So maybe you\u2019ve browsed through the web or checked out your local bookstore in hopes of finding the best way to talk to women.<\/p>\n
Then you came across a bunch of material that\u2019s supposed to make the ladies fall for you with just a few choice lines.<\/p>\n
Well, I\u2019ve been there before and tried it out myself when I was still new to the dating scene.<\/p>\n
And yes, it did work for me \u2013 but only to a certain extent.<\/p>\n
You see, learning pre-packaged material might help you get your foot in the door, but the longer you rely on set routines you\u2019ve learnt from the \u201cseduction community\u201d, the more it becomes a crutch \u2013 and you start to appear LESS genuine in a girl\u2019s eyes.<\/p>\n
Sooner or later, you\u2019ll need to cut the umbilical cord and think outside the box when it comes to talking to that hottie who caught your eye.<\/p>\n
BUT if you want a general idea of how guys from those online messaging boards do it, there\u2019s no harm in a little walkthrough.<\/p>\n
Besides, you\u2019ll eventually personalize your approach by incorporating your own quirks and techniques as you gain more experience in the dating world.<\/p>\n
So the first thing you should learn about are \u201cice breakers\u201d to get the ball rolling with a girl.<\/p>\n
Tip #1: Use \u2018ice breakers\u2019 to get the ball rolling<\/strong><\/p>\n As the term implies, ice breakers are a creative way to catch a girl\u2019s attention get her talking to you (e.g. by introducing an interesting subject).<\/p>\n To give you an idea, try asking a girl about \u201cemotionally charged\u201d topics (also known as \u201cchick crack\u201d), such as ex-boyfriends or relationships in general. These are the kind of things most women LOVE to give their two cents\u2019 worth about, so try your hand at breaking the ice with questions that revolve around this.<\/p>\n A friend of mine recently tried this line on a girl with great success:<\/p>\n \u201cExcuse me, but I just needed a minute of your time to get a girl\u2019s take on something that\u2019s been bugging me\u2026would it be OK for your boyfriend to keep close contact \u2013 as in Facebook friends close – with his ex if you were 100% certain they\u2019re just friends now??\u201d<\/p>\n I was actually there when my buddy dropped this line on a group of women, so I provided him with the excuse that we were having a discussion on the matter. It went really well because my friend\u2019s ice breaker got their attention and got the conversation going.<\/p>\n Once you\u2019ve got into a conversation with your girl, it\u2019s time to shift gears in the conversation, rather than dwelling on the \u2018ice breaker\u2019 subject you started out with.<\/p>\n Tip #2: Learn to shift gears in conversation<\/strong><\/p>\n This next part is crucial, which is to SHIFT gears once you\u2019ve gotten a girl talking, and let the conversation evolve naturally on to other topics.<\/p>\n My friend from above wisely moved on to different topics as soon as he got things rolling with the group of women he had approached.<\/p>\n Like I told you, you can\u2019t use the ice breaker to carry you all the way \u2013 otherwise you\u2019ll look unoriginal and won\u2019t stand out from all the other guys who\u2019ve hit on her before.<\/p>\n If anything, using pre-rehearsed \u201cconversational bits\u201d is OK as long as it\u2019s used sparingly, for example to fill in any awkward silences. Just make sure you\u2019re not creating an artificial personality by using this stuff ALL THE TIME.<\/p>\n As I said earlier, it\u2019s better to be original in the long run instead of using lines like a crutch.<\/p>\n The key here is to actively LISTEN to the girl you are talking to so that you can comment on what she is saying or ask further questions, rather than only half paying attention because you are trying to think of new conversation topics in your head.<\/p>\n If you just relax and pay attention to her, the conversation should flow naturally.<\/p>\n There is one other \u2018pick-up\u2019 trick you should to know about – and AVOID like the plague.<\/p>\n Tip #3: Do not \u2018neg\u2019!<\/strong><\/p>\n One trick that you should NEVER use is \u201cnegging\u201d, which is basically firing off a bunch of thinly veiled insults in an attempt to engage in \u201cwitty wordplay\u201d.<\/p>\n This is something I\u2019m totally against because the only purpose of using \u201cnegs\u201d is to knock down a hot woman (or a \u201c10\u201d as pickup artists like to say) a few notches and bring her \u201cdown to your level\u201d.<\/p>\n Whatever that means!<\/p>\n In reality, you\u2019re not going to look cute or charming by slipping an insult past a woman\u2019s defenses. Chances are your quip about her weight or appearance is going to backfire, most likely in the form of a well-deserved slap or the contents of her martini glass thrown in your face.<\/p>\n Sure, you may have heard of other guys successfully pulling off a \u201cneg\u201d, but it\u2019s pretty much like a solider throwing a grenade without getting his hand blown off.<\/p>\n It\u2019s THAT risky, and you don\u2019t have to have compromise a woman\u2019s respect for you just to look like some bad boy.<\/p>\n To sum up\u2026<\/p>\n You\u2019re not going to be the guy who\u2019s naturally good at talking to women by ONLY using pre-packaged pickup material like some lifeline. It could very well snap if you\u2019re not careful.<\/p>\n Use it to get you started if you need to, but always let your true personality shine through as the conversation continues.<\/p>\n Remember that in the real world, being a genuinely interesting guy is about having a well-rounded life. 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\nHaving a lot of interests gives you plenty of stuff to talk about with a girl and avoids weirding her out with some contrived personality that doesn\u2019t represent the REAL you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"