{"id":1099,"date":"2018-11-24T10:31:16","date_gmt":"2018-11-24T10:31:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/?p=1099"},"modified":"2018-11-24T10:31:16","modified_gmt":"2018-11-24T10:31:16","slug":"how-to-get-your-ex-to-chase-you-down","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/how-to-get-your-ex-to-chase-you-down\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Get Your Ex to Chase You Down"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>By Brad Browning<\/em><br \/>\n<em>From <a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">The Ex Factor Guide<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<h3><strong>If you can&#8217;t tell for sure if you&#8217;re over analyzing your ex&#8217;s behavior, then check this out&#8230;<\/strong><\/h3>\n<h3><strong><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">The Ex Factor Guide<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n<h2>How To Get Your Ex to Chase You Down (And Give Your Relationship A Second Chance)<\/h2>\n<p>Do you think that the only way to win your ex is back is by begging and pleading with them for another chance?<\/p>\n<p>If so, then think again!<\/p>\n<p>Believe it or not, the truth is that the ball doesn\u2019t have to be in your ex\u2019s court.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, there is a way to turn the tables and make it your decision to give the relationship another try.<\/p>\n<p>I know this may sound impossible but it\u2019s simply a matter of shifting power.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/251746204\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>In this article, you&#8217;ll learn about reversing the roles to get your ex to chase after you, instead of the other way around.<\/p>\n<p>First and foremost, you need to realize what is it you\u2019re actually trying to do here and that is to <strong>shift the power from your ex to you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>At the time of the breakup, your ex was in complete control.<\/p>\n<p>They were the one who made the decision to breakup presumably and you were left feeling powerless.<\/p>\n<p>So much so that at the time you would have done anything to convince them to give your relationship another shot.<\/p>\n<p>But now, since the breakup is still very much a real thing and your ex hasn\u2019t come crawling back, it\u2019s time for you to put yourself in a position of power.<\/p>\n<p>And to do this, you\u2019re going to need to accomplish three things:<\/p>\n<p><strong>#1. You\u2019re going to turn the tables<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>#2. You\u2019re going to remove your ex\u2019s safety net and<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>#3. You\u2019re going to make them chase you<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>So, let\u2019s get started by talking about:<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Step #1. The Disappearing Act<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>To put it simply, in order to turn the tables, you\u2019re going to have to show your ex you no longer need them in your life.<\/p>\n<p>The way to do this is to cut off all communication with them for about 30 days.<\/p>\n<p>This disappearing act, which is also commonly referred to as the <strong>\u201c<a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">No Contact Period<\/a>&#8220;<\/strong> will not only surprise your ex but it\u2019ll also force them to start missing you.<\/p>\n<p>Since they expect you to go running after them, doing the opposite of this will make them confused and insecure.<\/p>\n<p>Rather than begging your ex for a second chance, the message you are sending is loud and clear: <strong>You don\u2019t need them, you are strong and you are okay finding someone new.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t panic, this doesn\u2019t actually have to be <em>how you feel<\/em>, but it\u2019s important your ex thinks this is the case.<\/p>\n<p>The more time that passes without communication, the harder it will be for your ex to fight the feelings of longing and nostalgia.<\/p>\n<p>Since you haven\u2019t been in contact, all the negative memories that caused the breakup in the first place are gonna be replaced with positive memories and this will cause your ex to have second thoughts about the breakup.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Step #2. How To Remove Their Safety Net<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Depending on how you and your ex broke up, they may have told you that they want to stay friends.<\/p>\n<p>And this gesture may have seemed like it was in good intentions, but the real reason for your ex wanting this is simple: They wanted to keep you around as plan \u201cB\u201d in case they later decide to take you back because the single life wasn\u2019t quite as glamorous as they hoped.<\/p>\n<p>This is something you <strong>cannot<\/strong> allow to happen.<\/p>\n<p>In order to shift the <strong>balance of power<\/strong> into your favor, you need to clearly indicate to your ex that <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">they must choose<\/span> between being in a romantic relationship with you or not having you in their life at all.<\/p>\n<p>By agreeing to \u201cbe friends\u201d or remaining in contact with your ex, you\u2019re basically just agreeing to be their safety net and you\u2019re allowing them to slowly adjust to life without you by their side.<\/p>\n<p>If your ex does try to contact you, and they probably will at some point during this phase, this gives you the opportunity to show them that you\u2019re calling the shots now.<\/p>\n<p>Although you\u2019ve cut off communication with your ex, when they come calling it\u2019s important to be calm, cool and collected.<\/p>\n<p>Be sure to keep the conversation short and be the one to end the call.<\/p>\n<p>Doing this will show your ex that you\u2019re moving on and better yet, when they see you\u2019re unfazed by the thought of life without them, they\u2019ll realize that breaking up with you was a big mistake.<\/p>\n<p>Again, it\u2019s all about making sure your ex know that you\u2019re moving on to bigger and better things unless they decide to wake up and take you back.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Step #3. Wait for your ex to begin chasing after you<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>As I just mentioned, by employing steps one and two properly, you\u2019re showing your ex that you\u2019re fine without them and that you won\u2019t be their \u201cplan B.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And as time passes, the more desperate your ex is going to become.<\/p>\n<p>As the fear of losing you grows, they\u2019ll step up their attempts to spend time with you and talk with you.<\/p>\n<p>Once your ex begins showing more interest in you, remember that you shouldn\u2019t jump the gun.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be too eager to talk about your relationship again, don\u2019t tell them that you\u2019ve missed them and don\u2019t tell them that you want them back.<\/p>\n<p>Remember, you\u2019re still trying to hold on to the power you\u2019ve just gained, so don\u2019t let that go.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s not to say that you should decline if your ex asks to hang out with you again. After all, that\u2019s an important step towards winning them back.<\/p>\n<p>But don\u2019t seem too excited or get ahead of yourself and give back all the power to your ex right away, take it slow and apply the techniques I\u2019ve outlined in my <a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\"><strong>Ex Factor Program<\/strong><\/a> to build attraction and turn a simple \u2018hangout\u2019 into a new, stronger relationship.<\/p>\n<h3><strong><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">Video: Secrets To Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1423\" src=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/women\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/MYS-GetYourExBoyfriend.jpg\" alt=\"Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back\" width=\"933\" height=\"420\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Brad Browning From The Ex Factor Guide If you can&#8217;t tell for sure if you&#8217;re over analyzing your ex&#8217;s behavior, then check this out&#8230; The Ex Factor Guide How To Get Your Ex to&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":679,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[21,23,22],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1099","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-tips","category-get-your-ex-back","category-relationship-advice"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1099","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1099"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1099\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1113,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1099\/revisions\/1113"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/679"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1099"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1099"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1099"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}