{"id":1263,"date":"2018-03-19T01:00:03","date_gmt":"2018-03-19T01:00:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1263"},"modified":"2018-06-05T04:47:15","modified_gmt":"2018-06-05T04:47:15","slug":"are-men-really-emotionally-unavailable","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/are-men-really-emotionally-unavailable\/","title":{"rendered":"Are Men Really Emotionally Unavailable?"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Slade Shaw
\nAuthor of Why Men Pull Away<\/em><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

Learn exactly what pushes men to leave…and how to NEVER feel abandoned or rejected<\/p>\n

Why Men Pull Away\u2026and What Makes Them STAY In Love<\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n

Are Men Really Emotionally Unavailable?<\/h2>\n

\u201cHis heart is too full, and no words to release it.\u201d – Gabrielle Zevin<\/em><\/p>\n

There’s this myth that guys are always closed off and refuse to open up at some point in the relationship.<\/p>\n

Many women are baffled when a wonderful new person comes into their life, only for him to shut down<\/strong> later on.<\/p>\n

What’s the deal? Are men simply wired to be uncaring, unfeeling creatures?<\/p>\n

I can understand your frustration, but you have to understand that men operate on a different<\/strong> emotional frequency than women.<\/p>\n

This is why it SEEMS<\/strong> hard to read a guy’s signals. But the reality is quite the opposite…<\/p>\n

The thing about men is that they process their feelings differently, and this can be confusing<\/strong> or even infuriating<\/em><\/strong> for women.<\/p>\n

That’s why I want to clear the air about this sticky topic.<\/p>\n

Let’s shed a little light on what goes on in a guy’s head when he deals with his feelings.<\/p>\n

Here are the 3 most common reasons why it seems like men lack emotional depth…when in fact, they don’t:<\/strong><\/h2>\n

#1: Relationships confuse him<\/strong><\/h3>\n

I’d wager a guess that no one knows absolutely<\/em><\/strong> everything about the crazy business of being in a relationship.<\/p>\n

That includes both men AND<\/strong> women.<\/p>\n

And that means there will be times when those twists and turns will throw his bearings off every now and then.<\/p>\n

One particularly confusing time for him is when you first go to bed with him<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Most\u00a0women assume<\/strong> they’re more affected by this milestone, but it can be just as surreal<\/strong> for guys.<\/p>\n

Plus, guys often expect that you’re already thinking about the long-term future of your budding relationship.<\/p>\n

But you know that that’s not<\/span> always the case.<\/p>\n

It’s more likely you just want to take it up a notch.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s\u00a0not\u00a0like you’re already making wedding plans or thinking about how many kids you want, right?<\/p>\n

(Please tell me you’re not…)<\/p>\n

So once you’ve crossed that intimacy line, your guy will start taking all of those what-ifs<\/strong> into account.<\/p>\n

And it creates all sorts of thoughts in his head like, “What if she wants the keys to my place so she can dump her girly stuff in my bathroom?”<\/em><\/p>\n

Or he might be thinking, “What if she sits me down to have ‘The Talk’…I bet it’s coming any day now…”<\/em><\/p>\n

Blame it on a guy’s natural desire for independence<\/strong>, I suppose.<\/p>\n

It’s important<\/strong> to a guy that he’s able to do what he wants and hang out with others that support his growth.<\/p>\n

Which is why men have a built-in<\/strong> fear that the girl he just started seeing is going to put an end to all that.<\/p>\n

So my point is that with all of those things going on inside him, it puts him in this really weird<\/strong> place, emotionally speaking.<\/p>\n

This is what often causes guys to clam up and act distant.<\/p>\n

He doesn’t know how to talk about these things without feeling really awkward – or possibly hurting you.<\/p>\n

#2: He thinks you’re a little too attached<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Some women in that “We just slept together, what now” phase are also thrown for a loop, and react<\/strong> in a certain way.<\/p>\n

There are times when the girl “gave it up” earlier than she had planned in order to “lock down”<\/strong> her guy.<\/p>\n

So she experiences a kind of “buyer’s remorse” because things moved too fast, too soon.<\/p>\n

Other women are just looking for a quick, no-strings-attached<\/strong> kind of deal, but found themselves in too deep before they knew it.<\/p>\n

Sadly, some of these girls feel ashamed after doing the deed, which really is unnecessary guilt<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

There’s nothing wrong if you just wanted a one-night stand, and you shouldn’t feel like you did something wrong.<\/p>\n

But in any case, a lot of women respond to these situations by trying to move things into a more serious<\/strong> territory.<\/p>\n

Or they start plotting the relationship against<\/strong> a timetable they have in their head.<\/p>\n

And this can be the source of excessively<\/strong> needy behavior that can make guys withdraw<\/strong> emotionally.<\/p>\n

Take note I said “excessively”.<\/p>\n

Everyone is a little<\/em> needy, and that’s ok!<\/p>\n

After all, why else would we seek out companionship, if not to meet a very basic need we ALL<\/strong> have?<\/p>\n

But remember that men\u00a0have a tendency to disengage<\/strong> when we’re constantly asked to validate the relationship.<\/p>\n

So you gotta keep that neediness<\/strong> with reason – otherwise, it could drive him away.<\/p>\n

#3: It’s not you, it’s him<\/strong><\/h3>\n

I’m pretty sure you’ve heard this one before…but it’s not what you think.<\/p>\n

You see, there are times in a guy’s life when he needs some space<\/strong> to get his head on straight.<\/p>\n

Any responsible, well-rounded guy has other things in his life to take care of aside<\/strong> from his relationship.<\/p>\n

He’s got his career, his friends, his hobbies and a bunch of other obligations<\/strong> to balance<\/span>.<\/p>\n

(Don’t get me wrong – I’m sure he’s crazy<\/em> about you. But it would be scary if you’re the ONLY thing he has going on, so having other priorities is healthy<\/strong> for him!)<\/p>\n

And sometimes, it can get a little too overwhelming for him. You don’t see it, but he’s constantly trying to meet a lot of expectations<\/strong> rooted in those things in his life.<\/p>\n

So in times like these, he tends to be more withdrawn as he wrestles with the thoughts and emotions swirling in that man-brain of his.<\/p>\n

It’s not so much that he’s cutting you out of his life than trying to make sense of the chaos<\/strong> that visits him every now and then.<\/p>\n

When your guy gets like this, try not to feel bad because he’s not deliberately rejecting the warmth and affection.<\/p>\n

Chances are he just needs to deal<\/strong> with those other things and take the pressure off. Only then will he be able to give his time and attention to your relationship.<\/p>\n

I know this isn’t what you wanted to hear, but that’s how the male mind<\/strong> operates.<\/p>\n

You’ve won half the battle (more like 90% actually) if you can simply take a step back and let him<\/strong> do this thing.<\/p>\n

When the fog has lifted and he’s won his battles, he’ll remember how you stood by with love and understanding.<\/p>\n

But what if he’s STILL pulling away?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Maybe you’ve already gotten past the post-sex awkwardness, slain your inner beasts of neediness and he’s done dealing with his personal stuff.<\/p>\n

And yet, this guy of yours is still the unreadable<\/strong> Sphinx with the emotional range of a wet pile of laundry…<\/p>\n

Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered.<\/p>\n

If you’re concerned that your man and slipping through your fingers, I’ve got a FREE video presentation that explains why men pull away…<\/p>\n

…and how to keep him<\/strong> from walking out the door forever.<\/p>\n

Learn the secret right here:<\/p>\n

The REAL Reason Why Men Lose Interest (VIDEO)<\/a><\/strong><\/h2>\n

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