{"id":1358,"date":"2018-02-09T10:35:03","date_gmt":"2018-02-09T10:35:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1358"},"modified":"2018-06-05T21:49:22","modified_gmt":"2018-06-05T21:49:22","slug":"why-breaking-up-hurts-so-bad-how-to-start-healing-now","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/why-breaking-up-hurts-so-bad-how-to-start-healing-now\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Breaking Up Hurts So Bad & How to Start Healing Now!"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Michelle D\u2019Avella<\/em>
\nFrom Secret Survey<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

Discover this Knowledge that will make you feel like you\u2019ve got Magic Powers to suddenly see into the minds of men and be adored by any man you want…\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

What Men Want You To Know But Will Never Tell You<\/strong><\/a><\/h3>\n

Why Breaking Up Hurts So Bad & How to Start Healing Now!<\/h2>\n

This time last year I found myself plastered to my mattress. The shine would shine in on my face, and I wished I lived in a basement. I didn\u2019t want to be reminded that life was going on because for me it felt like it had stopped.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The arteries in my heart were thinning due to the\u00a0stress<\/strong>, leaving my heart literally aching in my chest.<\/p>\n

My brain was releasing a whole lot of the stress hormone cortisol, and all my happy-and-in-love chemicals were hibernating.<\/p>\n

I went from being someone who would devour an entire Chipotle burrito to feeling accomplished if I made it through a single piece of toast in a day.<\/p>\n

I started wearing an oversized sweater to hide the fact that my already slender figure was quickly turning into a boney silhouette.<\/p>\n

My body was grieving a great loss, but so was my soul.<\/strong><\/p>\n

My\u00a0greatest fear\u00a0<\/strong>had come true, a fear that was deeply unconscious. In my pain I became very\u00a0willing to uncover the truth<\/strong>\u00a0I was hiding from.\u00a0My pain was my biggest catalyst<\/strong>\u00a0in understanding what was happening to me.<\/p>\n

We all have\u00a0core wounds<\/strong>. They are the\u00a0deep fears<\/strong>\u00a0we take on subconsciously at a young age. The reason these wounds occur isn\u2019t as important as\u00a0understanding what they actually are<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

A\u00a0common fear f<\/strong>or many of us, myself included, is the\u00a0fear of abandonment<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

When I looked into this even more deeply I discovered that I\u00a0held a belief that I was unworthy of love<\/strong>. This belief kept me in fear of abandonment.<\/p>\n

As it often happens, our greatest fears happen to us, sometimes repeatedly until we recognize the wound and work on\u00a0healing\u00a0ourselves<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

If your\u00a0heart is broken\u00a0your body is hurting<\/strong>, and it\u2019s important that you\u00a0be really gentle with yourself<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Nourish your body. Do some gentle yoga. Take a hot bath. Drink smoothies.<\/p>\n

But don\u2019t forget that your soul is grieving.<\/p>\n

There is a deep part of you that needs your support now. There is a part of you that needs you to\u00a0recognize the truth and to give yourself all the love you deserve<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

In my grief, I became\u00a0willing to face the truth<\/strong>. I saw parts of myself I thought were ugly and had rejected most of my life.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t want to be someone who was afraid. I didn\u2019t want to feel unworthy of love. That felt weak and ridiculous.<\/p>\n

Only when I began to accept every aspect of myself, including the parts I had rejected, was I able to begin truly healing my heart.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When we decide to bypass this deep healing work we live from our core wounds<\/strong>. They are still there driving us.<\/p>\n

You may get some space as you go through another honeymoon phase in your next relationship. But inevitably your fears will be lurking, and at some point they will resurface.<\/p>\n

Once you\u00a0choose to sit with your pain instead of running from it<\/strong>\u00a0you embark on a new journey.<\/p>\n

This is your healing journey.<\/p>\n

Healing is about love, but it\u2019s also about pain<\/strong>. It\u2019s about loving yourself even through the pain. It\u2019s about accepting all of yourself, both the light and the dark.<\/p>\n

As you begin to get curious about your feelings you start to uncover more.<\/p>\n

When you shut down your feelings because you\u2019re afraid to see what\u2019s there, you fall back into\u00a0habituated patterns that keep you stuck<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

As you\u00a0choose to be courageous and face into your fear<\/strong>\u00a0you will continue to have the choice to open or close.<\/p>\n

Choose to open<\/strong>.<\/h3>\n

Choose to allow for yourself to be the complex human being that you are. Choose to love the parts of yourself that you\u2019ve rejected.<\/p>\n

Choose to embrace the parts of yourself you\u2019ve been ashamed of. Choose to embrace the fullness of your humanity.<\/p>\n

As you do this, you will begin to change. You will become more whole. Your dark will transmute to light.<\/p>\n

You will truly begin to know yourself, and you\u2019ll know what it means to love who you are completely.<\/p>\n

Check this out and let me know what you think!<\/p>\n

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