{"id":1270,"date":"2018-01-22T14:10:07","date_gmt":"2018-01-22T14:10:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1270"},"modified":"2018-06-05T03:01:49","modified_gmt":"2018-06-05T03:01:49","slug":"how-to-make-any-man-miss-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/how-to-make-any-man-miss-you\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Make Any Man Miss You"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>By Carlos Cavallo<\/em><br \/>\n<em>Author of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/idesireb\">Irresistible Desire<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Discover\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/idesireb\">the secrets of\u00a0Cleopatra<\/a>\u2026 the\u00a0<strong>one woman<\/strong>\u00a0that\u00a0<strong>men have desired more than any other<\/strong>. She\u2019s mythic in her power because she actually understood these\u00a0laws of attraction and used them to rule not only a nation but to conquer the most powerful men in ROME \u2013 Caesar and Marc Antony\u2026<\/p>\n<h3><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/idesireb\"><strong>Discover the timeless power of Cleopatra: Irresistible Desire<\/strong><\/a><\/h3>\n<h2><strong>How To Make Any Man Miss You<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Wouldn\u2019t you love it if you woke up in the morning and you saw a text from your man that said, \u201cI miss you!\u201d?<\/p>\n<p>We all love to be missed by someone. And most everyone wants to know that they\u2019re\u00a0<strong>DESIRED<\/strong>\u00a0enough to be missed\u2026<\/p>\n<p>That our presence\u00a0<em><strong>means<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0something to\u00a0<strong>someone<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Back when I was actively (and aggressively) dating, I discovered some very interesting things about myself. Mostly, about how I (a guy) thought about women.<\/p>\n<p>I kept these thoughts in a notebook. And when I started coaching other guys on\u00a0<strong>how to be better at dating<\/strong>, I chronicled that stuff, too. It was a great educational experience, and it\u2019s insider secrets like those that I\u2019m passing on to you in these articles.<\/p>\n<p>Today, I\u2019m going to reveal\u00a0<strong>how to make any man miss you\u2026\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you want a man to feel your presence and\u00a0<strong>desire you so strongly that he aches when you\u2019re not around<\/strong>, I\u2019ve got a few things you can do to\u00a0<strong>get that to happen<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s start with:<\/p>\n<h3><strong><span id=\"STEP_1_Stop_The_Try-Hard8230\">STEP 1: Stop The Try-Hard\u2026<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>When your emotions get involved, and especially that desire to connect with a man, you\u2019re going to find yourself saying\u00a0<strong>WTF<\/strong>\u00a0a lot.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>WTF?<\/strong>\u00a0Why won\u2019t he respond?\u00a0Why does he keep pulling away harder when I move in?<\/li>\n<li><strong>WTF?<\/strong>\u00a0Why did I do THAT? Oh, man that was needy\u2026<\/li>\n<li><strong>WTF?\u00a0<\/strong>Why am I freaking out? I\u2019m going crazy!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>There are a dozen \u201cWTF\u201d moments in our day \u2013 easily. From that obnoxious driver that cut you off, to the questions that plague you about why you\u2019re not feeling the love you\u2019re giving out each day.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes these moments are just your mind catching up to your heart. Your heart wants connection, and you find yourself doing things that seem to cut you off from the connection you desire. Those \u201cfreak out\u201d moments, if you will.<\/p>\n<h3><strong><span id=\"When_you_catch_yourself_doing_this_with_a_guy_you8217re_probably_entering_the_8220Try-Hard_Zone8221\">When you catch yourself doing this with a guy, you\u2019re probably entering the \u201cTry-Hard Zone\u201d.<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>The\u00a0Try-Hard Zone\u00a0is when you find your needs\u00a0<strong>aren\u2019t<\/strong>\u00a0getting met. That\u2019s when you act out your needs by:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Calling<\/strong>\u00a0when you know you\u2019ve talked to him enough\u2026<\/li>\n<li><strong>Texting<\/strong>\u00a0him when you know you\u2019re just seeking some reassurance with a reply\u2026<\/li>\n<li><strong>Putting up trial balloons<\/strong>\u00a0to see if he really does feel about you the way you need him to\u2026<\/li>\n<li><em>And on and on and on\u2026<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>This list could go on for quite a while. I\u2019m betting you\u2019ve done stuff like this in the past, yes?<\/p>\n<p>What it all comes down to is trying to\u00a0<strong>make him miss you\u00a0<\/strong><em>instead<\/em>\u00a0of\u00a0<strong>LETTING him miss you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This is a very important distinction \u2013 Making vs. LETTING.<\/p>\n<p>Men may appear thick when it comes to what your emotional experience is, but there\u2019s one thing we sense instantly:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h4>When a woman is trying \u2013\u00a0<em>indirectly<\/em>\u00a0\u2013 to get us to want her.\u00a0 Or trying to get us to show some \u201csign\u201d that reassures her insecurities about where she stands in the relationship.<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>We don\u2019t always register it in our rational brain, but we FEEL it. It\u2019s the one thing every man has been trained to recognize by his previous relationships.<\/p>\n<p>These are the \u201c<strong>hey, look at me!<\/strong>\u201d show-off things that we used to do on the playground to get someone\u2019s attention\u2026<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Posting on Facebook in the hopes he\u2019ll notice it and like it\u2026<\/li>\n<li>Using any kind of social media in an attempt to get into his head-space\u2026<\/li>\n<li>Pretending to be casual when you\u2019re really doing something intentionally\u2026<\/li>\n<li>Texting mutual friends to get attention\u2026<\/li>\n<li>Posting pictures that are intended to get him jealous\u2026<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Those are examples of \u201c<em>can\u2019t get away from her<\/em>\u201d behavior that\u00a0<strong>makes men push women away<\/strong>\u00a0to get a little breathing space.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re finding this kind of neediness or ache in your heart frequently in your relationship, there\u2019s a good chance you\u2019re going to make him feel smothered.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u201cBut Carlos \u2013 He started it!\u201d\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I hear that a lot \u2013 that the man pulled away first, which only triggered her desire for connection.<\/p>\n<p>Well, yeah \u2013 that can happen, but there\u2019s a really good chance that there were other things leading up to his withdrawal. Sure, some guys just have a low threshold for \u2018together time,\u2019 but you also have to make sure you\u2019re getting your batteries charged\u00a0<em><strong>elsewhere<\/strong><\/em>, too. Not SOLELY in your love relationship!<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be\u00a0<strong>try-hard.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Just\u00a0<em><strong>be\u00a0the space he wants to fall into\u2026<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<h3><strong><span id=\"STEP_2_Give_him_the_gift8230\">STEP 2: Give him the gift\u2026<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>What gift could that be?<\/p>\n<p>Why none other than the gift of\u00a0<strong>SPACE<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>You see, one thing I learned in my self-analysis and training to be a \u201cguru\u201d was that nothing makes a person feel longing more than\u00a0<strong>ABSENCE<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>I long for Thai food if it\u2019s been absent in my life for too long\u2026<\/li>\n<li>I long for a good 3D action movie if it\u2019s been a long time\u2026<\/li>\n<li>I long for a big hug from my honey when we\u2019ve been apart for a while\u2026<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>You know the saying:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>Absence makes the heart grow fonder<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Yeah, I know this one has become a bit of a clich\u00e9 \u2013 probably to the point where most women hear this (\u201cGive him space!\u201d) and promptly ignore it the second they hear it. Kind of like that advice someone gives you about \u201cbeing patient\u201d \u2013\u00a0<em>who hasn\u2019t heard that advice a billion-and-one times?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>The reality is that men\u00a0<strong>NEED<\/strong>\u00a0more space than women do.<\/p>\n<p>And women need more\u00a0<em>closeness<\/em>\u00a0than men do\u2026<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>How do we get past this obvious contradiction?<\/li>\n<li>Can we ever reconcile this\u00a0<strong>HUGE difference between men and women?<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Yes you can. And you\u00a0<strong>MUST<\/strong>\u00a0if you\u2019re going to have a successful relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Well, when you have the need, you also have the responsibility that comes with it.\u00a0<strong>If<\/strong>\u00a0you\u2019re not getting your \u2018closeness\u2019 needs met, then you have to work to fill that tank up from many different sources. (And yes, it\u2019s also\u00a0<strong>HIS responsibility<\/strong>\u00a0to manage his space needs,\u00a0<strong>if<\/strong>\u00a0he\u2019s not getting enough.)<\/p>\n<p>But the best thing you can do for your man is to\u00a0<strong>PREDICT<\/strong>\u00a0his needs for space. You\u2019re the woman \u2013 and that means you\u2019ve got the better sensitivity regarding your relationship. Guys tend to miss signals (even their own internal ones) and end up messing up their attraction dynamic.<\/p>\n<p><strong>For example:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Watch him for his behavior patterns that tell you he\u2019s been a little too close\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Because guys really do crave closeness to the woman in their life, to the point where we jump in headfirst. And then we suddenly rebound from that closeness when our masculine needs for space kick in.<\/p>\n<p>When you sense this, be the one to push back a bit and\u00a0<strong>give him space<\/strong><em><strong>\u2013 before he even realizes he needs it!<\/strong>\u00a0<\/em>This is one of the fundamental truths of relationships that is key to a strong attraction dynamic in your love\u2026<\/p>\n<h3><strong><span id=\"STEP_3_Over-Separate8230\">STEP 3: Over-Separate\u2026<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Honestly, if you can do this step right, you\u2019ll never have a problem making men miss you or desire you ever again.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s actually the other end of the spectrum from\u00a0<strong>pushing him<\/strong>\u00a0or\u00a0<strong>forcing him<\/strong>\u00a0to miss you.<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"This_is_where_you_move_slower_than_he_wants_to_go8230\">This is where you move slower than he wants to go\u2026<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>It sounds simple, but it\u2019s hard to do when the person you want seems to open the doors wide to let you in. It\u2019s what all guys do in relationships at the start \u2013 when they\u2019re feeling a high level of sexual attraction.<\/p>\n<p>This is like a \u201ctest\u201d that men do \u2013 without realizing it. And\u00a0<strong>most women fail it.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I get it, and yeah \u2013 it feels like a nasty trick he\u2019s pulling on you!<\/p>\n<p>After all, you want to\u00a0<strong>dive in<\/strong>\u00a0and show him how\u00a0<em>awesome<\/em>\u00a0you are, and what he\u2019s got right here in your relationship\u2026<\/p>\n<p>But I\u2019ll also be honest about this: Most people (men\u00a0and\u00a0women) don\u2019t understand\u00a0<strong>HOW<\/strong>\u00a0to do this step well.<\/p>\n<p>What happens is this: We feel the need to get\u00a0<strong>our<\/strong>\u00a0need filled\u00a0<strong>FIRST<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 and this makes us\u00a0lose patience. We stop doing what\u2019s working and we start to rush things along.<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"We_jump_in_and_try_to_CONTROL_love\"><strong>We jump in and try to CONTROL love!<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Raise your hand if you\u2019ve ever tried to\u00a0<em>push, influence, steer, guide<\/em>, or otherwise\u00a0<strong>NOT let love take its natural course\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>(I\u2019m raising my own hand over here\u2026)<\/em><\/p>\n<p>In order to fully captivate a man, you have to be operating at a pace that is\u00a0<strong>SLOWER<\/strong>\u00a0than he wants to go!<\/p>\n<p>You have to\u00a0<strong>over-separate<\/strong>\u00a0yourself from your man for him to really miss you. That means to pull away a bit further, stay quiet on Facebook a little longer, avoid texting\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2026<strong>a little longer than he wants!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>OVER do<\/strong>\u00a0it from your point of view. This is the essence of challenge that a man\u00a0<strong>MUST<\/strong>\u00a0feel if he\u2019s ever going to fall in love with you\u2026<\/p>\n<h4><strong>I\u2019d even go so far as to say you need to break up with any man that doesn\u2019t, isn\u2019t, or won\u2019t chase you.<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Did you just flinch at reading that?\u00a0<strong>Good!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>That\u00a0is the secret of how those \u201cspecial\u201d women manage to have guys always chasing them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>LOOK:<\/strong>\u00a0If everyone got a \u201cChampionship\u201d ring for everything they did, no one would feel the motivation to try a little harder. We see this in kids today when they\u2019re not allowed to \u201ccompete\u201d in a healthy way.<\/p>\n<p>Human nature \u2013 especially\u00a0<strong>men<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 is to work for the\u00a0<strong>TROPHY!<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"MEN_don8217t_want_victory_GIVEN_to_us\"><strong>MEN don\u2019t want victory GIVEN to us.<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>That cheapens our feeling of accomplishment. And when it comes to love, a man has to feel like\u00a0<strong>HE WON YOU<\/strong>. Not the other way around.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, we resent the feeling of an easy victory. It makes us feel ripped off \u2013 and we\u2019ll start looking around just to see if we might actually deserve more.<\/p>\n<p><strong>LAW: All things of value feel SCARCE.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve got a few married friends that feel this way \u2013 that\u00a0<strong>SHE won HIM.<\/strong>.. and guess what? He\u00a0<strong>rarely<\/strong>\u00a0works all that hard to make her feel loved and cherished.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t let all the current gender rhetoric confuse this in your head:\u00a0<strong>Men are the knights seeking the hand of the lady.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This is a requirement of\u00a0<strong>all<\/strong>\u00a0good relationships.<\/p>\n<p>And if you\u2019d like to get a\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/idesireb\">complete strategy for desire<\/a>, how to make a man want you and miss you without playing games\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Let me suggest that you discover\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/idesireb\">the secrets of\u00a0Cleopatra<\/a>\u2026 the\u00a0<strong>one woman<\/strong>\u00a0that\u00a0<strong>men have desired more than any other<\/strong>. She\u2019s mythic in her power because she actually understood these\u00a0laws of attraction and used them to rule not only a nation but to conquer the most powerful men in ROME \u2013 Caesar and Marc Antony\u2026<\/p>\n<h2><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/idesireb\"><strong>Discover the timeless power of Cleopatra: Irresistible Desire<\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/go\/idesireb\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1272\" src=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Irresistible-desire2.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"933\" height=\"420\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Irresistible-desire2.jpg 933w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Irresistible-desire2-300x135.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Irresistible-desire2-768x346.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 933px) 100vw, 933px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Carlos Cavallo Author of Irresistible Desire Discover\u00a0the secrets of\u00a0Cleopatra\u2026 the\u00a0one woman\u00a0that\u00a0men have desired more than any other. 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