{"id":1071,"date":"2018-07-31T22:58:12","date_gmt":"2018-07-31T22:58:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/?p=1071"},"modified":"2018-07-31T22:58:12","modified_gmt":"2018-07-31T22:58:12","slug":"how-to-respond-to-your-exs-text-messages","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/how-to-respond-to-your-exs-text-messages\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Respond to Your Ex\u2019s Text Messages"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>By Brad Browning<\/em><br \/>\n<em>From <a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">The Ex Factor Guide<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<h3><strong>If you can&#8217;t tell for sure if you&#8217;re over analyzing your ex&#8217;s behavior, then check this out&#8230;<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\">The Ex Factor Guide<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n<h2>How to Respond to Your Ex\u2019s Text Messages<\/h2>\n<p>So, you want your ex back but you don\u2019t know what to say to them.<\/p>\n<p>You ponder and ponder and ponder but you\u2019re drawing blanks.<\/p>\n<p>And then suddenly, out of the blue you get a text message or email from your ex.<\/p>\n<p>Your heart races, but you just don\u2019t have the faintest clue what to say to them.<\/p>\n<p>So, what do you do? What can you say to them that will make him or her want to give your relationship a second chance? Well, today you\u2019re in luck.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/258152985\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Today, I\u2019ll teach you exactly how to respond to your ex to ensure you have the best possible chance of rekindling that spark and getting a second chance.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ll also discuss a little bit about what I call the \u201cNo Contact\u201d period and why it\u2019s one of the most important tools to use directly after a breakup, along with several other useful post-breakup tips.<\/p>\n<p>Now it\u2019s important to keep things in perspective.<\/p>\n<p>Just because your ex messaged you does NOT mean he or she wants to get back together right away.<\/p>\n<p>There is a myriad of reasons why your ex needs to get in contact with you, so don\u2019t overreact and keep your cool.<\/p>\n<p>For now, your goal is to simply establish positive rapport with your ex.<\/p>\n<p>Remember, there\u2019s no \u201csecret sentence\u201d that you can say to fix things and establish a new, healthy relationship with your ex right now. Getting your ex back will most likely take some time.<\/p>\n<p><strong>So without further ado, here are 5 tips to help you respond to your ex\u2019s text messages.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3><strong>#1. Don\u2019t reply right away<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>If you\u2019re responding to your ex\u2019s text messages within seconds, you\u2019ll look like you\u2019re desperately waiting for your ex to contact you.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, for now wait an hour or more to reply to your ex\u2019s text messages.<\/p>\n<p>Or if your ex calls, don\u2019t be afraid to let the call go to voicemail and then call them back later.<\/p>\n<p>The goal here\u2019s to regain the power that you\u2019ve lost during the breakup by showing your ex that you\u2019re completely over him or her.<\/p>\n<p>Now obviously, don\u2019t make it seem too obvious that you\u2019re purposely delaying your replies or ignoring your ex, it has to look natural so mix it up a little bit and keep your ex guessing.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>#2. Always sound upbeat and positive<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>This one\u2019s pretty self-explanatory, but I see a lot of my clients try to incite an argument or cause drama as soon as they\u2019re in contact with their ex again.<\/p>\n<p>I can tell you that there\u2019s nothing less attractive to your ex than starting another war with him or her.<\/p>\n<p>So remember, never try and confront your ex about your past relationship, don\u2019t ask who they\u2019ve been dating. Do NOT ask them for a second chance just yet.<\/p>\n<p>I know it\u2019ll be difficult for some of you to do, but this is very important right now.<\/p>\n<p>I mean, put yourself in your ex\u2019s shoes for just a minute, do you want to talk to a person that\u2019s constantly trying to stir the pot? Obviously not.<\/p>\n<p>People generally want to be surrounded with happy, positive people so do your best to be that kind of person.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>#3. Show your ex that you\u2019re keeping busy<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Not only do you need to sound positive and upbeat but you need to convey to him or her that you only have a limited amount of time.<\/p>\n<p>If you always seem available to chat, it might look like that you have no life or that you haven\u2019t been able to do anything since the breakup.<\/p>\n<p>A huge part of making your ex want you again is to display what I call \u201cAttractive Characteristics.<\/p>\n<p>One of the most \u201cAttractive Characteristics\u201d you can portray is to always be busy and look like you have a life.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>#4. Keep your messages brief.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>To start, you want to keep all interactions with your ex as brief as possible.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t mean you know, be curt or rude, but don\u2019t bend over backwards to tell your ex everything that\u2019s going on in your life.<\/p>\n<p>By doing that, you might blow it and your ex may get an inkling that you miss him or her so don\u2019t let that happen.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, send short messages with interesting questions to keep the conversation going.<\/p>\n<p>And if your ex is sending you short messages, make sure you don\u2019t give in and force a conversation.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re busy too, remember? You can always initiate a more meaningful conversation another time.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>#5. Finally, make sure you\u2019re the one to end the conversation<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Remember, in order to take the power back between you and your ex, you need to be the one calling the shots.<\/p>\n<p>You need to be the one in control.<\/p>\n<p>That means that you need to begin and end conversations on your terms.<\/p>\n<p>So once you feel like the conversation is about to go dull or sour, then quickly say that you have some plans with a few friends later and then tell them to text you tomorrow or something like that.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t have to say anything more or anything less, just keep it simple and move on.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, this isn\u2019t an exhaustive list of tips on how you can respond to your ex\u2019s text messages but those five are a great start.<\/p>\n<p>I know, you\u2019re probably brimming with questions at this point. So, if you want advice that\u2019s been proven over years and years of research, and if you&#8217;re interested in learning some more covert psychological strategies that are going to help get your ex back into your arms then check this out&#8230;<\/p>\n<h2><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\"><strong>Video: Secrets To Getting Your Ex Back<\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/brad\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1042\" src=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/MM-Ex-Factor.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"933\" height=\"420\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/MM-Ex-Factor.jpg 933w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/MM-Ex-Factor-300x135.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/MM-Ex-Factor-768x346.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/MM-Ex-Factor-640x288.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 933px) 100vw, 933px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Brad Browning From The Ex Factor Guide If you can&#8217;t tell for sure if you&#8217;re over analyzing your ex&#8217;s behavior, then check this out&#8230; The Ex Factor Guide How to Respond to Your Ex\u2019s&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1077,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[23,22],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1071","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-get-your-ex-back","category-relationship-advice"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1071","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1071"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1071\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1078,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1071\/revisions\/1078"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1077"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1071"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1071"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.meetysweet.com\/men\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1071"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}