{"id":846,"date":"2018-03-21T22:47:22","date_gmt":"2018-03-21T22:47:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/?p=846"},"modified":"2018-06-27T23:57:20","modified_gmt":"2018-06-27T23:57:20","slug":"how-to-get-your-ex-back-by-texting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/how-to-get-your-ex-back-by-texting\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Get Your Ex Back By Texting"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>By Brad Browning<\/em><br \/>\n<em>From <a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">The Ex Factor Guide<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<h3><em>Learn how to win your ex back by simply texting on your phone.<br \/>\nCheck out the\u00a0<\/em><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">Ex Factor Guide<\/a><\/em><\/h3>\n<h2><strong>How to Get Your Ex Back By Texting<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><em>Hi, this is Brad Browning, breakup coach and author of the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">Ex Factor Guide&#8230;<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p>I know, I know &#8211; there\u2019s a lot more to winning your ex back than sending some text messages.<\/p>\n<p>But texting can be an extremely effective method of establishing rapport, trust\u00a0and attraction with your ex&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><em>&#8230;if executed correctly.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>BUT if you have no idea what you\u2019re doing, then texting your ex can be a one-way ticket to staying single and looking desperate.<\/p>\n<p>So read my advice VERY carefully if you want to learn exactly how to text your ex back the RIGHT way.<\/p>\n<p>A lot of clients ask me, &#8220;Should I call or text my ex?&#8221;<\/p>\n<h3>Personally, I believe that texting is a much safer way to communicate with your ex.<\/h3>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t require you to have a full-blown, face-to-face conversation and it\u2019s extremely non-invasive.<\/p>\n<p>Your ex is free to reply to you whenever he or she wants, and you\u2019re able to reply to your ex\u2019s text whenever you want too.<\/p>\n<p>This sort of dynamic allows you time to think about what to say before you <strong>actually<\/strong> say it.<\/p>\n<p>With most of the clients that I coach, I tell them that texting is usually the <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">best route<\/span> when communicating with their exes.<\/p>\n<p>But in some cases, texting might NOT be the right move.<\/p>\n<p>For instance, if you and your ex never texted one another during your relationship, it might be weird to all of a sudden start texting them.<\/p>\n<p>So keep this in mind before employing the tips that I reveal in this video.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/251745483\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3>Now, before I get started with what to text your ex, I\u2019m going to first teach you what NOT to do.<\/h3>\n<p>That way, you know right off the bat what you absolutely SHOULD NOT do if you want to get your ex back through texting.<\/p>\n<p>And let me tell you, after coaching guys for 10 years, I can say that the vast majority of people <strong>DO<\/strong> commit these huge texting errors\u2026<\/p>\n<p>&#8230;and these mistakes can sometimes <em>decimate<\/em> any chance of rekindling a relationship with an ex.<\/p>\n<p>I always like the saying, \u201cWhen emotions run high, the logic runs low.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re reeling from a tough breakup, chances are you\u2019re not thinking clearly.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re heartbroken, desperate, depressed and you\u2019re just <strong>not yourself<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>And most importantly, you\u2019re not thinking logically!<\/p>\n<p>And when logic goes out the window, people tend to send 3 kinds of <strong>BAD<\/strong> text messages.<\/p>\n<p>These are text messages that you might be guilty of, so it\u2019s important to pay attention!<\/p>\n<h2>#1: The \u201cHate Text\u201d<\/h2>\n<p>This is one of the most common kinds of texts guys send to their ex after a breakup.<\/p>\n<p>While venting can be therapeutic, saying mean things to your ex will <em>ruin your chances<\/em> of ever rebuilding a relationship with her.<\/p>\n<p>If you find yourself angry with your ex then give yourself a moment to cool down before you pick up your phone.<\/p>\n<h3>While being angry and emotional is COMPLETELY NORMAL for a person in your situation, it\u2019s wise to not act on these emotions if you want to win your ex back.<\/h3>\n<p>I mean\u2026what is your goal right now?<\/p>\n<p>To get in that \u201cone last shot\u201d at your ex?<\/p>\n<p>Or to win them back and make them love you again?<\/p>\n<p>Think about it this way: people tend to gravitate towards things that make them feel good.<\/p>\n<p>So if your ex, associates negative feelings with YOU, the less likely she&#8217;ll feel attracted to you again, let alone talk to you.<\/p>\n<p>So take a chill pill, relax and live to fight another day.<\/p>\n<h2>#2:\u00a0\u201cSpam Texts\u201d<\/h2>\n<p>When emotions are running and high and you\u2019re feeling desperate, all you want to do is just pick up your phone and start texting your ex NON STOP!<\/p>\n<h3>The problem is, nobody likes spam and nobody wants to talk to someone who\u2019s frantic and desperate.<\/h3>\n<p>Put yourself in the shoes of someone who\u2019s receiving <strong>20 or 30 messages a day<\/strong> from someone you don\u2019t even want to talk to!<\/p>\n<p>Maybe you\u2019ve even been there yourself. Annoying, right?<\/p>\n<p>One client told me that he sent 67 text messages over the course of TWO days to his ex without getting a single reply\u2026<\/p>\n<p>&#8230;and needless to say, this man didn\u2019t get his ex back.<\/p>\n<p>No surprise there.<\/p>\n<h2>#3: The \u201cOver-Emotional Text\u201d<\/h2>\n<p>These are texts that come across as extremely needy.<\/p>\n<p>Anything along the lines of, \u201cYou broke you my heart\u201d or \u201cI don\u2019t think I can love another again.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>This is the kind of stuff that will kill any sort of attraction that your ex has for you.<\/p>\n<p>At the time, you might think that these text messages sound honest and sweet, but in reality, showing neediness to such a high degree will drive your ex far, far away.<\/p>\n<h3>By sending any of these three text messages, you turn yourself into what I call \u201cThe Texting Terrorist&#8221;.<\/h3>\n<p>You\u2019re forcing your ex to feel hurt and annoyed by you\u2026<\/p>\n<p>&#8230;and in some cases, you\u2019ll even scare your ex off <em>completely<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>Now I know what some of you might be thinking:<\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;Oh crap, I totally made all of these texting mistakes! Am I screwed or is there a chance of salvaging my situation?\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n<p>The quick answer is yes, there is a chance you can recover from these mistakes &#8211; and there is a chance you can get back on the road to winning your ex back.<\/p>\n<p>But you\u2019ll have to follow my instructions VERY carefully.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019ve committed some of these errors, then it\u2019s important to get your ex back to what I call \u201cEmotional Neutral&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Right now, your ex is feeling annoyed or angered by your text messages \u2013 and rightfully so.<\/p>\n<p>So the next logical step is to remove all the negative feelings your ex has of you by sending a quick apology text and employing the no-contact strategy.<\/p>\n<p>If this is your first time reading about it, the no-contact involves <strong>not contacting your ex<\/strong> for a certain period of time.<\/p>\n<p>Other relationship gurus might disagree with this tactic&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&#8230;but through my experience and research, the no-contact strategy is absolutely necessary for most situations.<\/p>\n<p>There are certain exceptions to this rule, but for the vast majority of cases, no-contact is a <strong>MUST<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>So if you\u2019ve been sending any of these hurtful or desperate text messages, the quickest way to get your ex to rebound is to first send a quick apology text.<\/p>\n<p>Something quick and short.<\/p>\n<p>Say something like, &#8220;Sorry I\u2019ve been emotional the last few days. Other things have been stressing me on top of this breakout and I lashed out. Wish you luck.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And that\u2019s it.<\/p>\n<h3>This text message accomplishes two things \u2013 you apologize to your ex and you give yourself an excuse for acting inappropriately.<\/h3>\n<p>After you send this, you MUST engage in no-contact for a period of at least 30 days.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t matter if your ex texts you back or asks you how you\u2019re doing, etc.<\/p>\n<p>When I say no contact, I really do mean NO CONTACT.<\/p>\n<p>So literally ZERO text messages during this time.<\/p>\n<p>This is very important for several reasons.<\/p>\n<p>See, right now your ex thinks that YOU\u2019RE chasing him or her.<\/p>\n<p>They think that they have all the power &#8211; and if they wanted to, they could have you back whenever they wanted.<\/p>\n<p>So what you need to do is to take that power away from them so that they begin to start chasing <strong>YOU<\/strong> instead.<\/p>\n<p>For example, imagine your ex sends you a message 15 days into the no-contact period and she gets no reply from you for several days.<\/p>\n<p>Your ex will start checking her phone\u00a0constantly, waiting for a response.<\/p>\n<p>This will make your ex emotional and she&#8217;ll\u00a0wonder why you&#8217;re not replying\u2026and this is exactly why no-contact works so brilliantly.<\/p>\n<h3>It turns the tables upside down and makes your ex WANT to talk to you.<\/h3>\n<p>Of course, no-contact is only a small step towards getting your ex back, but if you want to learn my full, proven system, then check out the full-length video by clicking here.<\/p>\n<p>But here&#8217;s a question a lot of guys ask me:<\/p>\n<h2>How long should my no-contact period be?<\/h2>\n<p>And the answer to that fully depends on the severity of your breakup.<\/p>\n<p>How much <strong>begging and pleading<\/strong> did you do right after the breakup? Did you send <strong>angry<\/strong> text messages to her?<\/p>\n<p>Did you send any of the three so-called \u201cbad text\u201d messages I described earlier?<\/p>\n<p>Ask yourself these questions and BE HONEST with yourself.<\/p>\n<p>If you committed several of these errors and you know your ex is annoyed or angry at you, you probably need to wait <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">more<\/span> than 30 days.<\/p>\n<p>In some cases, I recommend clients not contact their ex for 60 days or more \u2013 again, this all depends on her specific situation.<\/p>\n<p>So let\u2019s fast forward this timeline and say that you\u2019ve done everything perfectly.<\/p>\n<p>You quickly apologized, engaged in no contact, and did all of the other things that I recommend in my Ex Factor Guide program.<\/p>\n<p>What now? How do you go from no contact to having a positive conversation with your ex?<\/p>\n<p>And, by the way, that is the goal right now.<\/p>\n<h3>At this point in time, your only goal should be to establish a positive rapport with your ex.<\/h3>\n<p>You\u2019re not going to make them fall madly in love with you again just by sending a few messages to them\u2026but building rapport is a crucial beginning.<\/p>\n<p>So what kind of text should you be sending? In my Ex Factor Guide, I go through dozens of text messaging examples.<\/p>\n<p>But in this blog post, I\u2019ll go through three kinds of text messages that are sure to establish a good basis for reconnecting with your ex.<\/p>\n<h2>#1: The \u201cBig Interest\u201d Text<\/h2>\n<p>Remember, nobody wants to receive a super boring text like \u201chey\u201d or \u201cwhat\u2019s up?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Not only do these texts lack purpose, it also doesn\u2019t make your ex feel any emotions at all.<\/p>\n<p>You want to send something that makes them feel good\u2026AND that has actual value.<\/p>\n<p>To let you know what I mean, let\u2019s jump into an example of a \u201cBig Interest\u201d text message.<\/p>\n<p>You could send your ex something like, \u201cHey, just heard that the Foo Fighters are coming into town in June\u2026just remembered how much you loved them. Hope everything is going well.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And that\u2019s it!<\/p>\n<p>For now, this is all you need to send your text message to eventually get started and reconnect.<\/p>\n<p>So why does this text message work? Well, for starters, you have a very clear purpose as to why you\u2019re texting your ex.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re not begging, you\u2019re not pleading or getting angry\u2026you\u2019re simply letting\u00a0your ex know about something that may be a huge interest to her.<\/p>\n<p>Secondly, you&#8217;re <strong>not forcing<\/strong> a conversation.<\/p>\n<p>You end the reply with, \u201cHope everything is going well.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Your ex can reply to your text, or they can simply ignore she wants. But if you did everything correctly up until this point, you should be getting a positive response from your ex.<\/p>\n<h2>#2: The\u00a0\u201cGood Reminder\u201d text<\/h2>\n<p>This second ice-breaker text message is a little more advanced, so use it with caution.<\/p>\n<p>The goal of this text message is to remind your ex of a positive experience you two shared while you were together, without making it feel awkward.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s jump into an example text\u2026<\/p>\n<p>You could say something like, \u201cHey, remember that amazing dinner we had on the corner of Yates and Blanshard St.? What was the name of that restaurant again? I want to take a friend there.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Depending on where you\u2019re at with your ex, this can do wonders.<\/p>\n<p>In this particular text message, you\u2019re reminding your ex of the amazing dinner you two shared together\u2026and this will force your ex to think about that positive experience.<\/p>\n<p>Secondly, this text message is great because it incites a little bit of jealousy and mystery.<\/p>\n<p>Your ex might be thinking, &#8220;<strong>WHO<\/strong> are you taking to dinner and why?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Again, this text message is extremely effective if you send it at the right time.<\/p>\n<p>If your ex is still annoyed by you, then sending this text will only ensure that WON\u2019T get a reply back.<\/p>\n<h2>#3:\u00a0The \u201cSmile Text\u201d<\/h2>\n<p>This is one of my favorites.<\/p>\n<p>Now, this text message should only be used if you handled your breakup properly \u2013 as in, you didn&#8217;t plead or got angry.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s jump into an example, shall we?<\/p>\n<p>Say something like, \u201cI just stumbled upon my old copy of Harry Potter and The Half Blood Prince and it made me think about you for the first time in a while\u2026and it put a smile on my face!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Again, like the last two text messages, your text message has a purpose.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re trying to reel your ex in emotionally with something positive and interesting.<\/p>\n<h3>You aren\u2019t trying to stir up any drama or the set the world on fire, you\u2019re simply reconnecting and building rapport.<\/h3>\n<p>Things like attraction, love and romance will come much later in this process.<\/p>\n<p>And again, if you want to learn THE ENTIRE method on how to get your ex to come back to you, just simply watch the full video presentation by going here.<\/p>\n<p>Hopefully, if you\u2019ve done everything correctly, your ex will respond to you in a positive way, but there are a few things you need to remember when trying to carry a conversation with her.<\/p>\n<h2>Rule number one: Put a \u201cdelay\u201d in between all of your text messages.<\/h2>\n<p>At this point, you\u2019ll want to appear as nonchalant as possible, and putting a solid delay in between text messages can do just that.<\/p>\n<p>So instead of replying to his or her text messages right away, wait an hour or more.<\/p>\n<p>This will create some level of anticipation in your ex, and will also help remove any sort of \u201cdesperate\u201d or \u201cneedy\u201d sentiment your ex still may have of you.<\/p>\n<p>Also, if you\u2019ve just reconnected after the no contact period, then you should only be exchanging a few text messages a day \u2013 no more than 6 or 7 text messages on any given day.<\/p>\n<h2>Rule number two: Keep your replies brief, but don\u2019t forget some basic principles.<\/h2>\n<p>If you were to send huge, long, rambling text messages, you might appear a little <strong>desperate<\/strong> for attention.<\/p>\n<p>So keep the text messages as short as possible, but not so short that you kill the conversation.<\/p>\n<p>Keep talking about things that interest your ex and ask honest questions.<\/p>\n<h2>Rule number three: Never bring up any drama.<\/h2>\n<p>Don\u2019t talk about your past relationship, don\u2019t ask who they\u2019re dating right now, and don\u2019t try and argue with your ex.<\/p>\n<p>The goal here is to remain positive so that your ex will WANT to meet up with you.<\/p>\n<p>So now that we\u2019ve established some rules, how do you go from texting your ex to dating your ex?<\/p>\n<p>Well, first things first, you need to establish a <strong>quick meet-up<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>No, you don\u2019t want to ask your ex out on a date or anything like that, but you\u2019ll want to have a quick coffee or hang-out with your ex at some point.<\/p>\n<h3>The best way to do this is to make sure you have a very good REASON to want to see your ex.<\/h3>\n<p>For example, say you\u2019ve been texting your ex back and forth for a few days and you want to finally take it to the next level and set up a coffee hangout.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t just ask them to go out for coffee \u2013 this could set off alarm bells inside your ex\u2019s mind.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll want to have an EXCUSE to meet up with your ex.<\/p>\n<p>Let me jump right into an example text before I explain\u2026<\/p>\n<p>You could say something like, \u201cBy the way, I\u2019m planning a trip to Portugal at the end of August and could use some advice.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Since I know you\u2019ve been there, it would be awesome if you could give me some pointers! Can we grab a quick coffee this Friday? I\u2019d really appreciate it!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And here\u2019s another example:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI\u2019m redesigning my living room and was wondering if you could give me a few pointers!I know you\u2019ve always been good with interior design stuff. Could we grab a quick 20-minute coffee?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Something simple and straightforward this is a perfect way to set the tone.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll want to appear friendly <strong>FOR NOW<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Any sort of flirting or suggestion of romance might <em>scare off<\/em> your ex.<\/p>\n<p>So for now, just set up a meet! Once you learn how to do this, you\u2019ll be able to start pushing your ex\u2019s psychological \u201chot buttons\u201d and make them fall for you again by using my \u201c3R System\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>The \u201c3R System\u201d is what I teach in my <a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">Ex Factor Guide<\/a>\u2026 and it\u2019s a\u00a0method that I\u2019ve used to teach thousands of men to win back the love of their lives.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s pretty simple and straightforward, and it will give you the very best chance to win your ex back for good.<\/p>\n<p>For more information on exactly how my system works, check this out:<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-861\" src=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/Brad-Browning-Big-v2.jpg\" alt=\"Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back\" width=\"933\" height=\"420\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/Brad-Browning-Big-v2.jpg 933w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/Brad-Browning-Big-v2-300x135.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/Brad-Browning-Big-v2-768x346.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 933px) 100vw, 933px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Brad Browning From The Ex Factor Guide Learn how to win your ex back by simply texting on your phone. 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