{"id":1373,"date":"2018-03-06T22:36:35","date_gmt":"2018-03-06T22:36:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1373"},"modified":"2018-06-05T04:55:30","modified_gmt":"2018-06-05T04:55:30","slug":"how-to-ditch-your-fear-that-he-might-break-up-with-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/how-to-ditch-your-fear-that-he-might-break-up-with-you\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Ditch Your Fear That He \u201cMight Break Up\u201d With You\u2026!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>By Claire Casey<\/em><br \/>\n<em>Author of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/lodb\">Language of Desire<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Does He Really Love You Or Is He Just USING YOU? Watch this\u00a0special video\u00a0now to finally find out the TRUTH.\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<h3><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/lodb\"><strong>Video: How To Make A Man Connect With You (And Only You)<\/strong><\/a><\/h3>\n<h2>How to Ditch Your Fear That He \u201cMight Break Up\u201d With You\u2026!<\/h2>\n<p><strong><em>\u201cHe might\u00a0break up\u00a0with me\u201d<\/em>\u00a0is almost\u00a0<em>never<\/em>\u00a0a good reason for not dating, but it\u2019s an especially bad idea for this particular reason\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em>\u201c<strong>Dear Claire<\/strong>, currently my best friend is professing his love for me, but I don\u2019t think I\u2019m ready. He is an amazing guy, interested in my dreams, ready to wait and all but I don\u2019t think I\u2019m ready. I just got out of a relationship and I\u2019m actually scared of it not working out again. And well, I\u2019m not a slim lady, kinda plump, and he loves his ladies slim with flat tummies. I\u2019ll admit I\u2019m scared one day he\u2019ll realize it\u2019s not love and want out.\u201d<\/em>\u00a0\u2014\u00a0<strong>Celeste<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Hi, Celeste. Thanks for writing. I have a big word of love for you, beautiful woman:<\/p>\n<h2><strong>NO ONE \u201crealizes it\u2019s not love\u201d because their partner isn\u2019t thin enough.<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><strong>Don\u2019t confuse the hard work of real love with an opinion about how someone looks<\/strong>. Most people who are serious about being in relationship with another human are in that relationship for much deeper reasons than body shape (or eye color, or musical ability, etc).<\/p>\n<p>Sure, there are plenty of shallow people out there who make\u00a0<strong>judgments<\/strong>\u00a0about an ENTIRE HUMAN being based on surface characteristics (skin color is a good example) but most of us know that\u2019s unhelpful. There\u2019s a lot more to a person than what you can see.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>HERE\u2019s the kind of man you want to date\u2026<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>The\u00a0<strong>REAL power characteristic<\/strong>s of\u00a0the kind of man you want\u00a0to be in relationship with are things like<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>he makes you feel strong and good when you\u2019re with him<\/li>\n<li>his words and actions match and you feel you can trust him<\/li>\n<li>he does things that make you feel loved<\/li>\n<li>he\u2019s willing to work through difficult times\/situations together<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Celeste, you mentioned that your\u00a0best friend\u00a0loves you, is interested in your dreams, and is ready to wait.. for YOU!<\/p>\n<p><em>Why not take another look at some of the things that make him your best friend and see if in fact, he might also make a good boyfriend?<\/em><\/p>\n<h2><strong>ANYthing \u201cmight\u201d happen.<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Yes, he might break up with you. You might break up with him. I might plant tomatoes. My girlfriend might make me cupcakes. Chris Hemsworth might call me tomorrow.<\/p>\n<p>Well, I don\u2019t actually expect Chris Hemsworth to call me, but hey, he \u201cmight\u201d want to ask about my garden. Or the cupcakes.\u00a0?<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Don\u2019t let the past hold you back.<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>You\u2019re fresh out of a\u00a0painful breakup. We all know what that\u2019s like. But you said<strong>\u00a0he was willing to wait<\/strong>! That\u2019s pretty awesome.\u00a0<em>Why not let him?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Give yourself a time period to get over your breakup. Then get busy doing that healing and recovery work. And make no mistake, it IS work to<strong>\u00a0heal those wounds<\/strong>. But it\u2019s\u00a0<strong>do-able<\/strong>!<\/p>\n<h2><strong>End negative self-talk; instead, project an amazing future for yourself!<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>The way you talk to yourself reflects your deepest beliefs and self-value. If you find yourself saying\u2026<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em><strong>\u201cHe might break up with me unless I\u2019m thinner.\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>Re-write your script!<\/strong>\u00a0It will feel awkward at first, but eventually you\u2019ll shift the pattern of negative self-talk into something healthier.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em><strong>\u201cI\u2019m an amazing and beautiful woman; he\u2019s lucky to have someone like me!\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>The more you\u00a0<strong>believe<\/strong>\u00a0in and<strong>\u00a0invest in YOU<\/strong>, the more likely your new scripts are to be predictive and true!<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Does He Really Love You Or Is He Just USING YOU? Watch this\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/lodb\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">special video<\/a>\u00a0now to finally find out the TRUTH.\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/lodb\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">CLICK HERE!<\/a><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/lodb\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1206\" src=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MYS-Lobd.jpg\" alt=\"Language of Desire\" width=\"933\" height=\"420\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MYS-Lobd.jpg 933w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MYS-Lobd-300x135.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MYS-Lobd-768x346.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 933px) 100vw, 933px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Claire Casey Author of Language of Desire Does He Really Love You Or Is He Just USING YOU? Watch this\u00a0special video\u00a0now to finally find out the TRUTH.\u00a0 Video: How To Make A Man Connect&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1374,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[13,16],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1373"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1373"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1373\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2078,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1373\/revisions\/2078"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1374"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1373"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1373"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1373"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}