There\u2019s nothing worse than being in a dating drought.<\/p>\n
All the girls you have encountered are either ugly, don’t want to know you… or are all crazy!<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve been there, chances are you\u2019ve been there, and I have a good friend who\u2019s there right now. It\u2019s affected just about every guy, and is the ultimate discouragement in our pursuit of women\u2026if you let it be.<\/p>\n
For all its negative undertones, being in a dating drought doesn\u2019t have to be the worst thing ever. There are actually benefits to taking a timeout from girls, and the sooner you see these benefits, the sooner you\u2019ll actually get out of your drought and into the hot female zone you\u2019re seeking.<\/p>\n
The first step out of a slump is to BELIEVE that you\u2019ll get out of the slump. May be harder than it sounds, but believe me, it\u2019s crucial to adopt that mindset. The guys who are quickest to get out of a drought are those who don\u2019t throw a pity party for themselves, who don\u2019t flee back to their ex\u2019s in desperation, and who remain focused on the other parts of their life, the parts that will attract women to them in the first place: work, sports, friends, etc.<\/p>\n
My friend Sal is in a slump for the first time in a while. He dated one girl for 5 full years, and now that he finally broke up with her, he doesn\u2019t know what to do. It\u2019s been about a month, which is a lot shorter time period than a lot of guys I know who have been through the same, and he\u2019s already getting cranky, depressed, and tempted to go back to his girlfriend, despite the fact that he knows she\u2019s not right for him.<\/p>\n
But in situations like his, you have to HOLD YOUR GROUND. Yeah, it blows being in a slump when it seems like no girl is into you, or there are just none that you want to get to know better. It\u2019s frustrating as hell not getting any love or sex for a long stretch. But you know what? It\u2019s also rewarding, which brings me to my next Slump Salvation tidbit:<\/p>\n
Use the free time you have with no girlfriend or booty call to improve yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n Sal doesn\u2019t seem to be doing this. He\u2019s wasting lots of time going online, searching for girls he might be able to get a date with (I\u2019m no believer in online dating), and groveling over how he can\u2019t seem to get a girl, even when it seems like she\u2019s interested in him. He\u2019s giving women power over his life, making it seem like having one is the sole purpose in life, instead of empowering HIMSELF and going on living with a purpose that isn\u2019t women-related.<\/p>\n As I\u2019ve said so many times before, the funny thing about not looking for a girl is that THAT is when you are most likely to get one. So instead of wasting hours on end looking on MySpace or CraigsList or whatever other dating sites you may use, consider taking some time out to reconnect with your masculine self.<\/p>\n When is the last time you went on a boys road trip?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n When is the last time you caught up with those buddies you only see very occasionally?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n When is the last time you had a good sort out of your bedroom, your bathroom, and your car?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Still got a few unfinished projects or things you haven’t had time to do? <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n That half-finished bike you are repairing, or that hike you always wanted to do?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Now you have time to cross some of those things off the list!<\/p>\n The great thing about being single is that you have the time that you wouldn\u2019t when you\u2019re with a girl, to learn new things that generally impress girls: how to cook a great meal, enjoying sports and getting in shape, traveling wherever you want and opening up to new things in life.<\/p>\n A lot of guys stop learning, stop opening themselves up when they\u2019re with a girl. They become complacent, oversatisfied, content that now that they\u2019ve found a girlfriend or wife, as if they\u2019ve reached the top of the mountain.<\/p>\n Nah. Doesn\u2019t work that way. Having a woman is only one piece of the pie.<\/strong><\/p>\n In fact, when you stop exploring life and committing yourself to new things, that\u2019s when a girl often loses interest. She sees that her boyfriend or husband has settled down and has become boring. Things don\u2019t change, when girls often like change and new things. And often, that\u2019s exactly when a woman leaves a man.<\/p>\n The time you have alone is your time of preparation, of becoming an exciting person. I, for example, was definitely not ready 10 years ago for the relationships I have been in over the last five years. I used the time in my teens and early 20\u2019s to build myself up and find out who I was and who I wanted to be. Since I took the time to find MYSELF, to build up my character and personality, it was no wonder that I was subsequently able to find girls in return.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re in a drought, don\u2019t think of it as a bad situation \u2013 see it as a good one. Learn everything you can, do everything you have time to do. Remember that there\u2019s probably a good reason you\u2019re single right now; perhaps it was meant to be and it\u2019s your chance to learn more about yourself and what it is you really love.<\/p>\n Not every guy is made for every girl \u2013 there\u2019s a special girl (or girls) out there just for you, but you have to build up your identity and purpose before you can find her.<\/strong><\/p>\n Once you get a good understanding of your purpose in life and what you want to do with it, you\u2019ll find that you enjoy things more. If your goal is to become a successful business owner who travels the world, use your free time now to determine how you\u2019re going to achieve that goal, and go on doing it.<\/p>\n Hunker down to build that business, and use your free time to see the world (you\u2019ll probably meet a girl while traveling). I guarantee you that once you have a path, an understanding of what your life is about, girls will begin to enter your life.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll be having so much fun doing what moves you, what fills you up, what makes you happy, that you won\u2019t even be searching for women. But that infectious happiness and enthusiasm you feel will draw women to you like bees to honey. And it’s exactly those times that the right women show up.<\/p>\n So remember, believe that you\u2019ll get out of the slump, use the time that the slump affords you with, and you\u2019ll go from bust to boon in no time!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" There\u2019s nothing worse than being in a dating drought. All the girls you have encountered are either ugly, don’t want to know you… or are all crazy! 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