{"id":1101,"date":"2017-12-08T13:05:17","date_gmt":"2017-12-08T13:05:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1101"},"modified":"2018-06-05T03:38:44","modified_gmt":"2018-06-05T03:38:44","slug":"8-secrets-to-make-him-love-you-more","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/8-secrets-to-make-him-love-you-more\/","title":{"rendered":"8 Secrets to Make Him Love You More"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Slade Shaw
\nAuthor of Why Men Pull Away<\/em><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

Learn exactly what pushes men to leave…and how to NEVER feel abandoned or rejected<\/p>\n

Why Men Pull Away\u2026and What Makes Them STAY In Love<\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n

8 Secrets to Make Him Love You More<\/h2>\n

\u201cI mean, if the relationship can’t survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term?\u201d – Nicholas Sparks<\/em><\/p>\n

Megan, a client of mine, has always had trouble finding the right<\/strong> partner. Either one of two things happen, usually.<\/p>\n

Half of the time, she\u2019ll hit it off with someone and things seem<\/em> fantastic in the beginning\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026only for him to slowly pull away<\/strong> and stop responding to her messages.<\/p>\n

Either that, or Megan will end up with a guy for a good year or so.<\/p>\n

But then he\u2019ll eventually say he \u201cneeds space<\/strong>\u201d or give the \u201cI love you, but I\u2019m not<\/u> in love with you<\/strong>\u201d speech.<\/p>\n

Naturally, this is a great source of frustration for her.<\/p>\n

She asked me in despair after a particularly nasty breakup:<\/p>\n

\u201cHelp me, I just don\u2019t know what to do anymore\u2026are men just plain crazy or am I doing it wrong?\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n

Cracking the man mystery<\/strong><\/h3>\n

What followed was a series of long conversations over a few weeks to help Megan get through that tough time.<\/p>\n

First off, I asked her to identify the common<\/strong> emotional and behavioural patterns she goes through every time<\/strong> she meets a guy.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not blaming her for her bad luck, but it does help to do a little self-examination.<\/p>\n

She needed to figure out this part and take responsibility for HER<\/strong> contribution to the relationship.<\/p>\n

Like Megan, a lot of women find male behaviour baffling with all his mixed signals and what-not.<\/p>\n

The thing is, what a guy does and doesn\u2019t do are CLEAR indications of where he stands with you. But that\u2019s a whole other topic we can deal with for another time.<\/p>\n

My point now is that guys really aren\u2019t that complicated when it comes to making him love you more.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s not much mystery to it, to be honest.<\/p>\n

So aside from some soul-searching, I also gave Megan some important pointers to help her KEEP a great guy once she\u2019s found him.<\/p>\n

In other words, it\u2019s all about self-awareness<\/strong> and doing your part<\/strong> in the relationship.<\/p>\n

Of course your guy has to meet you HALFWAY, but at the same time you can take this opportunity to learn what you can do from your end.<\/p>\n

To all the Megans out there, this one\u2019s for you. Here are the 8 best ways to get your guy to love you like crazy and NEVER let you go<\/strong>:<\/p>\n

#1: Be his friend AND lover<\/strong><\/h3>\n

This one might seem a little worn-out for some, but it\u2019s still an effective piece of advice you should follow.<\/p>\n

Even if you\u2019re intimate partners, he still needs to feel you\u2019re good friends<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

No matter how many years have passed, guys want that fun, playful connection with their partner.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t forget to poke a little harmless fun at him and \u201cbust his chops\u201d every once in a while. Tease him a bit and send him silly messages throughout the day.<\/p>\n

Remember, FRIENDSHIP is a VITAL pillar of your romantic relationship.<\/p>\n

At the same time, part of being his friend also means keeping it REAL with him.<\/p>\n

What I mean is that you shouldn\u2019t have to be anyone else but yourself.<\/p>\n

Otherwise, you\u2019re not doing him any favors by being someone you THINK he wants you to be.<\/p>\n

This means avoiding the \u201cYes Dear\u201d syndrome wherein you agree to everything to avoid rocking the boat.<\/p>\n

Accommodating his needs and wants ALL the time is like slowly turning the heat on a boiling pot.<\/p>\n

Sooner or later, you\u2019re going to boil over and it won\u2019t<\/em> be pretty.<\/p>\n

So, you\u2019ve got to be a TRUE friend to him in the sense that you can tell him straight up<\/strong> (tempered with tact and kindness) when something isn\u2019t working for you.<\/p>\n

Pretending to be ok when you\u2019re not doesn\u2019t serve anyone<\/em> in your relationship.<\/p>\n

#2: Respect is king (and queen)<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Hot on the heels of the first tip I just talked about, being his friend and partner also means having the courage to put your foot down when needed.<\/p>\n

Ever notice how young boys constantly push their limits with their mom and see what they can get away with?<\/p>\n

It might playing with firecrackers or going on a shopping cart derby at the supermarket. In the same way, that same part of your guy will \u201ctest\u201d you.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve heard stories of men trying to get their girlfriend to come over at the drop of a hat while she\u2019s in the middle of doing her own thing.<\/p>\n

Or in some cases, flirt outrageously with other women or check them out<\/em><\/strong> in broad daylight while you\u2019re with him.<\/p>\n

If he disrespects<\/u> you, you need to remind him<\/strong> (again, in a kind and gentle way) where the line is drawn and why he shouldn\u2019t cross it<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be afraid to give him a little crap when the situation calls for it.<\/p>\n

On the same note, you should also be willing to give that respect BACK – relationships go both<\/u> ways.<\/p>\n

Avoid trying to \u201cput him in his place\u201d in an emasculating way, especially when you\u2019re out with your friends.<\/p>\n

If you find yourself wanting to do this for some reason (e.g. something about him annoys you), you might want to explore your reasons behind these feelings.<\/p>\n

#3: Don\u2019t try to change him<\/strong><\/h3>\n

This is a bit related to what I just said above because some women feel some deep-seated resentment over some aspect of their guy\u2019s personality.<\/p>\n

It could be anything from his taste in music to his core life values.<\/p>\n

This is where a lot of snide comments and passive-aggressive criticism come from.<\/p>\n

In a lot of couples, this type of negativity builds up from an unwillingness to compromise on their differences.<\/p>\n

And I\u2019m seeing a lot of exasperated women chipping away at their man with verbal attacks, be it in a subtle or direct way.<\/p>\n

When I talk to them, I always ask pretty much the same thing: if you find it hard to ACCEPT those things, can you talk to him about it in a diplomatic way?<\/p>\n

As far as principles and values go, no one can be a clone of someone else. So you\u2019ll need to find a way around those obstacles instead of banging your head<\/strong> against them.<\/p>\n

Blaming it all on him or trying to change your partner will make him shut down on you and dig in his heels.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why a good start would to be to approach these difficult disagreements as a problem you can solve TOGETHER<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

If he feels you\u2019re on the same side<\/strong>, you can get past those differences one way or another.<\/p>\n

It could ultimately mean agreeing to disagree<\/em>, but that\u2019s not a bad thing at all.<\/p>\n

In fact, the oldest couples I know inevitably learn this skill at some point down the road.<\/p>\n

#4: Keep the fires burning<\/strong><\/h3>\n

You probably know where I going with this, but here goes\u2026<\/p>\n

This is hard for some women to accept, but I\u2019ve seen many couples get rocked by infidelity<\/strong> on account of the guy losing interest\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026or because his needs<\/strong> weren\u2019t met.<\/p>\n

Obviously, both people in a relationship should give as good as they get, but I\u2019ve noticed a lot of women have let the hot, sensual part of their relationship slide.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not blaming them, either. People change over the months and years, and this happens when they take on responsibilities like a new job or being a new parent.<\/p>\n

That said, you should STILL put your sex life on top of your priority list.<\/p>\n

Both men and women enjoy a good romp between the sheets, but guys have more of an ingrained need<\/strong> to satisfy their physical desire with their partner.<\/p>\n

This is because a man feels closest to his partner when their PHYSICAL bond is strong.<\/p>\n

And I\u2019m not saying this is the end-all, be all, but it is a basic foundation<\/strong> of a romantic relationship.<\/p>\n

If you can keep him interested and make him feel wanted in this way, you\u2019re sure to have him coming back to you and ignore other women<\/em>.<\/p>\n

#5: Take care of yourself<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Another part of appealing to his primal side is by engaging him visually. I know that might sound shallow, but we\u2019re not discounting the other aspects of your relationship here.<\/p>\n

All I\u2019m saying is that it doesn\u2019t hurt to keep his motor running<\/strong>, if you know what I mean\u2026<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s not always the \u201cmain event\u201d behind closed doors. You can also keep him hot and bothered by choosing the right outfit that accentuates your curves.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t shy to pick something that highlights your most flattering assets. While you\u2019re at it, use perfumes and other feminine products (without going overboard) to catch his attention.<\/p>\n

Also, engage in some form of exercise that suits your lifestyle. Whether it\u2019s yoga, crossfit, jogging, hitting the gym or a combination of those, he\u2019ll appreciate your efforts.<\/p>\n

Men aren\u2019t interested in marrying someone who looks like they stepped out of a Sports Illustrated cover.<\/p>\n

In the end, they just want a woman who enjoys<\/strong> taking care of herself.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s nowhere near the same as looking<\/em> like a Sports Illustrated model.<\/p>\n

As long as your man knows you care enough to look your best, he\u2019s already found a keeper as far as he\u2019s concerned.<\/p>\n

#6: He wants you to \u201cget\u201d him<\/strong><\/h3>\n

One of the best things about the better part of this decade is that women have made their voices heard more than ever.<\/p>\n

To be a truly progressive society, it\u2019s important to understand a woman\u2019s perspective and appreciate her struggles.<\/p>\n

But in the wave of this awesome change, let\u2019s not forget to offer guys the same level of understanding for the unique predicament they\u2019re in.<\/p>\n

Sad to say, but some groups of women I\u2019ve come across take pleasure in putting guys down<\/strong> and make fun of the stuff they go through.<\/p>\n

Thankfully, this doesn\u2019t<\/u> apply to all women but it is important to address this kind of mentality all the same.<\/p>\n

One of men\u2019s unspoken desires is for his partner to understand him on a DEEP level.<\/p>\n

He wants to feel it\u2019s safe for him to drop his guard around you and show a side of him no one else sees.<\/p>\n

You already know most guys aren\u2019t big on sharing their feelings because it\u2019s perceived as a sign of weakness.<\/p>\n

So when he\u2019s at his most fragile, your guy wants you to accept him for who he is, flaws and all.<\/p>\n

Going back to what I said about handling your differences, it\u2019s a woman\u2019s ACCEPTANCE that he craves the most.<\/p>\n

To put in perspective, this is the antidote to criticism, nagging and shaming.<\/p>\n

#7: Don\u2019t be his warden<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Yes, it\u2019s true: many men feel imprisoned in their own relationships.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t notice it at first.<\/p>\n

But as the months and years go by, they slowly feel bits and pieces of their freedom taken away.<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s not that all women do this deliberately, because sometimes it comes from a place of fear or insecurity.<\/p>\n

They\u2019re afraid that some younger, \u201csexier\u201d woman is going to woo their man and run off with him.<\/p>\n

But you need to remember that the more you try to \u201clock down\u201d the relationship (and by extension, your guy) the more he\u2019ll feel like an inmate.<\/strong><\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t want to feel that like he\u2019s planning a prison break<\/em> every time he wants to go out on his own to blow off some steam.<\/p>\n

There has to be some trust that allows him to do his own thing from time to time.<\/p>\n

Even married guys with kids and a mortgage need to feel free every now and then to stay happy in a committed relationship.<\/p>\n

(That\u2019s assuming of course, his activities and interests are within reasonable boundaries<\/strong> and aren\u2019t harming either of you.)<\/p>\n

The funny thing about guys is that they\u2019ll choose to stick to their woman if they HAVE the CHOICE to do so in the first place. A guy doesn\u2019t respond well to commitment if it feels FORCED on him.<\/p>\n

#8: Appreciate him<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Men take pride in being able to take care of their loved ones, especially that special lady in their life.<\/p>\n

This is connected to his protector instinct<\/strong> which drives him to provide and look out for his people.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a tribal thing that goes way back in human history, and this still resonates<\/strong> in men today.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why your guy needs to know if he\u2019s doing a good job<\/strong> of being there for you<\/em>. It\u2019s a typical male hang-up and your validation means the WORLD to him.<\/p>\n

Feel free to verbally compliment him when the moment\u2019s right. If he does something that makes you happy, LET HIM KNOW.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll love you all the more \u2013 and will want to KEEP doing those things.<\/p>\n

Everything we\u2019ve just talked about amounts to this simple fact: the more positive energy<\/strong> you invest in your relationship, the longer it will last<\/u>.<\/p>\n

And these tips you learned today will keep that spark alive and kicking.<\/p>\n

No sane guy would dream of looking at another woman, let alone think of leaving a relationship that GOOD.<\/p>\n

But maybe you sense your man is still<\/em> pulling away even after you\u2019ve been regularly applying these tips for some time.<\/p>\n

Something else<\/strong> might be up\u2026<\/p>\n

In that case, it\u2019s time to understand the REASONS behind this phenomenon – and what compels men to STAY.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve discovered a way to pull a man back into your arms if you\u2019ve grown apart over the months or years\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 or EVEN IF he\u2019s on the brink of LEAVING\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026and all it takes is three \u201cinnocent\u201d questions to REAWAKEN his love for you.<\/p>\n

Check out this presentation now to learn more:<\/p>\n

Why Men Pull Away\u2026and What Makes Them STAY In Love (VIDEO)<\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n

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