{"id":235,"date":"2013-06-11T05:16:58","date_gmt":"2013-06-11T05:16:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/?p=235"},"modified":"2018-07-18T22:22:29","modified_gmt":"2018-07-18T22:22:29","slug":"what-women-want-you-to-have","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/what-women-want-you-to-have\/","title":{"rendered":"What Women Want You To Have"},"content":{"rendered":"

I have to tell you, guys who’ve had the sweet taste of victory are wise\u00a0enough to NEVER take it for granted. Equally, the secret to their success\u00a0is in knowing to never take a rejection personally.<\/p>\n

I know how crappy it feels when the witty opener that you mustered\u00a0the courage to try on that pretty girl gets shot down in flames.\u00a0It’s even harder to muster the detachment to not care about it\u00a0afterwards.<\/p>\n

But you’ll get used to it.\u00a0 That’s not to say that persistence is\u00a0necessarily a good thing.\u00a0 You should have the common sense to stop\u00a0if that woman you’re pursuing is just feeding off your trampled ego.<\/p>\n

Then again, common sense isn’t so common these days, yeah?\u00a0 Well,\u00a0that’s why I’m here to show you the ropes.<\/p>\n

So listen – like I said, there is NO room for resentment when it\u00a0comes to attracting females.\u00a0 Girls like men who are fun, easy and\u00a0relaxing to be with.\u00a0 Going into the game with a chip on your\u00a0shoulder is a guaranteed FAILURE.<\/p>\n

As such, you shouldn’t be angry that you have to adopt certain\u00a0mindsets and attitudes to push the right buttons.\u00a0 Accept the fact\u00a0that you’re going to have to know the patterns that are present in\u00a0dating.<\/p>\n

For example, most of the time it is up to US to pursue a girl in\u00a0order to win her attention and attraction.\u00a0 The reality that girls\u00a0use this as a form or power is a constant source of frustration to\u00a0many guys.<\/p>\n

But I’m telling you now that you shouldn’t let it get to you.\u00a0 Suck\u00a0it up and learn how to play the game if you truly desire meaningful\u00a0female companionship.<\/p>\n

It’s all a matter of social dynamics, so you need to familiarize\u00a0yourself with some basic truths to attracting females.<\/p>\n

Let’s be honest – many women are attracted to guys who are affluent\u00a0material-wise.\u00a0 I’m not saying that they’re materialistic, but\u00a0rather that being generative is a quality that women look for in a\u00a0man.<\/p>\n

Girls are after that certain trait where you are able to get it\u00a0together and take control of how you run your life.\u00a0 Specifically,\u00a0they want a man who has a clear life direction and the courage and\u00a0passion to get there.<\/p>\n

In short, being loaded definitely helps but you’ll never find a\u00a0meaningful relationship with that alone.<\/p>\n

While you may temporarily dazzle a girl with your bling, she’ll see\u00a0past the smoke and mirrors soon enough.\u00a0 You’ll have to possess\u00a0some key qualities to CREATE a truly lasting effect on her.<\/p>\n

One of the primary challenges to having successful interactions\u00a0with women is to make her feel safe.\u00a0 You’ll have to offer her a\u00a0considerable sense of security to open her mind to the possibility\u00a0of being romantic with you later on.<\/p>\n

Sorry to tell you this, but it takes a skilled eye to watch of for\u00a0potential trip wires as you wade through her mind’s landscape.\u00a0Trippy analogies aside, avoid doing or saying anything to trigger\u00a0her defenses.<\/p>\n

Humor and flirting is a great tool for cutting through those\u00a0defensive layers.\u00a0 A man who’s skilled at being light and playful\u00a0demonstrates that he’s at ease with girls… and more importantly,\u00a0with himself.<\/p>\n

Being able to joke around with a girl without any hint of\u00a0self-doubt says that you’re not at all anxious with how she’ll\u00a0react.\u00a0 Basically, you’re testing the waters but of course, you\u00a0shouldn’t LOOK like you are.<\/p>\n

As an aside, sometimes the best trait you can have is the nerve to\u00a0walk away from something when it doesn’t work for you.\u00a0 What I mean\u00a0by that is learning how to leave a bad situation, such as when an\u00a0abusive girl is already taking you for granted.<\/p>\n

In the same way, you should be also prepared to walk away from a\u00a0girl you’ve just met if things aren’t going as planned.\u00a0 If she\u00a0happens to be having a bad day and you end up getting an apathetic\u00a0stare, then it shouldn’t matter to you.<\/p>\n

A quick and polite goodbye coupled with a graceful exit is\u00a0perfectly fine.\u00a0 She didn’t like you?\u00a0 So what?<\/p>\n

What doesn’t kill you only makes you wiser the next time around.\u00a0Remember, don’t take it badly during this trial and error process.<\/p>\n

That unique kind of detachment actually helps you flirt better.\u00a0It’s an attitude that says, “Hey, I’m just here to have fun talking\u00a0to you… no big deal if you’re not interested.<\/em>”<\/p>\n

So, go ahead and generate some humor from the context that you and\u00a0your new acquaintance are in.\u00a0 When you run into that striking\u00a0brunette at the grocery counter, tell her,<\/p>\n

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“I’m glad YOU were at the end of this long queue.\u00a0 At least I’ll have\u00a0something to look forward to the next time I have to line up here!”<\/em><\/p>\n

From that example, you can see how important it is to be at ease\u00a0with yourself.\u00a0 This is a quality that women unconsciously seek,\u00a0and a separate matter worth expounding on.<\/p>\n

Let me break it down for you.\u00a0 There are straightforward,\u00a0conventional nine-to-five-at-the-office guys, and then there are\u00a0maverick-types who differ in terms of looks and lifestyle.<\/p>\n

Being comfortable with who you are is the one common attitude\u00a0needed, regardless of what “category” you fit into.\u00a0 If you stand\u00a0out in some way but aren’t at ease with it, then women will\u00a0feel that air of weirdness and scram pronto.<\/p>\n

You’re only asking for rejection if you’re “weird” in some way and\u00a0FEEL weird about yourself as well.<\/p>\n

The real self-confidence that women look for is drawn from the fact\u00a0that she is NOT superior to you.\u00a0 Even if she’s incredibly\u00a0good-looking, putting yourself below her is like begging to be\u00a0slapped in the face.<\/p>\n

It sounds like the easiest thing to avoid doing, but it’s actually\u00a0not that hard to make her respect you less.\u00a0 That includes fawning\u00a0over her and repeatedly reminding her how beautiful she is.<\/p>\n

For sure, you’ll stroke her ego right before she crushes yours.\u00a0 Of\u00a0course she’s attractive to you – why else would you bother coming\u00a0up to her?\u00a0 Stating the obvious is never a good opening line.<\/p>\n

I know that I’m here to teach you about meeting women, but no one’s\u00a0telling you to compromise your dignity in the process.<\/p>\n

Ass-kissing and groveling are a dog’s job.\u00a0 If she’s the type that\u00a0enjoys kicking guys to the curb, then quit while you’re ahead.\u00a0 No\u00a0loss on you part.<\/p>\n

Girls want to meet a guy who’s free of that desperation which can\u00a0scare them off.\u00a0 Don’t forget the prerequisites to be the kind of\u00a0guy they want:<\/p>\n

-Able to make her feel safe and gain her trust<\/strong><\/p>\n

-Being good at flirting<\/strong><\/p>\n

-Being comfortable with yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n

-Treating her as an equal<\/strong><\/p>\n

There are plenty of girls out there and all it takes is the proper\u00a0know-how to attract them.<\/p>\n

If you want a shortcut to attraction success, check out more\u00a0conversation and approach tips here<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\"Conversation<\/a><\/p>\n

And I’ll see you next time with more tips and advice.<\/p>\n

Slade Shaw
\nMeetYourSweet.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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