Some men tend to blow things right from the start. It\u2019s not that they aren\u2019t attractive or don\u2019t know how to hold a conversation \u2013 sometimes, they just start off the wrong foot.<\/p>\n
When this happens, they\u2019ve already ruined the game by giving women a negative impression. At this point, it\u2019s usually hard (though not impossible) to change a woman\u2019s mind about you.<\/p>\n
So why not save yourself a load of trouble and learn how NOT to freak women out? Here are the essentials:<\/p>\n
#1: Don\u2019t Get Lost In Your Head<\/strong><\/p>\n When it comes to approaching women, the first step is always the hardest. That\u2019s because a lot of guys have to get over the fear of getting the ball rolling in the first place.<\/p>\n There\u2019s a deal of uncertainty involved with talking to a total stranger since it\u2019s basically walking into unfamiliar territory. This situation can make your mind go through a hundred \u201cwhat if\u201d scenarios; the more you try to play fortune teller and obsess about what\u2019s going to happen, the more likely you\u2019ll fail.<\/p>\n Eventually, you\u2019ll be so lost in your thoughts that you\u2019ll end up not talking to the girl at all. If you do work up enough nerve at this point however, you\u2019ve already hurt chances since you took too long to approach her.<\/p>\n To a woman, there\u2019s nothing more annoying (or creepier) than having a guy hang in the background, waiting for the \u201cright time\u201d to talk to her. By the time you have your long-delayed conversation, there\u2019s a serious amount of awkwardness hanging in the air.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s another related problem: even if you manage to keep the hesitation to a minimum, you can still shoot yourself in the foot if you\u2019re too busy thinking about unnecessary stuff during a conversation with a woman.<\/p>\n Aside from thinking too much about the outcome, some of the most common thoughts include:<\/p>\n \u201cGee, I really hope she likes me\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cI wonder if she\u2019s going to give me her number at the end of this conversation.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cI gotta think of something cool\/funny\/witty to say before she finishes talking\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n It\u2019s pointless to distract yourself with this kind of chatter in your head. The best way to make headway with a girl is to shut off your brain and FOCUS on what she\u2019s actually saying.<\/p>\n Paying attention is the best way to contribute something worthwhile to the conversation, so don\u2019t over-think things if you want to make some rapport.<\/p>\n #2: Hot Women Are People Too<\/strong><\/p>\n Here\u2019s a fun fact: women are often exasperated that men are too chicken to actually talk to them.<\/p>\n Usually, these guys are perfectly capable of having a decent conversation with everybody else. When it comes to talking to an attractive woman however, they get tongue-tied and mess things up because of this mental block.<\/p>\n If you find yourself in the same situation, you need to remember that the women you\u2019re attracted to don\u2019t actually have any power over you. They\u2019re people just like everyone else, even if you do want them to like you.<\/p>\n If you think that you need to talk to them differently \u2013 like your boss as opposed to your co-workers \u2013 then you\u2019ve made the game infinitely difficult for yourself. How can you ever hope to break middle ground with someone you can\u2019t perceive as an equal?<\/p>\n When you give out this kind of vibe, a woman will pick up on it. In the end, she\u2019ll unconsciously agree with your perception and have a hard time respecting you.<\/p>\n If you need some tips on how to get around this mental block and hold a decent conversation, I suggest checking this out:<\/p>\n http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/conversationchemistry\/men<\/p>\n #3: Pace Yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n Another no-no is going all-out because of all the nervous energy you\u2019ve built up from over-thinking things. Like I said, trying to predict the outcome and getting ahead of yourself is the path to failure \u2013 it only puts you on edge. Common symptoms include: hanging onto her every word, agreeing with absolutely EVERYTHING she says, and being afraid to joke around with her. All of these things indicate that you\u2019re too nervous to actually have some fun talking to her.<\/p>\n Again, this puts out an unattractive vibe that a girl can detect and make her feel uneasy. If you\u2019re having problems in this department, try to acknowledge what\u2019s going on and tell yourself, \u201cOops, I\u2019m doing it again!\u201d<\/p>\n Once you learn how to consciously identify it, you\u2019ll be able to exercise a little restraint and have enough nerve to use some humor in the conversation. Women are appreciative of guys who don\u2019t grovel at their feet \u2013 you can set yourself apart with some good-spirited banter.<\/p>\n As long as you\u2019re not making fun of her appearance or anything below the belt, then you should be fine. The important thing is that you\u2019re not jumping at every chance to get her approval.<\/p>\n If you haven\u2019t noticed by now, all of these common issues start from the same place: your head.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t forget that being successful with women has a lot to do with how you think. That\u2019s why weeding out the negative mindsets in your head will keep you from acting or talking in a way that repels women.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Some men tend to blow things right from the start. It\u2019s not that they aren\u2019t attractive or don\u2019t know how to hold a conversation \u2013 sometimes, they just start off the wrong foot. 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\nIn this frenzied state, you\u2019ll end up turning off women from looking like a needy puppy desperate for attention and approval.<\/p>\n