{"id":1340,"date":"2018-02-09T09:57:28","date_gmt":"2018-02-09T09:57:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1340"},"modified":"2018-05-26T06:46:27","modified_gmt":"2018-05-26T06:46:27","slug":"how-to-keep-stress-from-killing-your-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/how-to-keep-stress-from-killing-your-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Keep Stress from Killing Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"

By James Bauer<\/em>
\nAuthor of The Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

What If You Knew What Men Secretly Wanted, but They Could Never Tell You… Don’t Forget To Check Out\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>T<\/em>he Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

How to Keep Stress from Killing Your Relationship<\/h2>\n

How\u2019s your stress level? Are there days when you feel overloaded? Days when, as much as you care about him, stress affects how you treat your guy?<\/p>\n

Anna would understand. She\u2019s a busy woman. She works fulltime, juggles an active social life, her boyfriend, and time in the gym, all while dealing with a 30-minute commute to and from work.<\/p>\n

A few days ago, she was trudging home from a long day at work when she got pulled over. Speeding. There goes the shopping spree she was considering.<\/p>\n

Then her boss called. Major problems with a big client. Yay.<\/p>\n

Then she stopped off at the store for groceries. Distracted as she was, she forgot several things and had to go back in. And when she got home, she chipped one of her newly manicured nails while bringing in the food.<\/p>\n

She was ready to scream.<\/p>\n

That was when she ran into her boyfriend. He was delighted to see her, excited about dinner and a relaxing night. But it didn\u2019t end up being the pleasant evening she\u2019d been looking forward to.<\/p>\n

Anna was past her breaking point, and her boyfriend paid the price. He hadn\u2019t done anything wrong, but she was snippy and irritable. They ended up fighting when what she really wanted (and needed) was his support.<\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019ve been there, too.<\/p>\n

Stress is just a part of life. You can\u2019t avoid it completely, especially if you have a packed schedule like Anna. Left unchecked, stress will have a negative effect on your relationship. Tense people tend to take out their stress on their partners.[1]<\/p>\n

Since you can\u2019t stop stress, how do you keep it from having a negative effect on your relationship?<\/p>\n

The most important thing is to be aware of it. Recognize you\u2019re stressed when you\u2019re stressed. That\u2019s essential.<\/p>\n

Once you have that self-awareness down, there are a handful of practical things[2] you can do to ensure that your bad day doesn\u2019t lead to a frustrating setback with your man.<\/p>\n

Name your stress.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

The simple act of acknowledging what really has you stressed out is powerful. Once you know why you\u2019re tense, it\u2019s easier not to take it out on someone you care about.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s say you have a rotten day at work. Before you see your man, take a moment to remember your guy doesn\u2019t know anything about your boss\u2019s irrational demands, or that annoying co-worker, or that whiny client. He\u2019s out of the loop on that stuff.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re more likely to make him an ally (see the next tip) if you can remember he had nothing to with the original stress.<\/p>\n

Make him an ally.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Then talk to him about it.<\/p>\n

Tell him why you\u2019re upset, and give him the chance to get your back. Make it clear that you\u2019re upset at someone else. Then, invite his input and support.<\/p>\n

Even if he\u2019s just in the role of supportive ally, being a part of the solution will make it far less likely that the stress will drive a wedge between the two of you.<\/p>\n

Break the circle.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

One of the worst things about stress is how it feeds itself. You get stressed, you take it out on your guy, then THAT stresses you out more, so you take THAT out on him, too . . . and on and on.<\/p>\n

If that starts to happen (and sometimes it will), stop the cycle dead in its tracks. Take a time out. Go for a drive. Go to the bedroom and curse into a pillow. Or just tell him you\u2019re sorry.<\/p>\n

Even if you slip a little, don\u2019t let stress steamroll your relationship.<\/p>\n

Putting it all together.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

The core of the message is this: don\u2019t let outside chaos mess with the sacred peace of your romance.<\/p>\n

When stress gets cranked up, acknowledge that you\u2019re tense and talk to him about it. And if you find yourself snapping at him, break the cycle and start again.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t stop stress, but you can protect your love life. As often as possible, make your romance a refuge from the hassles of the world by keeping it stress-free.<\/p>\n

I have a Relationship Reboot<\/strong> program that will totally change your life. You simply have to use your Feminine Love Instinct<\/strong> to kickstart the whole process.<\/p>\n

Learn more here:<\/p>\n

Video: The Feminine Love Instinct Men Can’t Resist<\/a> <\/strong><\/h3>\n

Fair warning:<\/strong> once you do this, there’s no turning back. He’ll come at you with the energy and enthusiasm he had on your FIRST DATE<\/strong>!<\/p>\n

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