You know that feeling of satisfaction you get\u00a0when you’ve finished a game?\u00a0 It’s like, great\u00a0job, spray the champagne, slaps on the back all\u00a0round … but then five minutes later you’re up for\u00a0another game.<\/p>\n
A lot of guys tell me that that’s the feeling\u00a0they get when they get a girlfriend.<\/p>\n
At first, they’re congratulating themselves for\u00a0scoring such a hot babe and, whoa, she wants to\u00a0keep coming back for more!\u00a0 They’re riding high,\u00a0and they don’t think they’ll ever hit the ground.<\/p>\n
But then they do hit the ground, and the game\u00a0is OVER.<\/p>\n
Having a girlfriend can be a let-down, if\u00a0you’ve built relationships up to be this mythical\u00a0state of paradise where nothing ever goes wrong.<\/p>\n
Worse yet, the longer you stay in a\u00a0relationship, the more your game lapses.\u00a0 So, if\u00a0you ever DO break up, you’ll be stuck with rusty\u00a0pickup skills and laughter ringing in your ears.<\/p>\n
But if you think that I’m about to tell you to\u00a0avoid the girlfriend trap, you’re wrong, because\u00a0I’m not.<\/p>\n
There’s a time and a place for having a\u00a0girlfriend. It’s essential that you know how to\u00a0identify where YOU are at.<\/p>\n
So check out the following three tips, which\u00a0should help you get\u00a0 you through the, “Oh my\u00a0god, I’m stuck with one woman for the rest of\u00a0my life,” feeling.<\/p>\n
TIP #1. Life goes through stages.\u00a0 Some stages are\u00a0appropriate for a relationship, while others\u00a0aren’t.<\/p>\n If you’ve just started out in the dating world\u00a0and haven’t had much experience, you’re going to\u00a0want to enjoy everything right away.\u00a0 As a result,\u00a0you may be tempted to rush into a long-term\u00a0relationship with the first girl who says yes.\u00a0 In\u00a0a word, DON’T!<\/p>\n Think of yourself as being in training.\u00a0 You’ve\u00a0got to date lots of women to figure out what works\u00a0and what doesn’t, and what you like and what you\u00a0don’t.<\/p>\n Once you get over that initial exploration\u00a0phase, you’re going to be getting down to the\u00a0nitty-gritty of honing your attraction skills so\u00a0that you experience consistent results.<\/p>\n Only after you’ve (1) seen what is out there\u00a0and (2) mastered enough skills to get consistent\u00a0results are you ready to invest the time and\u00a0energy into a relationship.\u00a0 I’m firm on this\u00a0point, and let me tell you why.<\/p>\n See, if you get into a relationship when you\u00a0have no idea what else is out there, you’re going\u00a0to not only accept whatever behavior your\u00a0girlfriend throws at you (because you don’t know\u00a0any better), but you’re also going to be\u00a0constantly wondering if this is the best it gets.<\/p>\n And if you jump into a relationship without\u00a0mastering attraction skills, you’re going to (1)\u00a0hold onto this girl for dear life – because you’re\u00a0so afraid that you won’t be able to get another\u00a0girlfriend if you lose this one – and (2) you’re\u00a0going to mess it up with her – because you haven’t\u00a0yet mastered the skill of understanding women.<\/p>\n Got it?<\/p>\n Know what stage in life you’re at, and don’t\u00a0jump the gun.<\/p>\n TIP #2. I’ve heard a couple of guys tell me that they\u00a0would have never believed it, if you’d told them\u00a0two years ago, how their lives would have changed\u00a0as a result of having a girlfriend.\u00a0 One guy was a\u00a0father; the other guy was living in his\u00a0girlfriend’s home town and doing the whole Sunday\u00a0family barbecue thing.<\/p>\n Are you ready for YOUR life to change?<\/p>\n If you kind of like things as they are now and\u00a0really don’t want to give up your single guy perks\u00a0(girlie calendars, late nights shooting pool, a\u00a0pizza-and-beer diet), then I wouldn’t recommend a\u00a0relationship.\u00a0 Girls tend to take issue with a lot\u00a0of the stuff that are staples of the single guy\u00a0lifestyle.<\/p>\n That being said, if it really doesn’t bother\u00a0you to start staying home on a weekend, cuddle up\u00a0on the sofa with a DVD, even get a cat, then you\u00a0deserve to be a one-woman man.<\/p>\n Girls love guys who are willing to give up their wild ways for\u00a0them.\u00a0 It’s a source of pride for a girl to tell\u00a0her friends that her boyfriend preferred to stay\u00a0home with her rather than go on a Vegas weekend\u00a0with the guys.<\/p>\n Settling down can be scary if you’re not ready\u00a0for the shift, so prepare yourself.\u00a0 Make sure\u00a0that you know what you are doing and set your\u00a0limits as to how far you’re willing to do things\u00a0her way.\u00a0 If she’s worth keeping, she’ll encourage\u00a0you to have some time on your own for doing “guy\u00a0things,” as long as she has time with her\u00a0friends for doing “girl things.”<\/p>\n TIP #3. All those things that once gave you a sense of\u00a0self-esteem – your ability to pull, the jar of\u00a0phone numbers kept on your bedside dresser, the\u00a0torrid tales of weekend exploits that you and your\u00a0buddies shared each Monday – are going to go by\u00a0the wayside when you settle into a relationship.<\/p>\n You have to be ready to see yourself differently\u00a0and find new ways to feel good about yourself.<\/p>\n Girlfriends have a tendency to make a guy go\u00a0healthy.\u00a0 They make you watch what you eat, get\u00a0enough sleep, and take care of yourself.\u00a0 If\u00a0you’re not careful, you can end up feeling\u00a0mothered.<\/p>\n But that’s just something you’re going to have\u00a0to expect and be prepared for.\u00a0 When you’re with a\u00a0girl, you have someone else to be responsible to.\u00a0She deserves to know that you’re not out on a\u00a0drinking binge with your buddies placing bets as\u00a0to who can pick up the hottest chick.<\/p>\n She deserves to know that you’re thinking about her\u00a0and what would be best for your relationship.<\/p>\n Relationships make you take the focus off\u00a0yourself and put it on a new subject: the BOTH of\u00a0you.\u00a0 It’s no longer just about you and what you\u00a0want to do; it’s about her and what she wants,\u00a0too.<\/p>\n If you’re holding fast to your own identity\u00a0and feel that her interference is threatening your\u00a0freedom, then you may not be in the right place to\u00a0have a relationship.<\/p>\n Sometimes, the best thing you can do is tell a\u00a0girl that you don’t want a relationship with her.\u00a0If you go for a relationship and you’re not in a\u00a0stage where you feel ready for the changes that\u00a0will bring, then I can guarantee you that there\u00a0WILL be a breakup in the future, and it’s gonna get\u00a0ugly.<\/p>\n Don’t put yourself through that.\u00a0 Don’t put HER\u00a0through that.\u00a0 Be the guy who’s up front about\u00a0whether he wants to have a relationship or\u00a0casually date.\u00a0 Be certain in your own head about\u00a0what your intentions are.\u00a0 The clearer you are to\u00a0yourself, the clearer she’ll hear the message.<\/p>\n That’s all for now, feel free to share your comments\u00a0and thoughts with me below. 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\n“Know where you’re at in life.” <\/strong><\/p>\n
\n“Be open to your life changing DRASTICALLY.” <\/strong><\/p>\n
\n“See yourself in a new light.” <\/strong><\/p>\n