The one trick to attracting women is by realizing the difference between what women THINK they want and what they REALLY want.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t worry \u2013 it\u2019s not as complicated as it sounds.<\/p>\n
Here\u2019s how it is: most women assume that they want a guy who WORSHIPS the ground they walk on.\u00a0 You know, the type of dude who goes all-out with the flowers, chocolates, fancy dinners and so on.<\/p>\n
There\u2019s nothing inherently wrong with this, but the timing is what kills the romance.<\/p>\n
Do you think it\u2019s really a wise move to bring out the heavy guns so EARLY on in the game?\u00a0 Or would it be better to save all the mushy stuff AFTER she feels like she\u2019s earned your affection?<\/p>\n
The one thing you cannot do is give women the impression that you\u2019re willing to go to such extremes for someone you barely know.\u00a0 Trying to be the guy they think<\/em> they want enforces this impression.<\/p>\n To avoid looking like a needy sap who\u2019s desperate for validation, try a different approach.<\/p>\n The usual candlelit dinner is going to backfire because it forces a sense of romance before any real chemistry has had a chance to develop.\u00a0 Getting all intense at the beginning will just end up creeping her out.<\/p>\n Courtship is about escalation, so you need to gradually calibrate the level of intimacy by starting out nice and easy.\u00a0 Wouldn\u2019t YOU be freaked out by too much eagerness?\u00a0 It just doesn\u2019t feel right.<\/p>\n When dating a woman for the first time, go for a place that avoids the usual trappings of romance like a quirky caf\u00e9 or diner.\u00a0 The light, casual atmosphere will allow you to get to know each other better without being rushed into anything you\u2019re not ready for.<\/p>\n On your end, you\u2019ll get acquainted with her work, interests and other vital info that\u2019ll give you a good idea of what makes her tick.\u00a0 If you went straight into giving her roses and a box of chocolates, she may very well be NOT into either of those.<\/p>\n But if you found out she likes classic black and white films in the course of your conversation\u2026<\/p>\n \u2026well, you\u2019d probably know what DVD you can get her as a gift in the future, right?<\/p>\n That\u2019s the thing about first dates: you\u2019re not supposed to go in for the kill just yet.\u00a0 You need to size her up and figure out what she really wants in a guy \u2013 and then turn it up a notch from there.<\/p>\n Also, just because the setting isn\u2019t romantic, it doesn\u2019t mean the first date isn\u2019t an opportunity to plant romantic notions in her head.\u00a0 Although you\u2019re not wooing her with a fancy dinner just yet, you can already set the stage as early as now.<\/p>\n To do this without freaking her out, slip some romantic topics into the conversation and don\u2019t forget to compliment her a few times.\u00a0 The goal here is not only to know her more, but to also make her feel good.<\/p>\n For instance, you can ask her general questions about her ideal romantic experience and how she would feel if it happened to her.\u00a0 As she describes it to you, her romantic thoughts will cause her to see you less and less as \u201cjust a friend\u201d\u2026<\/p>\n \u2026and as someone she could potentially be more than friends with.<\/p>\n As with compliments, making a quick, positive comment on something about her clothes, shoes or hair works best.\u00a0 Looking good takes work, so acknowledging her efforts go a long way in making her feel good about herself.<\/p>\n If you want to be more original though, try complimenting her on something aside from her physical features, such as her intelligence, sense of humor or positive attitude.\u00a0 These too will help generate good feelings which she can associate with you.<\/p>\n Lastly, don\u2019t let the date drag on for more than an hour, even if you\u2019re having a good time.\u00a0 In fact, leaving her feeling good is the perfect time to call it a night.<\/p>\n With all the good feelings you\u2019ve generated, she\u2019ll want more where that came from \u2013 YOU.\u00a0 So getting her to agree on a second date will be a breeze!<\/p>\n Otherwise, things could get stale and boring beyond the 60-minute mark.\u00a0 Setting a time limit works to your advantage because it means you have other things going on in your life.<\/p>\n This shows a woman that you\u2019re not about to put your life on hold for her.\u00a0 More importantly, it also means you live a well-balanced life \u2013 this is especially important for her to feel AFTER you\u2019ve officially become a couple.<\/p>\n A genuinely attractive man has a strong sense of individuality, and being in a relationship doesn’t mean his identity will disappear into it.<\/p>\n In reality, what a woman really wants is a guy who won’t make her the be-all and end-all of his universe. \u00a0No girl would want to be solely responsible for anyone’s happiness!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The one trick to attracting women is by realizing the difference between what women THINK they want and what they REALLY want. 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