{"id":1317,"date":"2018-01-26T07:21:45","date_gmt":"2018-01-26T07:21:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1317"},"modified":"2018-04-05T02:19:32","modified_gmt":"2018-04-05T02:19:32","slug":"the-spark-has-died-heres-how-to-get-it-back","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/the-spark-has-died-heres-how-to-get-it-back\/","title":{"rendered":"The Spark Has Died\u2026 Here\u2019s How To Get It Back"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Michael Fiore<\/em>
\nFrom Language of Desire<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

Do you want to know how to talk to men using words that turn him on trigger a specific response in him, both physically and emotionally? <\/em><\/h3>\n

Don’t forget to check this out…\u00a0<\/em>The Language of Desire<\/a><\/em><\/h3>\n

The Spark Has Died\u2026 Here\u2019s How To Get It Back<\/h2>\n

YES, it\u2019s possible to tell your man how to give you what you want, without fracturing his delicate male ego. Here\u2019s how\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s dig in with today\u2019s question\u2026<\/p>\n

Dear Michael,<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m 42, and newly divorced from my husband of 18 years\u2026. before I met my husband I had a pretty healthy dating and sex life. I was confident, and not afraid to ask for what I wanted in bed.<\/em><\/p>\n

That changed when I married Matt.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2018Missionary Matt\u2019 was\u00a0boring in bed<\/strong>. He was \u2018conservative\u2019 \u2014 and he thought women who sought sexual satisfaction were acting slutty.<\/em><\/p>\n

Now that we\u2019re divorced, I\u2019ve started dating again. I met Jeff. We\u2019re really into each other, but\u00a0the sex is \u2014 lukewarm at best<\/strong>. <\/em><\/p>\n

I want to let loose; I want to show him that\u00a0I know how to please him and how to please myself.<\/strong>\u00a0But I\u2019m worried he might be overwhelmed when I unleash. <\/em><\/p>\n

What if he thinks I\u2019m too \u2018intense\u2019 or mistakes my passion for a need to control the encounter?<\/em><\/p>\n

Jeff is 42, and I understand his penis doesn\u2019t work \u2018\u201con command\u2019\u201d like it probably did when he was 16. I don\u2019t want him to\u00a0feel inadequate<\/strong>\u00a0for not being as horny or adventurous as me.<\/em><\/p>\n

I find myself thinking about him all the time. He is an incredible man in so many ways, but I\u2019m just\u00a0not getting what I need from him sexually<\/strong>. <\/em><\/p>\n

Some of my girlfriends talk about having awesome, mind blowing sex, and reaching multiple orgasms in a single love-making session.<\/em><\/p>\n

I want that for myself. God knows I deserve it. I\u2019m afraid if I lay my cards on the table I\u2019ll lose him forever. How can I get what I need in bed\u00a0without emasculating his delicate male ego<\/strong>?<\/em><\/p>\n

Michael, please help me.<\/em><\/p>\n

Grace.<\/em><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Mike Answers\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Hi G-Money (Grace). Thank you for writing in and sharing your question. It sounds like your ex-husband is a douchebag. You\u2019re better off without him.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve got two pieces of incredibly good news for you. First, the past is the past, and you can leave it there without ever looking back. Which means your days of boring \u201cMissionary Matt\u201d sex are gone for good.<\/p>\n

Second, it\u2019s important you understand\u00a0your lack of sexual satisfactions this isn\u2019t your fault at all<\/strong>, and you\u2019re not alone.<\/p>\n

In fact, I receive hundreds of letters every month from women just like you silently suffering through a less-than-amazing sex life.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s completely normal for a woman in her 40\u2019s to want high- quality,\u00a0passionate, intense and frequent sex<\/a>. In fact, the old cliche that says men want sex more frequently than women do \u2014 is utter bullshit.<\/p>\n

As a woman over 40, you\u2019re in your sexual prime, and I\u2019m going to tell you right now you have some amazing pleasure, connection, and sex coming your way, if you can learn how to\u00a0communicate what you want in a way that a guy won\u2019t take as criticism<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s another hunk of good news for you.\u00a0It\u2019s never too late to have amazing sex<\/strong>, and it\u2019s possible to tell your new partner exactly what you want, without damaging his frail male ego.<\/p>\n

Just follow these 3 steps and he\u2019ll be eager to do ANYTHING to arouse and satisfy you. In fact, if you go about this the right way, he\u2019ll probably think it was his idea.<\/p>\n

Step 1: Reignite The Dormant Sexual Fires Within You<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Before you can tell a guy what you want, you have to find out what really works for you in the first place! You need to\u00a0be completely relaxed and comfortable achieving climax on your own terms<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Yes, I\u2019m talking about the \u2018m\u2019 word \u2014\u00a0masturbation<\/strong>. Over the years masturbation has gotten a bad rap, but the ability to satisfy our own sexual urges is truly one of Mother Nature\u2019s little gifts (like sunshine. And ice cream. And Breaking Bad.).<\/p>\n

You should feel confident touching and looking at your body. This might seem a little scary at first if you haven\u2019t done it in a while, or if you\u2019ve never done it at all.<\/p>\n

One thing you can do is\u00a0touch yourself while looking in the mirror<\/strong>. First, just look at your face. Don\u2019t even think about the rest of your body.<\/p>\n

You can do this with your clothes on or off. Focus on your face. The next time you masturbate, look at your naked torso. Understand Jeff wants YOU for a reason. You\u2019re hot, sexy, and desirable. Look at that body!<\/p>\n

Expose more of your body in each \u201csession.\u201d\u00a0Get comfortable looking at your body<\/strong>\u2026 Thinking about what it will feel like to have Jeff inside you.<\/p>\n

Take the time to explore and touch everywhere it feels right. Mentally\u00a0recall some of the insanely pleasurable experiences<\/strong>\u00a0you\u2019ve had in the past. If you like to have sex with music playing in the background, then try a little music for this exercise too.<\/p>\n

This may take some time and practice, but it will be worth it.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not comfortable touching your vagina, start with touching other areas of your body. Touch your face, touch your torso, then your breasts.<\/p>\n

How do you like to be touched? Does it feel good to lightly touch your breasts? Do you climax with clitoral stimulation, or do you prefer penetration? Maybe a combination works for you.<\/p>\n

Get Clear on What You\u00a0Want.<\/h3>\n

Write it down. Look at books, magazines, and even watch porn. Remember, porn isn\u2019t your enemy.\u00a0Porn can open the door to becoming more comfortable with your body<\/strong>, and figuring out what scenarios and positions you\u2019re comfortable with trying.<\/p>\n

Experiment with different techniques. Try letting out a\u00a0breathy moan<\/strong>\u00a0when something feels especially good. You\u2019ll hear a lot of good examples of this kind of moan when you\u2019re watching porn.<\/p>\n

If it helps, think of Marilyn Monroe singing\u201cHappy Birthday, Mr. President.\u201d<\/em>\u00a0Don\u2019t forget to breathe. Doing this simple \u201cMoaning exercise<\/strong>\u201d on your own helps you relax sexually and achieve new levels of self-satisfaction.<\/p>\n

This exercise is all about YOU! (Though you can use this moaning technique later to make your man\u2019s pants bulge with an\u00a0overwhelming desire<\/a>\u00a0to devour every inch of your body.)<\/p>\n

After several of these sessions, you should feel completely comfortable looking at and touching your body. You know exactly why Jeff wants to make love to you, don\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

Step 2: Take Control By Releasing Control and Make Him Feel Like An Absolute Stud<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Once you feel sure about how to satisfy yourself, it\u2019s time to\u00a0take control<\/strong>. Now, your man doesn\u2019t have to know you\u2019re in control. In fact, he\u2019ll think he\u2019s the one in control.<\/p>\n

The best part?<\/p>\n

You can turn an average makeout session into full throttle love-making, and activate your man\u2019s inner stud by simply using some\u00a0Fill In The Blank Phrases and Trigger Words<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Here Are Some \u2018Templates\u2019 to Get You Started:<\/strong><\/p>\n

I love it when you (verb) your (complimentary adjective + body part) on my (adjective + body part). It makes me want to ___ .<\/em><\/p>\n

Example<\/strong>: I love it when you put your strong hand on my ass. It makes me want to climb on top of you.<\/em><\/p>\n

I need your ___ (preposition) ___ right now.<\/em><\/p>\n

Example<\/strong>: I need your hot mouth on my nipple right now!<\/em><\/p>\n

Do you want my ___ in your ____ ?<\/em><\/p>\n

Example<\/strong>: Do you want my tits in your face?<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Practice using some of these \u201cfill in the blank\u201d templates. Practice while you\u2019re brushing your teeth, taking a shower, or practice while you\u2019re masturbating. Practice until it feels natural.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re making out with Jeff, start using some of these \u201cDone For You\u201d templates. Things will steam up FAST \u2014 He\u2019ll reveal to you his\u00a0most lustful fantasies and desires<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Once you\u2019ve uncovered his fantasies, you\u2019ll know exactly how to satisfy and validate his carnal needs.<\/p>\n

Now is also a great time to reveal the \u201cMoaning Technique\u201d you perfected in Step 1.<\/p>\n

You could also try asking him some questions about his fantasies in other settings. How about at the breakfast table? \u201cDo you want some cream in your coffee, hon? Hey, let\u2019s talk about fantasies!\u201d<\/p>\n

Using \u2018Trigger Words\u2019 and Phrases Might Sound Like Hippy Hocus Pocus, But It\u2019s Based on Psychology and Neuroscience. And It\u00a0Works!<\/strong><\/h3>\n

The male mind is hardwired to seek\u00a0ego validation and accomplishment<\/strong>. You\u2019re giving him both by using verbal cues, and fulfilling his sexual needs.<\/p>\n

When he hears you\u00a0Moan with ecstasy and delight, you\u2019re giving him an even greater sense of validation and accomplishment.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re showering his ego\u2026 Your moans, your words, and the sexual gratification\u2026<\/p>\n

His neurons are shooting at rapid-fire, creating permanent associations and connections in his brain.\u00a0From now on, when he thinks of ecstatic, primal sex, he is conditioned to think of YOU (and only you).<\/strong><\/p>\n

While you\u2019re giving him what he needs, NOW is the time to tell him what YOU want, \u201cWhen I\u2019m done with you, there\u2019s a few things I want you to do to me\u2026\u00a0I can\u2019t wait for you to _(whatever you want)______ exactly how I like it.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t hold back on details. He\u2019ll want to know exactly how to please you when the time comes, and he\u2019ll be listening!<\/p>\n

Be sure to stay relaxed, touch yourself if you want, and enjoy the moment. Some guys feel threatened by a\u00a0woman who touches herself<\/strong>. He could think, \u201cIs she trying to tell me I don\u2019t know how to get the job done?<\/p>\n

Have I been doing something wrong this whole time?\u201d\u00a0Counter this insecurity with simple positive reinforcement<\/strong>. Tell him, \u201cJeff, I love your big, bountiful cock,\u201d or \u201cI need your penis deep inside me.\u201d<\/p>\n

Here you can decide when to\u00a0turn the tables to make it all about you<\/strong>. Do you want him to cum just once for now? Or multiple times? Because remember, he\u2019s going to want to return the favor \u2013 tenfold.<\/p>\n

Step 3: Sit Back and Let Your Man Take Care of The Next Step, Because He\u2019ll Want to Fulfill YOUR Desires and Fantasies (The Ones You Just Told Him About\u2026)<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Tell him,\u00a0\u201cJeff, do you remember what I told you? You know what I want, right?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2026 And because you\u2019ve just given him everything he wanted and fulfilled his needs, his brain is bathed in dopamine.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re about to get what you want \u2014 how you want it \u2014 judgment free. Because he satisfies you by fulfilling your fantasies and desires,\u00a0his ego gets an additional boost of machismo accomplishment<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

This might sound like a lot to take in\u2026 moaning techniques, dirty words and phrases, psychological triggers\u2026<\/p>\n

But after trying these techniques a few times (or maybe once will do the trick), you\u2019ll realize you\u2019ve\u00a0uncovered a new superpower<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\u2014 So that\u2019s my advice for Grace, and for any woman who feels unsure about how to talk to her man about achieving\u00a0sexual satisfaction<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Also, when check out this\u00a0special video<\/a>\u00a0I made just for you, which goes into much more detail about the steps you can take to\u00a0get what you want from your man, without bruising his ego<\/strong>. Keep your eyes peeled for the Bonuses, including:<\/p>\n

Silent Seduction<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Where you\u2019ll discover how you can use almost every part of your body to flirt with and seduce your man \u2013 and keep him yearning for you.<\/p>\n

Done For You Texts<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Use simple, quick text messages to make his loins burn for you. Works great for keeping things spicy during long days and business trips.<\/p>\n

Unstoppable Confidence<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Here you\u2019ll get \u201cfly on the wall\u201d insight into how men view confident women, why being emotionally \u201cvulnerable\u201d doesn\u2019t make you weak, and more.<\/p>\n

If Grace\u2019s situation resonates with you, or you simply want to steam up a room-temperature relationship,\u00a0watch the video now<\/a>.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

\"Language<\/a><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll discover what hundreds of thousands of women have already learned: With the right steps it\u2019s easy to communicate your wants and needs without hurting your man\u2019s ego and risking your relationship.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s it for today.<\/p>\n

Best,<\/p>\n

Mike<\/p>\n

P.S. Here\u2019s the\u00a0link to the video<\/a>\u00a0again.<\/em><\/p>\n

Go watch it!<\/em><\/p>\n

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