{"id":1327,"date":"2018-02-02T05:01:28","date_gmt":"2018-02-02T05:01:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1327"},"modified":"2018-05-26T06:42:28","modified_gmt":"2018-05-26T06:42:28","slug":"the-balance-of-power-in-your-relationship-practicing-relationship-yoga","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/the-balance-of-power-in-your-relationship-practicing-relationship-yoga\/","title":{"rendered":"The Balance of Power in Your Relationship: Practicing Relationship Yoga"},"content":{"rendered":"

By James Bauer<\/em>
\nAuthor of The Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

What If You Knew What Men Secretly Wanted, but They Could Never Tell You… Don’t Forget To Check Out\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>T<\/em>he Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

The Balance of Power in Your Relationship: Practicing Relationship Yoga<\/strong><\/h2>\n

I was visiting with a friend recently. She\u2019s checking out yoga for the first time. I asked her how she likes it, and her feedback was mostly positive.<\/p>\n

Except for one area.<\/p>\n

\u201cI had no idea I was so bad at balance,\u201d she said. \u201cSeriously, do you know how many times I\u2019ve almost fallen on my butt in front of everyone?!\u201d<\/p>\n

It\u2019s true. Balance is one of the hardest things \u2013 in yoga and in life. In life, balance allows you to achieve a higher quality of life.<\/p>\n

Author and speaker Susan Piver has this to say about balance in yoga. \u201cIs it ever possible to be balanced? I don\u2019t think that it is, because then you\u2019d have to freeze in that position. \u2018Got it. Now don\u2019t move.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

Maybe you can hold a yoga pose for a few deep breaths, but you can\u2019t\u00a0live your life<\/em>\u00a0in that pose. You\u2019ll have to move and walk and do stuff. And as soon as you\u00a0engage<\/em>\u00a0in life, balance is broken.<\/p>\n

Literally, every step you take, you\u2019re working to maintain enough balance to avoid \u201cfalling on your butt.\u201d<\/p>\n

Which makes me think about relationships. Do things ever really level out into a steady rhythm?<\/p>\n

One of the most common relationship issues I hear about is the struggle for\u00a0balance of power<\/em>. Who calls the shots? Is it even possible to achieve balance?<\/p>\n

I think it is . . . if you change your definition of balance.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s normal for power to shift back and forth between you and your guy. In that sense, you\u2019ll never have a balanced relationship. At least not for long.<\/p>\n

There may be rare moments when you\u2019re both complete equals, but as soon as something happens, one of you takes the lead. That\u2019s healthy.<\/p>\n

But things get dicey when one of you ends up with the upper hand\u00a0all the time<\/em>.<\/p>\n

As neuroscientist Berit Brogaard points out, \u201cthe controller will lose respect and admiration for the person who puts up with them, and the follower will build resentment.\u201d<\/p>\n

Yeah, that\u2019s not going to create a lot of warm fuzzies. So let\u2019s change our definition of balance.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s balance in the moment, and then there\u2019s big picture balance.<\/p>\n

The only way achieve\u00a0balance in the moment<\/em>\u00a0is to never move. Never grow. Never allow the relationship to develop.<\/p>\n

But\u00a0big picture balance<\/em>\u00a0is different. Because It\u00a0is<\/em>\u00a0possible to establish balance over the long run. That\u2019s where you should focus your attention.<\/p>\n

Not on getting your way every time. And not even on making every decision a cooperative effort. Instead, strive for cultivating a cumulative sense of balance.<\/p>\n

There are three ingredients for making that happen.<\/p>\n

1. Make some decisions as a team.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

This works well with stuff that\u2019s either really big or really little. For example, things like where the relationship is headed (BIG) . . . or where you\u2019re going to have dinner (tiny detail).<\/p>\n

2. Trust him to take the reins sometimes.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

This is not the same as giving him his way. In fact, if he\u2019s a gentleman there\u2019s a good chance he\u2019ll choose what YOU want when you let him have the final say.<\/p>\n

Just make sure he knows\u00a0your trust is a gift<\/em>. Actually say, \u201cI trust you to take care of that.\u201d That\u2019s a powerful relationship building statement.<\/p>\n

3. Ask him to trust you in return.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

There will also be times when you\u2019re the better person to slide into the driver\u2019s seat. When that happens, don\u2019t duke it out for control. Don\u2019t even make it about power.<\/p>\n

Instead, tell him you want to know he trusts your judgment, too. If he does, he shouldn\u2019t have any issue letting you take the wheel.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s no relationship equivalent for a beautifully balanced yoga pose. Don\u2019t even try to achieve that kind of balance with your guy. It\u2019s not possible.<\/p>\n

But you can create big picture balance.<\/p>\n

Remember that\u00a0it\u2019s more about trust than power<\/em>. Make sure he knows you trust him, and ask him to trust you in return.<\/p>\n

That kind of balance is the stuff of truly epic romance.<\/p>\n

I have a Relationship Reboot<\/strong> program that will totally change your life. You simply have to use your Feminine Love Instinct<\/strong> to kickstart the whole process.<\/p>\n

Learn more here:<\/p>\n

Video: The Feminine Love Instinct Men Can’t Resist<\/a> <\/strong><\/h3>\n

Fair warning:<\/strong> once you do this, there’s no turning back. He’ll come at you with the energy and enthusiasm he had on your FIRST DATE<\/strong>!<\/p>\n

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