{"id":930,"date":"2018-06-12T03:36:46","date_gmt":"2018-06-12T03:36:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/?p=930"},"modified":"2018-06-12T03:36:46","modified_gmt":"2018-06-12T03:36:46","slug":"what-do-men-like-in-bed-7-secret-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/what-do-men-like-in-bed-7-secret-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"What Do Men Like In Bed? 7 Secret Tips"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Carlos Cavallo<\/em>
\nFrom The Connection Code<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

Create A Constant And Unbreakable Connection With Him – Make Him Ignore Any Other Women That Cross His Path…
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\nVideo: The Secrets Of A Loving, Committed, & Unbreakable Relationship With The Man You Love
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What Do Men Like In Bed? 7 Secret Tips<\/h2>\n

I recently received this email from a student of mine:<\/p>\n

Carlos,<\/em><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been dating this guy for a few weeks (we\u2019re on official date number 3 this weekend\u2026)<\/em><\/p>\n

Since I\u2019m expecting that we\u2019re probably going to sleep together, what I want to know is what he expects from me.<\/em><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to disappoint him\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n

Thanks,<\/em><\/p>\n

Tina L., Sarasota Florida<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

CARLOS ANSWERS:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, Tina \u2013 if you\u2019re looking for a super wild sex tip that will rock his world\u2026<\/p>\n

Hang on.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s something you should know first: If you are on date number 3 \u2013 that does NOT mean you need to sleep with him.<\/p>\n

A lot of women (and men) think that there\u2019s this unwritten contract out there that if you make it to Date #3 you have to give it up. And that seems to me more like a negotiated settlement than a natural way to handle your relationship.<\/p>\n

When I was actively dating, I made it a point to let the woman know that I don\u2019t adhere to timelines or expectations. In fact, she might just have to wait a few MORE dates to jump in the sack, because I\u2019m not in a rush.<\/p>\n

Most of the time, this only made them want to seduce ME even sooner. But it was a boundary I stuck to for a reason. (And this was coming from a guy\u2026)<\/p>\n

One woman I dated for about 6 months told me after the \u201cmagical\u201d date that she had worn her black knee-high boots because she wanted to \u201cseal the deal.\u201d<\/p>\n

Look, if it takes 5 dates to get comfortable, then you need to hold to your own limit.<\/p>\n

If it\u2019s for real, he will have no trouble waiting.<\/p>\n

Again, I get a lot of emails from women that feel that if they don\u2019t give it up quick, some other woman will move in and steal him away.<\/p>\n

If he\u2019s so easily swayed by the scent of \u201ceau de bedroom\u201d \u2013 by that other girl\u2019s easy sex \u2013 then your relationship would not have lasted anyway.<\/p>\n

Sure, go ahead and try to make yourself think that your hoo-hoo is magical, but I\u2019ll tell you right now, it ain\u2019t. (And neither is hers\u2026 or hers\u2026 or hers\u2026)<\/p>\n

Yes, eventually sex will have to happen. But it\u2019s what you bring to the relationship in your attitude and your heart that makes him stay.<\/p>\n

Okay, so let\u2019s jump in and reveal the 7 secret tips to what men like in bed:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Secret Tip 1: He likes it when you laugh\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Look, everyone\u2019s so weird on that first sleepover that I\u2019m amazed that anyone makes it to the next date sometimes.<\/p>\n

You have to have some fun with your sexy time. Giggling is a great way to let a guy know you\u2019re enjoying yourself.<\/p>\n

Which is OUR biggest fear in bed \u2013 that we\u2019re not making you happy.<\/p>\n

Show him a smile and have some fun and you\u2019ll both breathe a huge sigh of relief \u2013 AND have a lot more fun in the sack.<\/p>\n

Secret Tip 2: He likes it when you\u2019re enthusiastic\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n

I\u2019ve had a few partners in the past that were so quiet and unemotional in the sack that I thought I was doing something wrong.<\/p>\n

Sorry, but \u201cshe just laid there\u201d will never be followed by \u201cshe was great in bed!\u201d<\/p>\n

The more excited and enthusiastic you are with us during the horizontal bop, the more we feel virile and manly.<\/p>\n

If you want a great example of what men like to see in attitude, look no further than adult movies and videos. It\u2019s not always LITERALLY what you\u2019re seeing there on the screen. It\u2019s more about the ATTITUDE of the women in the scenes.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll see that the women are not afraid to let the guy know how much they want HIM.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s every man\u2019s secret fantasy \u2013 just like yours: He wants to be desired by you completely in that moment.<\/p>\n

Secret Tip 3: He likes it when you\u2019re vocal, but soft-spoken\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Okay, this one is sure to raise some hackles\u2026<\/p>\n

Let me begin by saying that I do NOT mean that you should be a \u201cquiet, submissive woman.\u201d<\/p>\n

What I\u2019m talking about is a man\u2019s desire for a woman who understands how to be assertive \u2013 and demure \u2013 while being POLITE.<\/p>\n

This is one of those things I notice in couples these days \u2013 a kind of disrespect that feels like both partners just binge-watched \u201cMarried With Children\u201d or some other show that glorifies the \u201cangry relationship.\u201d<\/p>\n

So when it comes to the bedroom, he wants you to speak up and:<\/p>\n

Tell him what you want\u2026
\nTell him what you don\u2019t want\u2026
\nBe gentle with your corrections \u2013 when he\u2019s \u201cdoing it all wrong\u201d
\nJust do it in a gentle way that doesn\u2019t feel like impatience, scolding, or downright insensitivity. Because he won\u2019t tell you this, but:<\/p>\n

If a man gets bad or insensitive treatment in bed, he\u2019ll immediately UN-commit from your relationship.<\/p>\n

Secret Tip 4: He likes it in bed when you\u2019re not begrudging\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Let\u2019s face it \u2013 guys like \u201coral pleasure.\u201d Every bit as much as you do when it\u2019s done right.<\/p>\n

But if that\u2019s not your gig, sure that\u2019s fine. But don\u2019t pretend it is, then make it a \u201cLook what I did for you!\u201d event that you then throw in his face later on.<\/p>\n

Ahem\u2026 no pun intended.<\/p>\n

So be generous in bed, and never transactional. It\u2019s not a place to \u201cgive to get\u201d as those girls on \u201cSex & The City\u201d would say\u2026<\/p>\n

Oh, and no teeth down there.<\/p>\n

Nope, not ever.<\/p>\n

Secret Tip 5: He likes it when you touch him ALL over\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Guys are very responsive to touch. The slightest brush of your hand on our skin \u2013 and suddenly our pants don\u2019t fit right.<\/p>\n

We\u2019re incredibly erotic about touch.<\/p>\n

So use that to your advantage!<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t just touch the OBVIOUS sexy parts \u2013 let your hand wander around his body before you get down there.<\/p>\n

Some places to focus:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Thighs \u2013 A light squeezy massage is AWESOME\u2026<\/p>\n

Stomach \u2013 go ahead, play with the tiny fuzz around his bellybutton\u2026<\/p>\n

Chest \u2013 finger-comb his chest hair, or if he\u2019s not so hairy just use your fingertips to draw patterns\u2026<\/p>\n

One thing you want to avoid is touching the same place too long. This actually becomes irritating really quick, and it\u2019s a common complaint among guys that a woman has only one place to touch, and she just keeps rubbing and rubbing and rubbing that area.<\/p>\n

Let your fingers do the talking \u2013 don\u2019t be in such a hurry to get down and dirty. He still likes a little playful arousal and foreplay \u2013 no matter what you might think.<\/p>\n

Secret Tip 6: He likes it when you\u2019re just THERE with him\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Some after-chat is fine, but the best is when you\u2019re just smiling, happy, and PRESENT with us after the deed is done. Weirding out at this point \u2013 such as crying, getting moody and distant, or any other weirdness \u2013 is \u2026 well, just weird.<\/p>\n

If there are expectations \u2013 or should I say \u2018sexpectations\u2018 \u2013 that weren\u2019t met, you should find a way to nicely bring them up.<\/p>\n

One of the bad dynamics in a relationship is when a woman expects a guy to just \u201cknow\u201d something about her because it\u2019s so darn obvious\u2026 and of course, he won\u2019t because he\u2019s not a mind reader.<\/p>\n

And then she still feels that he should, and behaves as if an unspoken agreement was broken.<\/p>\n

This is the ultimate in passive-aggressive behavior, and guys won\u2019t tolerate it. It will actually bring out HIS passive aggressive.<\/p>\n

Be open and transparent with guys\u2026 unspoken assumptions are what usually scare us off the fastest.<\/p>\n

After you\u2019re done with the whoopie\u2026 just chill out and BE.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll love it.<\/p>\n

Secret Tip 7: He likes it when you know what his style is\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Every guy has a particular style of lovemaking \u2013 and relationship-making \u2013 that suits him best. It\u2019s his \u201ccode\u201d if you will.<\/p>\n

If you know what his personality is, you\u2019ll have an immediate advantage at locking this guy down.<\/p>\n

Especially if you know without having to ASK or interview him.<\/p>\n

Sexual styles are related closely to PERSONALITY styles and types. I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve taken a few of these tests from time to time to figure out your personality type. Or maybe you\u2019re really into horoscopes.<\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019ve got something that\u2019s even BETTER than a horoscope\u2026<\/p>\n

They\u2019re called Connection Styles. They\u2019re the shortcut into any man\u2019s mind \u2013 and heart!<\/p>\n

Once you learn what a man\u2019s connection style is you\u2019ll know EXACTLY how to unlock him for love. You\u2019ll also know how to talk to him, and really connect to his heart.<\/p>\n

There are just a few primary styles:<\/strong><\/p>\n

The Bull<\/em>
\nThe Dog<\/em>
\nThe Turtle<\/em>
\nThe Cat<\/em>
\nThe Lamb<\/em><\/p>\n

Do you know which type your man is?<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t, you\u2019re missing out on the easiest way to create a ROCK solid connection with him.<\/p>\n

Go watch this free presentation on the Connection Code\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

Video: The Secrets Of A Loving, Committed, & Unbreakable Relationship With The Man You Love<\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n

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