{"id":1017,"date":"2017-11-21T07:30:48","date_gmt":"2017-11-21T07:30:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/?p=1017"},"modified":"2018-06-04T22:52:46","modified_gmt":"2018-06-04T22:52:46","slug":"how-to-deal-with-his-insane-expectations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/how-to-deal-with-his-insane-expectations\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Deal with His (Insane) Expectations"},"content":{"rendered":"

By James Bauer<\/em>
\nAuthor of The Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

What If You Knew What Men Secretly Wanted, but They Could Never Tell You… Don’t Forget To Check Out\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>T<\/em>he Secret Love Instinct<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

How to Deal with His (Insane) Expectations<\/h2>\n

Think about the last time you experienced really bad service at a restaurant.<\/p>\n

Maybe it took forever to get a table. Or the food was cold when it arrived. Or your order was wrong.<\/p>\n

Whatever the case, THE THING that made the experience negative was an unmet expectation.<\/p>\n

Expectations are powerful. And the feeling of disappointment that comes with unmet expectations HURTS.<\/p>\n

Literally.<\/p>\n

When you feel disappointed, your dopamine levels drop like a rock. Neurologically, dopamine plays a big role in feeling good. If dopamine levels dip, that\u2019s when the emotional pain kicks in.<\/p>\n

The implications for your relationships are huge.<\/p>\n

Trust can\u2019t survive in an environment of constant disappointment. Neither can intimacy. If either of you feels let down all the time, that\u2019s not a good sign.<\/p>\n

Good-bye happily ever after. Hello broken heart. You don\u2019t want that.<\/p>\n

But what about his crazy, unrealistic expectations? He\u2019s a guy, after all. Some guys go into a romance with pretty off-the-wall ideas about the way dating should play out.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s take a quick look at three common male assumptions about women, and what you can do to deal with his (possibly insane) expectations.<\/p>\n

1. He expects enough attention to know you\u2019re into him . . . but not so much that you come off as needy.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

You don\u2019t want to bug him, but you don\u2019t want him to think you\u2019re not interested, either. Especially when you first start dating a guy.<\/p>\n

The easiest way to strike the right balance is to maintain contact by putting the ball in his court. Let me show you what I mean.<\/p>\n

Send him a text. Tell him you had fun talking or hanging out the other night. Then simply invite him to let you know when he wants to hang out again.<\/p>\n

Now he knows you\u2019re interested, but he doesn\u2019t feel pressured.<\/p>\n

BONUS: A lot of guys like to feel like they\u2019re taking the lead. This is a way for you to do something proactive while still giving him that feeling.<\/p>\n

2. He wants to know he can talk to you about anything . . . even though there will be times when he doesn\u2019t say much at all.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Plenty of guys say they want a gal who can hang with them in any environment and talk to them about any topic. But even when they end up with a girl who\u2019s down to talk about anything, they don\u2019t share.<\/p>\n

And pushing won\u2019t get him to open up.<\/p>\n

Try this instead. When you can tell there\u2019s something on his mind, good or bad, ask what\u2019s up. Once. If he talks, listen. If he doesn\u2019t, don\u2019t make a big deal of it. Just move on.<\/p>\n

Over time, he\u2019ll learn that you\u2019re always willing to be a sounding board, without being pushy.<\/p>\n

BONUS: That\u2019s exactly the kind of scenario that will lead him to share with you more often.<\/p>\n

3. He wants a strong, independent woman . . . as long as there are times when she needs her man.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

It sounds like an outright contradiction. He wants to know you can take care of yourself, but he also wants to be your knight in shining armor.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s what you SHOULDN\u2019T do. DON\u2019T play the role of the weak, needy female. That\u2019s not who you are.<\/p>\n

Instead, just be authentic at each moment.<\/p>\n

We all have moments of strength and weakness. If you\u2019re bold enough to show it when you need a hand, he\u2019ll have plenty of opportunities to feel like the hero.<\/p>\n

BONUS: He\u2019ll be far more likely to let you know when he\u2019s hurting, too.<\/p>\n

Unmet expectations can choke the life right out of your romance. But that doesn\u2019t mean you have to jump through a bunch of ridiculous hoops.<\/p>\n

Some of the things guys expect are kind of nuts. Instead of letting that get you down, use these proactive relationship hacks to stop disappointment dead in its tracks.<\/p>\n

I have a Relationship Reboot<\/strong> program that will totally change your life. You simply have to use your Feminine Love Instinct<\/strong> to kickstart the whole process.<\/p>\n

Learn more here:<\/p>\n

Video: The #1 Trait Men Desire In A Woman<\/a> <\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Fair warning:<\/strong> once you do this, there’s no turning back. He’ll come at you with the energy and enthusiasm he had on your FIRST DATE<\/strong>!<\/p>\n

To your success in love and in life!<\/p>\n

Kind regards,<\/p>\n

James Bauer
\nRelationships Coach and Author<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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