3 Foolproof Steps for Turning a Friend Into a Lover

Hey there!

I’m curious, have you ever fallen for one of your friends?

My friend Maria confessed to me that she did just that, and now she has no idea what to do about it!

Maybe you’ve been there too.

You love hanging out with him…and realized you feel more than friendship…and you want to turn it into something more.

But how?

You might be wondering if he has any clue about how you feel.

When it’s 2 am and you’re lying in bed awake…you might even wonder if maybe…

…just maybe…

He has romantic feelings for you too, but like you…

He’s hiding them because you’re JUST friends.

It’s TOTALLY possible that he has feelings for you, or at the very least, he’s been attracted to you at different times.

That attraction could easily tip over to feelings if given the proper nudging.

Here’s the thing.

Even if he has feelings for you, he also doesn’t want to ruin the friendship or shake things up.

Isn’t that what’s held YOU back?

The friendship must be pretty cool if you’re attracted to him and want to turn him into your lover.

Of course, there are some friendships that don’t stay purely platonic.

Some people end up being friends with benefits.

Maybe you value this friendship but he’s also SUPER hot, or rumor has it he’s a great kisser…

So you have to decide what you want from him.

The first step… is to LET HIM KNOW


And this is a big but…

Don’t just come out and say, “Hey, we’re great friends…so want to take it a step further?”

Instead, you can hint and use a subtle technique that will let him know about your feelings…

…while also giving you both an out if the feelings aren’t returned.

Try something like, “I used to have the biggest crush on you!”

This is a good way to open the door for more between you.

You see, he doesn’t have to give an answer right then.

And if he doesn’t want more from you, then you can both walk away from that comment.

This statement can tease him too. If you USED to like him, does that mean you still do?

Does it mean he’d have to work to get you to again?

His reaction will tell you A LOT.

A few positive reactions would be:

He smiles and gives you lingering look…

He looks surprised and then smiles to himself…

He says, “Oh really? Me too.”

OR…he asks you… “So what about right now?”

This isn’t the only way to check where he’s at. You might also:

Do a double take at him and say, “Wow, have you been working out…or have I just never noticed how buff you are?”

Tell him, “All of my friends don’t get how I can be ONLY friends with someone so handsome.”   (Or nice, sweet, awesome…)

Or, “I’ve always thought you’re attractive…”

If he doesn’t say anything to your hint, that doesn’t mean he’s closing the possibility of more.

Because you’re friends, it might surprise him that you’re opening that door, so he may need time.

So, your little bombshell hint might have immediate results if he jumps on the chance…

Or, you might need to take the next two steps.

Step Two – It’s time to let him think about it…or, more specifically, make him think about it.

I’m not saying pull back and cut him off from the friendship.

Many women try this… they announce their feelings, and then step back.

That leaves him really confused.

“Hey…wait a minute..she said she likes me but now she’s just out of the picture? Is she just playing games with me?”

So don’t go MIA or try to avoid him completely.

Just don’t bring it up or try to talk to him about it—give him A LITTLE space while sending a few flirty messages.

If, it turns out he wants friendship and only friendship, giving him some space reduces the awkwardness factor.

It lets him figure out how he feels.

Also, before step three, it’s time to evaluate how he’s responding.

So you could call this Step 2.5 – Is he returning your feelings?

At first, he might have been very surprised.

Wait, a minute…she likes me?

Or…She likes me too?

It’s possible that he was attracted to you before and didn’t think about a relationship or his feelings.

Or maybe he was attracted and daydreaming about something happening with you.

But no matter where he was before, he probably didn’t think you were on the same page…or he would have taken action.

Now, he’s faced with the possibility of something between the two of you.

It’s a whole new ballgame!

That’s why you DON’T want to rush this.

If he was surprised, he probably didn’t respond right away. He might have dropped his gaze from your lingering look.

So wait a few weeks to see if he’s sending the signals back to you.

Does he flirt? Does he give YOU a lingering look? Does he touch you more?

Does he try to see you more? Like, showing up where you’re at or asking to hang out?

Even if you don’t see the obvious signs of flirting, he might still be attracted to you.

Because, remember that you didn’t pour it on yet. You hinted that you wanted more from him.

So decide if he’s showing some positive signs…or if he backed off or sent you a cold shoulder feeling.

The BIG tell is if you see THE SIGN…

You know, the sneaky sideways glance….

That’s when a man gives you a sideways glance, thinking you won’t notice.

But you DO. You see him sneaking all kinds of looks your way.

Or, the elevator glance…

You turn partway away but catch his gaze sliding down your body.

If he’s checking you out, his mind has jumped straight to: Whoa, she likes me…and I can’t stop looking…There could be something here.

If he’s more of the emotional type, he might stare into your eyes and get twitter-patted.

When you feel like there’s some indication on his part—and remember he might play it cool to preserve the friendship—then go ahead with step three.

Step three – Pour it on!

You think there’s something there, so now you get to test it.

It’s time to flirt and let him know it’s a green light…

BUT…you are giving him the green light to chase you.

You don’t want to chase him and take the fun out of it.

You’re going to intrigue him, tantalize him, and make him come hither.

Wear something sexy but still mysterious, meaning let his imagination do the work.

Remember to use flirtatious colors like red lipstick and pink clothes to clue him in that you’re sending out a single and looking vibe.

It’s okay if you attract a few other men your way too—it’s good to let your friend turned crush know that you’re a hot and single lady.

Let your body language pull him in.

Face him when you talk, lean in, and let your flirty girl side out.

Be your hot, sexy, feminine self and let him take the bait.

In other words, don’t throw yourself at him.

There are a few times when it works to tell a guy, “Hey, I really like you and want to see where this goes.”

If you’re good friends, it might work to talk about all this.

But it’s always a good idea to try the subtle approach first and let him feel like he gets to chase you.

That create excitement for both of you.

So, how long should you give him?

If you’re pulling out the big sexy guns and he’s not biting after a week, pull back.

That alone might get his attention. He might peruse you then.

It can be very fun and rewarding to turn a friend into a lover.

He already knows you and likes you.

Try these three steps to turn your friend into a lover and maybe even more.

If the guy you want to be with makes an effort to hold a proper conversation with you then it could be a sign he’s into you.

I hope these signs will help you determine whether or not a certain someone likes you.

If you’re interested in learning ways to show him that you’re interested and wanted to know How To Make A Man Obsess Over You, then please watch the video below:

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