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from The Blog of Mary Morrissey<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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The Dream Builder Summit<\/a><\/h3>\n

A Powerful Practice for Spicing Up a Stale Relationship<\/h2>\n

Over the years, I\u2019ve worked with countless clients who looked like they \u201chad it all\u201d from the outside: fulfilling careers, comfortable lives, and beautiful families.<\/p>\n

Yet after just a few minutes of speaking with them, they\u2019d often confess that something BIG was missing from their lives. Despite their success, they found themselves struggling to connect with their long-term partners.<\/p>\n

And every time I meet someone who\u2019s run into this kind of roadblock in their relationship, I think back to something that happened to me many years ago.<\/p>\n

I was flying back from a conference when the man sitting next to me struck up a conversation.<\/p>\n

At first, we exchanged the kind of small talk you\u2019d normally\u00a0<\/b>expect from a stranger on a plane\u2026<\/b><\/h2>\n

But when he asked me what I did for a living and I mentioned that I was a speaker, consultant, and teacher, something changed.<\/p>\n

He began to tell me his life story. He didn\u2019t hold anything back. He shared his personal challenges with me, and the one that seemed to trouble him the most was his struggle to connect with his wife.<\/p>\n

\u201cMy wife and I have been married thirteen years,\u201d the man said, \u201cand my wife and I seem to only ever talk about the bills, the kids and where we\u2019re going on our next vacation. I\u2019m afraid that once my kids are out of the house that my wife and I will look at each other and feel like strangers.\u201d<\/p>\n

From an outsider\u2019s perspective, this would have seemed crazy\u2026<\/b><\/h2>\n

Here was a highly successful executive at a multi-billion dollar company who had confessed how deeply unhappy he was in his relationship.<\/p>\n

Bob was one of those people who worked his way to the top of his field at a very young age. In other words, nothing about his success was an accident.<\/p>\n

He was clearly a man with an unusual amount of commitment and focus.<\/p>\n

So why weren\u2019t those traits, that served him so well in the professional world, translating into relationship success?<\/p>\n

\u201cYou\u2019ve done so well directing your creativity at work,\u201d I said. \u201cDid you realize that you could have the same opportunity at home?\u201d<\/p>\n

He couldn\u2019t have looked more confused if I\u2019d suddenly\u00a0<\/b>sprouted a second head!<\/b><\/h2>\n

So I explained to him that everyone is born creative. The most successful among us use this creativity to reach our professional goals and create material success\u2026 but to have a successful relationship, we need to direct that creativity back to our significant other, too.<\/p>\n

Although he made a few notes and seemed interested, I could tell he felt deflated by the time the plane arrived at our destination.<\/p>\n

Maybe it was because of the effort he felt he\u2019d need to put in. He told me, \u201cOur marriage isn\u2019t that great, but I\u2019m sure we\u2019re not that different from most people.\u201d<\/p>\n

I\u2019d hoped that, after our talk, his perspective had shifted.<\/p>\n

No one should have to settle for a mediocre marriage \u2013 not when it can be\u00a0<\/b>such a source of IMMENSE inspiration and joy in our lives<\/b><\/h2>\n

Like the man on the plane, all of us are born with the God-given gift of creativity. What we do with it, whether or not we even perceive our own creative ability, is another matter altogether.<\/p>\n

We can choose to use that gift to succeed in business, to build better relationships or to create pieces of art and write imaginative novels. Our creative powers have no limits!!<\/p>\n

There\u2019s so much more to life than struggling endlessly or sitting idly by while we watch our marriage or relationships deteriorate.<\/p>\n

We really do have the ability to make our relationships strong and long-lasting.<\/p>\n

But, how do we define a great relationship?<\/b><\/h2>\n

Forget what you\u2019ve seen in movies or read in books. A great relationship isn\u2019t necessarily about always agreeing with your partner, nor is it about being able to perfectly read your partner\u2019s mind.<\/p>\n

Instead, consider that what makes a relationship great is the feeling of aliveness when your partner is near:<\/p>\n