{"id":1025,"date":"2017-11-17T00:27:03","date_gmt":"2017-11-17T00:27:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1025"},"modified":"2018-06-04T23:38:19","modified_gmt":"2018-06-04T23:38:19","slug":"how-to-tell-a-guy-youll-never-him","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/how-to-tell-a-guy-youll-never-him\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Tell a Guy You\u2019ll Never $%#& Him"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Michael Fiore<\/em>
\nAuthor of Text The Romance Back<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

Do you know that all it takes is to press a few buttons on your phone to seal the deal? Learn how to do it by watching the video below:<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

How To Text The Romance Back Into Your Life<\/strong><\/a><\/h3>\n

How to Tell a Guy You\u2019ll Never $%#& Him<\/h2>\n

I want to talk about\u00a0how to \u201cClose the door\u201d on creepy guys or guys you\u2019re not remotely attracted to<\/strong>\u00a0so they stop coming on so damned strong and take a hint.<\/p>\n

Anonymous asks . . .<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cI know you get a lot of questions about\u00a0how to attract men\u00a0and keep them, but my question today is about\u00a0how to say \u201cNo\u201d to a man<\/strong>\u00a0when you don\u2019t share his feelings, or when you\u2019re not sure he\u2019s the one you want.<\/em><\/p>\n

I seem to respond to a man in one of two ways: I either close off right from the start and don\u2019t give him a chance to develop his interest in me, or I open all the doors unsure how to set limits, and then get overwhelmed by his interest in me and his wanting to know me more, go out with me, share his admiration intensely in words and actions.. etc.<\/em><\/p>\n

So\u00a0how can I be receptive and open<\/strong>\u00a0(which is my nature, I close off only because of fear he might like me when I don\u2019t) and still be\u00a0setting boundaries<\/strong>\u00a0and be able to say no without fear, insecurity, awkwardness or cruelty if he wants to take it to the next level?\u201d<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\u00a0 \u2014Anonymous<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Hey Anonymous\u2026<\/b><\/p>\n

Thanks for your incredibly deep, multi-part meta question.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s actually a LOT in here, you\u2019re simultaneously asking\u2026<\/p>\n

*\u00a0\u201cHow do I get guys I DON\u2019T like to\u00a0take a damn hint and leave me alone<\/strong>?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

*\u00a0\u201cHow do I\u00a0take it slow with guys<\/strong>\u00a0I DO or (might) like so I don\u2019t get overwhelmed and end up blowing the whole thing up.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

And, without even actually asking it, you\u2019re asking\u2026<\/p>\n

*\u00a0\u201cHow do I\u00a0keep from scaring potentially great guys away<\/strong>\u00a0right off the bat because I\u2019m not SURE he\u2019s the one I want.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s talk about question 3 first\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n

How do I keep from scaring potentially great guys away right off the bat because I\u2019m not SURE he\u2019s the one I want?<\/p>\n

I get a LOT of emails from women asking how to know if a guy is \u201cThe One.\u201d<\/p>\n

The whole concept of \u201cThe One\u201d is absolute malarkey<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

For every woman (and every man) on the planet, there\u2019s not \u201cone\u201d but DOZENS or maybe even HUNDREDS of amazing folks you could have incredible relationships with.<\/h3>\n

Now, if you\u2019re just not even remotely attracted to a guy, that\u2019s totally fine. There\u2019s no reason you should date him and I\u2019ll tell you how to get rid of him and make it 100% impossible for him to misunderstand you in a second.<\/p>\n

But\u00a0if you\u2019re just not \u201csure\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0if he\u2019s somebody you want to be with or not (if you\u2019re at least a LITTLE attracted to him, think there\u2019s the possibility that there could be something there and that he could be a great guy)\u00a0you owe it to yourself and to him to at least give him a SHOT<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Because\u00a0first impressions\u00a0are often absolute BS.<\/p>\n

When I first met my girlfriend, I was incredibly drunk and dressed like a lounge lizard version of Santa. If she\u2019d let her first impression color what she thought of me and didn\u2019t give me a chance (and if I didn\u2019t pursue her like the grand feast of a woman she is), we wouldn\u2019t be celebrating our 3 year anniversary now.<\/p>\n

Yeah, I know.\u00a0You\u2019re afraid<\/strong>\u00a0that if you crack that door open even just a little, a guy \u201cwon\u2019t take the hint,\u201d will pry it open with a crowbar and suddenly you\u2019ll be his \u201cGirlfriend\u201d without even knowing what the heck happened (and why are you suddenly wearing a French Maid outfit?\u201d)<\/p>\n

Which actually brings us to our second question:<\/p>\n

How do you take things SLOW with a guy so you don\u2019t get overwhelmed and end up over your head?<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Not everybody needs this, but with the track record you\u2019re showing, you need to have some\u00a0\u201cDating Rules Of Engagement.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your \u201cDating Rules of Engagement\u201d are just that: *Rules* you have around\u00a0dating, love and sex<\/strong>\u00a0that you\u2019re\u00a0not allowed to bend or break<\/strong>\u00a0under ANY circumstances no matter what.<\/p>\n

These rules are here for a few reasons:<\/strong><\/h2>\n

1. To keep you\u00a0from getting in over your head<\/strong>\u00a0and either destroying something that could have been good\u2026.<\/p>\n

2. To keep you from ending up with \u201cThe wrong guy<\/strong>\u201d because you don\u2019t know how to say no.<\/p>\n

3. To help you maintain your\u00a0independence<\/strong>\u00a0no matter what.<\/p>\n

Great question. They can vary for everybody, but here\u2019s what I recommend for you:<\/p>\n

1. Unless both you and a guy make an\u00a0EXPLICIT decision to be a couple<\/strong>, you will consider yourself and will continue to\u00a0act as a single woman<\/strong>\u00a0(which means being at least a little open to other guys.)<\/p>\n

2. For the first TWO MONTHS of dating a guy, you\u2019ll set an unbreakable rule to only\u00a0see him once per week<\/strong>\u00a0(and only on a scheduled date.)<\/p>\n

3. You\u00a0won\u2019t have sex with a guy for the first month<\/strong>\u00a0that you\u2019re dating (even if you really want to.) (Making out is OK and really fun.)<\/p>\n

4. You\u00a0won\u2019t agree to be anyone\u2019s \u201cgirlfriend\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0or be a couple with a guy unless you\u2019ve been dating him for at least TWO FULL MONTHS (even if you really want to.)<\/p>\n

5. If a guy starts sending you too many texts, emails or phone calls, you\u2019ll enforce a rule of only\u00a0getting back to him one full day after he messages you<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Etc.<\/p>\n

Like I said, these rules can really vary depending on who you are, but with your level of sensitivity and openness, it seems to me that\u00a0you really need to set up non-negotiable barriers<\/strong>\u00a0about how you interact with guys and how much exposure you give your heart.<\/p>\n

Which brings us to your FIRST question\u2026<\/p>\n

How do you let a guy know that you\u2019re 100% not interested in him<\/strong>\u00a0and that even though you\u2019re a charming, lovely, emotionally open woman, that does NOT mean he has a chance of sleeping with you\u2026<\/h3>\n

And the answer is . . .<\/p>\n

You send him a link to this Youtube Video . . .<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not only hilarious, but it gets the point across REALLY well and with enough humor that you won\u2019t necessarily completely crush his heart.<\/p>\n

Oh, and here\u2019s a BONUS QUESTION, Theo asks\u2026<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cHi Mike I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months and last week I found he would have cheated. Today he said he wants to see me but also asked me what I want from him. Should I put it all in a text or ask to talk it over face to face. Basically I set a honey trap and he went for it. He went to the address I gave him to meet \u201cthe girl\u201d but there was no one there.\u201d
\n\u2013Theo<\/strong><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Hey Theo\u2026<\/b><\/p>\n

You\u2019re asking the wrong question. It doesn\u2019t really matter one iota to me whether you should put everything into a text or if you should see him face to face.<\/p>\n

The fact is that for whatever reason,\u00a0you felt the need to ENTRAP this guy into showing that he \u201cwould have cheated.\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0I don\u2019t know this guy and I don\u2019t know if he actually would have cheated or not (or how much incredible \u201cbait\u201d you put into the messages you sent him, but that\u2019s pretty darned toxic behavior.<\/p>\n

EVERY man and EVERY woman would cheat in the right situation and with the right circumstances<\/strong>\u00a0(though everybody\u2019s circumstances are different.)<\/p>\n

If I found out a girl \u201cTested\u201d me like that (even if I passed) I\u2019d dump her like a ton of bricks and would never even speak to her again. That\u2019s no way to live and that\u2019s no way to\u00a0find love.<\/p>\n

But what if you meet a guy you’re SUPER<\/strong> into, but he can’t seem to take a hint that you DO<\/strong> like him, what do you do?<\/p>\n

That’s a whole other situation, but fortunately, it’s way EASIER<\/strong> to deal with this one. I recently put up a video showing you how to get him off his gorgeous butt and take action!<\/p>\n

And by that, I mean kicking himself and wondering why he didn’t sweep you off your feet sooner!<\/em><\/p>\n

It all starts by sending him the right text messages to capture his heart and turn him into a romantic Prince Charming overnight<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Yup, you read that right – all it takes is to press a few buttons on your phone to seal the deal. Learn how to do it by watching the video below:<\/p>\n

Text The Romance Back<\/a>\"Text<\/a><\/h2>\n

Best,<\/p>\n

Mike Fiore<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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