{"id":1466,"date":"2018-04-04T23:39:53","date_gmt":"2018-04-04T23:39:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1466"},"modified":"2018-04-04T23:54:06","modified_gmt":"2018-04-04T23:54:06","slug":"dating-men-over-40-5-tips-you-must-know","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/dating-men-over-40-5-tips-you-must-know\/","title":{"rendered":"Dating Men Over 40 \u2013 5 Tips You MUST Know\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>By Carlos Cavallo<\/em><br \/>\n<em>Author of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/committed\">Complete Commitment<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<h3><em><strong>Do You Want A Commitment From Him? Here&#8217;s the roadmap to getting his&#8230;<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/committed\">Complete Commitment<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n<h2>Dating Men Over 40 \u2013 5 Tips You MUST Know\u2026<\/h2>\n<p>If you\u2019ve been around long enough, you know that things change when you get a little older. Especially when it comes to love and relationships. Dating isn\u2019t just a giggly trip to the movies like it was in your teens and twenties\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Now you have to deal with\u00a0mature\u00a0dating \u2013 and know how to handle things as a grown-up. Yeah, I know \u2013\u00a0<em><strong>bummer<\/strong><\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>But things are better later on. You\u2019re wiser, more confident, and you don\u2019t have time to waste on game-playing with those \u201cplayers\u201d out there.<\/p>\n<p>And if you have to date a guy over 40, you should know how to handle yourself \u2013 and not get surprised in the process.<\/p>\n<p>So I\u2019m going to cover\u00a0<strong>5 special tips<\/strong>\u00a0for you if you\u2019re dating a \u201csilver fox\u201d \u2013 that\u2019s a more affectionate way of describing those guys that are a little more gray.<\/p>\n<p>First \u2013 the benefits:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Older guys<\/strong>\u00a0are better in bed. Usually, anyway. And that\u2019s good for both of you!<\/li>\n<li><strong>Older guys<\/strong>\u00a0are more established in their career, and they have more time for you\u2026<\/li>\n<li><strong>Older guys<\/strong>\u00a0have more interests and hobbies to include you in. It\u2019s not just about playing beer pong on the weekends\u2026<\/li>\n<li><strong>Older guys<\/strong>\u00a0are also in a better place financially. (If you find yourself dating a guy who\u2019s still struggling at age 40 with his money, that\u2019s a\u00a0<strong>red flag<\/strong>, by the way\u2026)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Now, that last bullet point leads us right into the first tip:<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"Dating_a_guy_over_40_8211_Tip_1_Follow_The_Money8230\">Dating a guy over 40 \u2013 Tip #1: Follow The Money\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Watch how he treats\u00a0<em>you<\/em>,\u00a0<strong>and<\/strong>\u00a0his money\u2026<\/p>\n<p>It goes without saying that if you\u2019re dating a man, you want a guy that treats you right.<\/p>\n<p>But you also want to choose a guy that has his financial $#!+ together.<\/p>\n<p>Look, let\u2019s be realistic \u2013 if you\u2019re a woman dating a man, you\u00a0care\u00a0how much he makes. Nothing says \u201c<strong>unattractive<\/strong>\u201d like a low-ambition guy who\u2019s content to just scrape by on a minimum wage job. And frankly, if you\u2019re still dating these guys, you need to level-up, honey.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em><strong>\u201cWhat?? Carlos, are you saying it\u2019s okay to be a gold-digger?\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>No<\/strong>, I\u2019m\u00a0<em><strong>not<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0saying you should look for some sugar-daddy to support you for the rest of your life\u2026<\/p>\n<p><strong>HOWEVER<\/strong>, if you want a relationship with a real man, you need to choose a guy that\u2019s earning his keep.<\/p>\n<p>You see, women are attracted to rich men for a very\u00a0<em><strong>practical reason<\/strong><\/em>: His earnings generally show how ambitious a provider he is. Women are attracted to\u00a0<em>providers.<\/em>\u00a0And men are happy to provide\u00a0<strong>for you<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>So don\u2019t feel guilty that you\u2019re turning into one of\u00a0<strong>THOSE<\/strong>\u00a0women. Looking at his earnings potential is just a way of seeing if you\u2019re going to be stuck with Homer Simpson, or a guy who will lift you a bit higher up in life.<\/p>\n<p>Oh, and watch how he manages and handles that money, too.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Is he stingy and tight? (This is\u00a0<em>bad<\/em>\u2026)<\/li>\n<li>Is he conservative and frugal? (This is good\u2026)<\/li>\n<li>Is he frivolous and a show-off? (Again,\u00a0<em>bad<\/em>\u2026)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>That will give you insight into his character that you might not be able to see until years into a relationship, so pay attention.<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"Courtship_After_40_8211_Tip_2_Don8217t_Turn_On_The_Change_Machine8230\">Courtship After 40 \u2013 Tip #2: Don\u2019t Turn On The Change Machine\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>A guy in his 40s is not going to be clay, my dear. He\u2019s going to be pretty well set in his ways by now\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Meaning that you\u2019re not likely to change him. And the\u00a0<strong>worst thing<\/strong>\u00a0you can do is to turn on your \u201cchange machine\u201d and make him into your fixer-upper.<\/p>\n<p>I might argue that trying to change\u00a0<strong>ANY<\/strong>\u00a0man is a bad idea \u2013 mostly because it sends the message that he\u2019s not good enough as he is. This is the same as\u00a0<strong>REJECTION<\/strong>\u00a0to a man.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d also suggest that trying to change him is even\u00a0<strong>more<\/strong>\u00a0of a waste of time on a guy in his 40s or later.<\/p>\n<p>When a person has reached their 40s, their personality is now set in stone. He knows who he is, and\u00a0<em>who he doesn\u2019t want to be<\/em>. And any woman that steps in and starts trying to make him \u201cperfect\u201d is in for a rude awakening.<\/p>\n<p>The key for you is to choose a guy that\u2019s \u201cperfect\u00a0<em>enough<\/em>\u201d and\u00a0<strong>leave it alone<\/strong>. Show gratitude for what you have.<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"Dating_A_8220Silver_Fox8221_8211_Tip_3_Remember_What_HE_Wants8230\">Dating A \u201cSilver Fox\u201d \u2013 Tip #3: Remember What HE Wants\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>If you want to hook a guy who\u2019s in his 40s and is a better prospect for a partner, you gotta know what he\u2019s looking for in a woman.<\/p>\n<p>In a study of over 650,000 (yeah, that\u2019s thousands) online dating profiles, here\u2019s the\u00a0<strong>top 2 traits men want in a woman<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 in order:<\/p>\n<p>If he\u2019s in his\u00a0<strong>30s<\/strong>:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Fun<\/li>\n<li>Honest<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>If he\u2019s in his\u00a0<strong>40s<\/strong>:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Fun<\/li>\n<li>Honest<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>If he\u2019s in his\u00a0<strong>50s<\/strong>:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Fun<\/li>\n<li>Honest<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Yeah, the top two traits were the\u00a0<em>same<\/em>:\u00a0<strong>Fun &amp; Honest women.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Now, there\u2019s a bunch of other important stuff he\u2019s looking for that he\u00a0<strong>WON\u2019T<\/strong>\u00a0tell you about (but I can show you in\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/committed\"><strong>my programs<\/strong><\/a>) \u2013 but if you can keep the knowledge of the fact that he wants\u00a0<strong>FUN<\/strong>\u00a0most of all, you\u2019ll understand why all those\u00a0<em>UN<\/em>-fun things you did\u00a0<strong>may<\/strong>\u00a0have pushed men away.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019d be surprised how few women actually\u00a0<strong>try<\/strong>\u00a0to be fun in a relationship.<\/p>\n<p>You might wonder \u2013<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>What do men consider a \u201cfun\u201d woman?<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>She\u2019s more focused on\u00a0<strong>doing things with her man<\/strong>\u00a0than constantly worrying or wondering where the relationship is going\u2026<\/li>\n<li>She\u2019s more focused on\u00a0<strong>playfulness<\/strong>\u00a0than defending herself or arguing about things that hurt her feelings\u2026<\/li>\n<li>She\u2019s quick to\u00a0<strong>get past her inner drama<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 She embraces the next laugh with a man instead of getting worrying about whether she\u2019ll can\u00a0<em>get him to commit to her\u2026 (<\/em>Ironically, men commit\u00a0<em><strong>willingly<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0to women who aren\u2019t working so hard to squeeze a commitment out of them.)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Oh, another trait that\u2019s essential to a guy is up next \u2013<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"Dating_A_Mature_Guy_8211_Tip_4_Be_A_Dog8230\">Dating A Mature Guy \u2013 Tip #4: Be A Dog\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Wait\u2026 that doesn\u2019t sound quite right. But it\u2019s true.<\/p>\n<p>You know those furry little pets that stick by your side, through thick or thin?<\/p>\n<p>Renowned for their loyalty?<\/p>\n<p>Yeah,\u00a0<strong>DOGS<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>If there\u2019s one trait that a man values (but probably would\u00a0<em><strong>NEVER<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0tell you\u00a0directly), it\u2019s\u00a0<strong>LOYALTY<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Men are very aware of the relative loyalty level of the women they date. It\u2019s like we have a loyalty meter in our brains that registers every word and action of yours.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>We look at what you say about your friends<\/strong>, and how loyal you are with them. Ever throw a girlfriend \u201cunder the bus\u201d for something? Oh yeah,\u00a0<em>we saw that<\/em>. We might not have\u00a0saidanything, but we\u00a0<em>definitely<\/em>\u00a0made a mental note\u2026<\/li>\n<li><strong>We watch how you react to us<\/strong>\u00a0and our occasional missteps and foibles. Are you patient and caring with us? Or could we see that you pulled away from us emotionally?\u00a0<strong>NOTE<\/strong>: When you roll your eyes at something we say or do, we know that\u2019s not good\u2026 and if we get revenge treatment later (especially withholding sex) we are on\u00a0<em>high alert<\/em>\u00a0that loyalty is in danger\u2026<\/li>\n<li><strong>We look at the patterns of your life.<\/strong>\u00a0Do you tend to move from job to job? Do you shift your alliances and loyalties in your family and friends? Do you tend to talk crap about someone behind their back, but act in a hypocritical way later on? That\u2019s all going into the \u201cloyalty registry\u201d in your man\u2019s head.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I can\u2019t emphasize this one trait enough.<\/p>\n<p>The unspoken battle cry of men everywhere is: \u201cGive me loyalty, or give me bachelorhood!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And if you\u00a0<strong>SHOW<\/strong>\u00a0him your loyalty, you\u2019ll earn his\u00a0<em>a thousand times over.<\/em><\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"Dating_Men_Over_40_8211_Tip_5_Show_Him_Commitment8230\">Dating Men Over 40 \u2013 Tip #5: Show Him Commitment\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>This one is going to blow your mind \u2013 mushroom cloud style!<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"Men_want_commitment\"><strong>Men want commitment.\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Yes, all men do, but\u00a0<em><strong>especially men over 40<\/strong><\/em>. We\u2019re looking at the second half of our life, and we want someone to spend it with, to share laughs and adventures with.<\/p>\n<p>At this age, we\u2019ve also been able to\u00a0<strong>establish ourselves more in our careers<\/strong>, so we\u2019re less focused on spending every waking minute at the office.<\/p>\n<p>A guy in his 40s is also starting to feel a little insecure about his marital status \u2013\u00a0<strong>especially<\/strong>\u00a0if he\u2019s not married like his friends. Being single will take a toll on a man\u2019s ego.<\/p>\n<p>And if he\u2019s over 40 and past his first marriage, he knows better what he wants\u2026<\/p>\n<p>He\u2019s ripe for picking!<\/p>\n<p>You see, for all women\u2019s complaining about getting a man to commit, there are a few things you need to know:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>A lot of WOMEN are \u201ccommitment-phobic.\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0Yes, it\u2019s true. I get letters from women every day that realize they are actually pushing men away with their overly critical and detailed lists of things they expect from a man. It\u2019s just another way to protect themselves.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Men are rarely \u201ccommitment-phobic.\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0Yes, this one will be super hard to swallow, but it\u2019s also\u00a0<em>true<\/em>.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><strong>HERE\u2019S WHY:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>When a man acts \u201c<em>scared of commitment<\/em>,\u201d what he\u2019s really doing is\u00a0<strong>telling you<\/strong>\u00a0that he\u2019s seeing some behaviors that make him worry about his\u00a0<strong>long-term feelings of attraction to you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>A man worries about commitment more than women do \u2013 for a simple reason:<\/p>\n<h4>Men have more to lose if they choose their partner poorly.<\/h4>\n<p>If a man has a bad marriage, he\u2019s:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>More<\/strong>\u00a0likely to be depressed\u2026<\/li>\n<li><strong>More<\/strong>\u00a0likely to be cheated on\u2026<\/li>\n<li><strong>More<\/strong>\u00a0likely to die younger\u2026<\/li>\n<li><strong>More<\/strong>\u00a0likely to lose his children\u2026<\/li>\n<li><strong>More<\/strong>\u00a0likely to have health issues\u2026<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The list goes on and on.<\/p>\n<p>So you can understand how he might be careful about who he lets into his heart.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><b>Maybe you\u2019ve tried everything:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p1\">\u2013 Ignoring your suspicions<\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\">\u2013 Being honest, speaking and showing your feelings<\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\">\u2013 Played hard to get<\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\">\u2013 Trying everything to make it work with him<\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\">\u2013 You follow all the advice, but he doesn\u2019t respond<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>If you\u2019ve tried everything, you should know that there\u2019s a simple way to get into a man\u2019s heart. When you\u00a0know what a man is looking for to commit to a woman, you\u2019ll have a roadmap to getting his\u00a0<strong>complete commitment<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<h3><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/committed\"><strong>Go watch my short, free presentation on men and commitment HERE\u2026<\/strong><\/a><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/committed\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1212\" src=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MYS-Committed.jpg\" alt=\"Complete Commitment\" width=\"933\" height=\"420\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MYS-Committed.jpg 933w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MYS-Committed-300x135.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MYS-Committed-768x346.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 933px) 100vw, 933px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Carlos Cavallo Author of Complete Commitment Do You Want A Commitment From Him? 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