{"id":1343,"date":"2018-02-09T10:02:34","date_gmt":"2018-02-09T10:02:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1343"},"modified":"2018-05-26T06:39:50","modified_gmt":"2018-05-26T06:39:50","slug":"be-friends-with-your-man-just-not-all-the-time","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/be-friends-with-your-man-just-not-all-the-time\/","title":{"rendered":"Be Friends with Your Man (Just Not All The Time)"},"content":{"rendered":"

By James Bauer<\/em>
\nAuthor of The Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

What If You Knew What Men Secretly Wanted, but They Could Never Tell You… Don’t Forget To Check Out\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>T<\/em>he Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

Be Friends with Your Man (Just Not All The Time)<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Do you consider your partner a friend? You should.<\/p>\n

Sometimes.<\/p>\n

The French philosopher Jean de la Bruyere once said, \u201cLove and friendship exclude each other.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n

This is a deep<\/strong> topic. I mean, think about what the average<\/strong> dating relationship is like.<\/p>\n

There are similarities<\/strong> to friendship, for sure. You share mutually enjoyable activities, hang out, talk, support each other, and generally stay in close<\/strong> communication.<\/p>\n

That doesn\u2019t sound all that different from your connection with your best friend.<\/p>\n

And then there\u2019s the stuff you DON\u2019T<\/strong> do with your best friend. Like kiss.<\/p>\n

In one sense, an underlying friendship makes romance stronger. But, to our French friend\u2019s point, there\u2019s a reason we use terms like \u201cthe friend zone<\/strong>\u201d to describe guys you\u2019re not into. Friendship is NOT<\/strong> romantic love.<\/p>\n

Researchers have even studied the tension<\/strong> between the two concepts. Here\u2019s what they found.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re not friendly<\/strong> toward your guy, he\u2019ll want you more<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Basically, he\u2019ll be more inclined to chase<\/strong> what he doesn\u2019t have. But without the underlying likeability of friendship, he\u2019ll be less satisfied<\/strong> with what he gets when he catches you.<\/p>\n

Be his buddy, but kill the passion. Or keep the passion alive, but crush your actual connection.<\/p>\n

How in the world can you be friends with your guy without wrecking<\/strong> the romance? You have to be his part-time<\/strong> friend. Sometimes he\u2019s your pal, and sometimes<\/strong> he\u2019s your MAN<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Striking that balance is tricky<\/strong>, but doable. You have to intentionally cultivate<\/strong> both the friendship and the romance. That means doing two things\u2026<\/p>\n

Keep the connection solid<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Maintaining a friendship<\/strong> with your guy sounds easy enough, but it can be surprisingly hard. Intimacy changes<\/strong> the relationship, even before things get physical.<\/p>\n

The single most important thing for protecting the bond of friendship is meaningful<\/strong> shared experiences. Let\u2019s unpack that.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve written before about having fun with your man. That\u2019s important.<\/strong> Nothing replaces a sense of playfulness. But having a good time isn\u2019t enough<\/strong>. There needs to be meaning<\/strong>, too.<\/p>\n

For example, watching a TV show you both like is fine, but not particularly meaningful<\/strong>. You\u2019re not even talking.<\/p>\n

Instead, do stuff that forces interaction<\/strong>. That can be something like a tour of a local winery or volunteering at the same soup kitchen.<\/p>\n

The key is having the kind of experiences that create<\/strong> a foundation of friendship.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to avoid that kind of stuff when you\u2019re dating. Don\u2019t avoid it. Go after it.<\/p>\n

Stoke the fires of passion<\/strong><\/h3>\n

But if you only do the friendship stuff, before long you become besties who used to be in love. That\u2019s no good. It\u2019s important to incorporate<\/strong> some romantic excitement, too.<\/p>\n

The best way to that is to do things that friends don\u2019t do<\/strong> for each other.<\/p>\n

For example, surprise him from time to time with an unexpected<\/strong> passionate evening. Get dressed up for date nights. (Seriously. Go as all out as you would for a first date.)<\/p>\n

Send him a racy text message. Get him a little gift. Do something, anything, new, different, and totally unexpected.<\/p>\n

Oh, and tell him how you feel<\/strong> about him as your boyfriend.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s entirely possible to have all the stability<\/strong> of friendship mixed with the vavoom of romance. But it\u2019s not going to just happen. You\u2019ll have to make it a point to work both sides<\/strong> of the equation.<\/p>\n

Keep the friendship strong<\/strong> with meaningful shared<\/strong> experiences, and keep the passion going with spontaneity and affectionate communication.<\/p>\n

If you strike that balance, you\u2019ll have the kind of storybook romance you\u2019ve always wanted.<\/p>\n

I have a Relationship Reboot<\/strong> program that will totally change your life. You simply have to use your Feminine Love Instinct<\/strong> to kickstart the whole process.<\/p>\n

Learn more here:<\/p>\n

Video: The Feminine Love Instinct Men Can’t Resist<\/a> <\/strong><\/h2>\n

Fair warning:<\/strong> once you do this, there’s no turning back. He’ll come at you with the energy and enthusiasm he had on your FIRST DATE<\/strong>!<\/p>\n

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