Every guy knows that self confidence is a basic building block for attracting women. The problem is that there is a big difference between knowing the path and actually walking it.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s not enough to be aware that you have to be confident to be appealing to women. You also have to cultivate the proper mindset to turn yourself into this kind of guy.<\/p>\n
While being more confident is a daily, on-going process, you can make a HUGE breakthrough starting today. It all begins with those first few steps you can take right now \u2013 check this out:<\/p>\n
#1: Embrace Your Imperfection<\/strong><\/p>\n One of the biggest obstacles to self-confidence is not having the right perspective. What exactly do I mean by this? Well, it all starts with the basic way you perceive yourself.<\/p>\n At some fundamental level, a lot of guys struggle with being confident because they think there is something inherently wrong with them. It\u2019s from this deep-seated belief that makes them feel awkward about themselves in some way, or think that no one would ever see them as attractive.<\/p>\n Most of the time, the way that you look \u2013 or rather, the importance you place on it \u2013 forms the core of these negative thoughts. What you have to remember is that even the guys who get a lot of dates experience a deal of self doubt.<\/p>\n The difference with these guys is that they\u2019ve trained themselves to shut off this distracting noise in their heads and manage their negative thoughts before it gets the best of them.<\/p>\n After all, it\u2019s these very things that eat away at your self-confidence.<\/p>\n If you\u2019ve read one of our previous articles before, you\u2019ll realize that while looks have a place in dating, it\u2019s not the end-all be-all to the game.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re having a hard time believing this, wrap your mind around this question:<\/p>\n Should you feel lacking in some way just because you\u2019re not the male perfect specimen?<\/p>\n Call me crazy, but I\u2019m pretty sure there are a lot of guys who are dating (or end up marrying) good-looking women even if they\u2019re not one of those airbrushed male models you see on those billboards.<\/p>\n In fact, average dudes outnumber the ridiculously good-looking ones, and yet they still manage to get hot wives or girlfriends.<\/p>\n If looks aren\u2019t the sole determining factor in getting a date, why base your level of confidence on this alone?<\/p>\n Sure, making the most of what you have is important to attract women. But feeling bad about yourself because of what you have to begin with is something else entirely.<\/p>\n #2: Go Beyond Skin Deep<\/strong><\/p>\n Aside from physical appearances, one of the other things that can undermine your confidence is believing that you need to have the charm (or money) of a rock star to attract women. On the surface, it\u2019s easy to think that flashing cash and spoiling a girl with gifts, flowers and all the other bells and whistles are a sure-fire ticket to winning her over.<\/p>\n But the fact is that all of those things are smoke and mirrors \u2013 no healthy, stable relationship needed to survive on an overabundance of material wealth.<\/p>\n I\u2019m not trying to preach here since everyone needs money to live comfortably. Then again, you can\u2019t rely on this stuff to get a date or make a girl fall for you.<\/p>\n All the external trappings of wealth are essentially a CRUTCH that you can lean on forever.<\/p>\n So as long as you\u2019re actively doing something to improve your financial situation (e.g. not living in your mom\u2019s basement or begging for change in the streets), you don\u2019t have to worry about lining your pockets with fat stacks of cash or having a Ferrari in your garage.<\/p>\n Women that use those things as the yardstick to measure a guy aren’t worth hanging out with anyway.<\/p>\n What you should concern yourself with is working on your MASCULINE qualities. I\u2019m talking about things like your sense of purpose, the ability to see things to completion and not compromising your principles just to appease someone.<\/p>\n If you need some guidance on this, I suggest you check this out:<\/p>\n