\u2019s necessary just to find a man.<\/p>\n

But a recent study has revealed something new. A team of Harvard researchers found that women actually perform cognitive tasks\u00a0better<\/em>\u00a0if they\u2019re wearing make-up.<\/p>\n

And they don\u2019t think this has anything to do with being desperate for a guy. Their conclusion was that a boost in confidence translates to other improvements.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how I\u2019d say it.<\/p>\n

When you feel better about yourself, you do everything better in\u00a0every environment<\/em>. You\u2019ll have better conversations, engage with guys on a more authentic level, and ultimately come across as sexier \u2013 inside and out.<\/p>\n

So how can you give yourself an instant confidence boost? I have three suggestions. None of them have to do with bright shades of lipstick, but all of them make you feel more confident in your own skin.<\/p>\n

1. Like how you look.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

This isn\u2019t limited to makeup. If you\u2019re not into lipstick and eyeshadow, that\u2019s not going to do it for you. But what\u00a0does<\/em>\u00a0make you feel better about your appearance?<\/p>\n

Perhaps it\u2019s being in good shape. Or wearing the perfect outfit. Or just carrying yourself with your head held high.<\/p>\n

Whatever it is, do it. Invest time in it. Take it seriously. This isn\u2019t just an exercise in vanity.<\/p>\n

Feeling like you look good\u00a0according to your own standards<\/em>\u00a0will have a significant impact on how you interact with guys.<\/p>\n

2. Embrace mistakes.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

If you\u2019re not okay with making some mistakes along the way, you\u2019re going to spend a lot of time feeling very uncomfortable. Do you know why? Because you\u2019re human, and mistakes are inevitable.<\/p>\n

But that\u2019s okay. Mistakes are also valuable learning opportunities. Even relationship mistakes.<\/p>\n

Think about the dating relationships you\u2019ve had that went south. What could you have done better? (And, yes \u2013 he\u00a0definitely<\/em>\u00a0screwed up, too!)<\/p>\n

Now, without beating yourself up, make a mental note to avoid the same mistakes in the future. And tell yourself you\u2019re perfectly capable of growth!<\/p>\n

Think of mistakes as an indication that you are growing and improving. A faster rate of making mistakes may be the best way to reach your goals faster.<\/p>\n

3. Know what you know.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

What are you good at? I mean,\u00a0really good at?<\/em>\u00a0Do you know?<\/p>\n

Reveling in your own strengths may sound arrogant, but it doesn\u2019t have to be. There\u2019s value in knowing what you do well and acknowledging your unique gifts.<\/p>\n

It might be that you\u2019re really good at your job. Or that you have a passion for a specific hobby. Or that you can connect with people better than most. Whatever you do well,\u00a0own it<\/em>.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re talking to a guy, don\u2019t be shy about the areas where you shine.<\/p>\n

You can give yourself a confidence boost any time. Look your best\u00a0for you<\/em>, think of mistakes as learning opportunities, and take pride in what you do well. Let the guy in your life see how awesome you are!<\/p>\n

The better your self-esteem, the more you\u2019ll enjoy the world of romance.<\/p>\n

P.S. If you haven\u2019t already learned to refine your natural intuition for relationships, I strongly urge you to take my short relationship course about using intuition to guide your romantic life.<\/p>\n

It’s a Relationship Reboot<\/strong> program that will totally change your life. You simply have to use your Feminine Love Instinct<\/strong> to kickstart the whole process.<\/p>\n

Learn more here:<\/p>\n

Video: The #1 Trait Men Desire In A Woman<\/a> <\/strong><\/h2>\n

Fair warning:<\/strong> once you do this, there’s no turning back. He’ll come at you with the energy and enthusiasm he had on your FIRST DATE<\/strong>!<\/p>\n

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